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Off the Grid/Homesteading Skills:  Take In Someone Else's Child  |
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FarmDream
True Blue Farmgirl
1085 Posts
Julie
TX
USA
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 Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 12:19:13 AM
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Could you? Would you?
To me, this is part of preparedness. Not everyone will think of this. Have you? What are your thoughts? Any advice.
~FarmDream is Farmgirl Sister #3069
Live Today, Cherish Yesterday, Dream Tomorrow
http://naturaljulie.etsy.com
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22745 Posts
Alee
Billings
MT Sister # 8
USA
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GirlwithHook
True Blue Farmgirl
879 Posts
Alyce
Madison
WI
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 06:31:58 AM
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Yes. I don't care what the Mister says.
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 08:17:44 AM
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You mean temporarily or in an emergency? I have adopted 4 of my kids through foster care and I still feel like YES I would do it all over again. I always have room for more kids.
Jenny in Utah
Proud Farmgirl sister #24
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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forgetmenot
True Blue Farmgirl
1378 Posts
Judith
Nora Springs
IA
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 09:30:49 AM
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Someone took me in..of course, I would have to take in a child.
Farmgirl sister #3926
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the belief that something is more important than fear." Ambrose Red Moon |
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1710 Posts
angela
morgantown
indiana
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 09:58:54 AM
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My parents raised lots of foster kids and a few that they took from abusive parents without foster cares help. Many of them I still talk to and call my sisters and brothers.
Hubby and I took in a friend of my oldest DD after her dad died for nearly a year.
I would in a heartbeat agian.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1158 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 1:14:33 PM
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without even thinking about it, and the rest of the family also if they need shelter and food...for as long as need be...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
3777 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 1:47:51 PM
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Definitely! We fostered and we've always taken in friends and family when they've needed help. It has opened up our hearts and lives in ways we could never have imagined. Our lives are more full and our family is so much bigger than we ever dreamed possible. We are very grateful! What questions do you have, Julie? Maybe more specific answers would be helpful to you! Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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Netty
True Blue Farmgirl
379 Posts
Lynette
Hardy
Nebraska
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 5:14:08 PM
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Yes I have opened my house to my husbands side niece, and she has a learning disability and everyone said she couldn't work, drive or take care of herself. A women in our church was a retired teacher so we asked her if she would tutor our niece, of course she said yes. I taught her how to drive, so to make a long story short she is in her own home, drives and has 2 kids and doing well. Sure she still needs help at times and I am here to help her when needed.
It is very satisfing to help someone that is in need. I would do it over in a minute if I would need to. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of trials and tribulations with taking someone in. Just don't change your house rules, my neice had to live by our rules just like our kids.
As Nini said, do you have certain questions you would like to ask, if so ask away and I am sure everyone would answer the best they can, |
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Ingrid
True Blue Farmgirl
402 Posts
Ingrid
BC
Canada
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Posted - Apr 10 2012 : 7:07:00 PM
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In a heartbeat.
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
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N@n
True Blue Farmgirl
222 Posts
Hackett
Arkansas
USA
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Posted - Apr 11 2012 : 06:02:23 AM
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The need for foster homes is so great right now. If anyone can open their homes to children that need a safe place to live, please pursue it. We have done so in the past but due to age and health problems are no longer able to. It is such important work to do. Contact your local DHS and get qualified if you feel led to do so. These children are much in need of a good example and you could fill a huge void in their lives. Sometimes these kids are amazed that they get to take a bath every day or that there is food always available for them to eat. It breaks your heart to know that so many children are without the basics for life, let alone a safe, loving home. Please consider opening your home. You will be blessed.
keep searchin'-it's out there somewhere. |
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pennyhenny
True Blue Farmgirl
304 Posts
Missy
Dayton
OH
USA
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Posted - Apr 11 2012 : 07:16:38 AM
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Yes YES YES YES YES YES.
hugs,
-missy-
http://citychickblogging.blogspot.com/
Sisterhood Member#4003
Happiness held is the seed; Happiness shared is the flower.
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batznthebelfry
True Blue Farmgirl
1195 Posts
Michele
Athol
Ma
USA
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Posted - Apr 11 2012 : 10:51:46 AM
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Growing up in an ophorage I know what its like to feel like you belong no where, being placed in foster homes where they don't really want you but do it for the money & get rid of you just cause they can...its a threat you never get over so I would say yes I would help out anyway i can with a child or children who are in need.....plus now that I am older my nerves can withstand all the craziness of kids.....i used to be a teacher to At Risk high school kids & I loved it since i understood them better than alot of the teachers did who had normal lives growing up........If any disaster occurred here in this town I wouldn't think twice about pulling in kids who need a safe, secure place to be & to have love for as long as they needed it........plus my home is so low key they would never feel that threat of not belonging.........Michele'
Chickens rule!
The Old Batz Farm
Hen #2622
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
671 Posts
Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - Apr 11 2012 : 5:17:58 PM
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My parents never legally fostered children. There were 4 or 5 kids that my parents took in because the parents were having trouble with them or they were abandoned as teenagers. Yes, I would but there would be house rules as there is with my son. They could go back to their parents homes at anytime. Their parents would still have say over their children. I would never go through the state to foster children. I know of a 3y/o that had been through 10 foster homes in his short life. How fair is that to a child? All politics aside, every child does deserve a chance. If I can make another childs life better I will but it will be on the agreement with my husband, the childs parent(s) and the child.
Patience is worth a bushel of brains...from a chinese fortune cookie |
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batznthebelfry
True Blue Farmgirl
1195 Posts
Michele
Athol
Ma
USA
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Posted - Apr 12 2012 : 05:52:27 AM
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Lorena I sure understand what you are saying & agree it must be something the whole family is willing to do...one thing you stated that hurt me was that a poor 3 yr old had had 10 foster homes...thats just so sad....the problem with foster homes is alot of people want the idea of having/helping a child but then the problems start & they can't cope with it & the foster care system doesn't know or want to deal with the problem child so they just move it over & over hoping someone will work with the child.......So many have good hearts but never realize the child/baby they are getting may be bi-polar,ADD, drug addicted baby,damaged from beatings or mental abuse, or has been ignored its whole life so the child acts out sometimes very dangerously.......& have never learned to bond with anyone......the foster care system alot of times will not tell the new parents all the facts to prepare them or how to work with that child so it creates a awful start for them & the child......So many just give up not realizing what it is doing to the child & that creates more problems for the child in the next home & next home until no one wants that child & they become throw away children in a sense.....I went thur 3 foster homes...1st family was a mental ill woman & husband who should have never gotten foster kids in the 1st place....She had been raped, beaten & left for dead in her early 20's & was never the same after but they allowed her to be a foster parent...the 2nd one the foster mother got double breast cancer & I had to leave within 6 months...now they were good people & for me it was hard to go but I understood since my mother had died of breast cancer.....my 3rd & last one was a couple with 2 grade school kids of their own & they were in their early 30's & had no idea what to do with a moody 14 yr old who lived in fear of being sent away again.......but they figured out I needed help & pushed the foster care system to help me...I was put on anti-depressants which helped alot but at that time they didn't know about bi-polar so no one knew how to help me with my anger but they at least tried instead of dumping me...there was times i put them thur hell but they really tried to be good parents & now in my 50's I am thankful they fought to help me........Its a shame when a caseworker has a caseload of 100 or more kids & can't find the time to help them all the way they want to...until the system gets it together & helps the caseworkers this type of moving will continue & we will have more kids out there angry, depressed & feeling like no one cares....Michele'
Chickens rule!
The Old Batz Farm
Hen #2622
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
671 Posts
Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - Apr 12 2012 : 06:13:32 AM
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Oh, Michele. I couldn't imagine what you've been through or anyone else in your position for that matter. I'm glad that your last home was more positive and that you've gotten the help you needed. I do understand that there are other things going on when a family brings in another child, like you described. It just seems like society (in general and no person in particular because there are good people out there who love their children and would never abandon them) wants the easy way out of things and when things get tough, they run and hide and cry "well what about me" instead of standing up for what is right regardless of the severity of the situation and their own selfishness. It angers me that this society has become a throw away society. Throw away your marriage if it's tough (abuse is a different matter), throw away your child if he/she becomes unruley, throw away your job if the boss is breathing down your neck or it doesn't pay enough, along with the attitude "Oh the government will take care of the problem." That's not the govenrments job. No, I'm not foolish. Yes there are those who absolutely cannot take care of themselve. I'm not blind. But it's about time adults started acting like adults and not teenagers. Sorry for the rant. If I offended anyone, I apologize for that too. It just hurts to see this take place and other than jumping through senseless government hoops, there is not much that a person can do. You know, my sister and brother in law would make excellent parents. The state of S. Dakota will not let them adopt because of my BIL's age (he's currently in his 50's my sister just turned 40). He was in his mid 40's when they looked into it and they weren't about to go through foster care because of the gov. hoops. My youngest brother also looked into adoption when he was married, but for what ever reason, he and his wife at the time were also denied. Sickens me what a person has to go through to take care of the children that need homes.
Patience is worth a bushel of brains...from a chinese fortune cookie |
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