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| LisaTwo |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 8:01:40 PM
I want a dog. My husband does not. I have a cat, four goats, 25-30 chickens, 8 turkeys, 3 ducks and bees. Which is lovely, but I really want a dog. I am a stay-at-home mom only because our boys are disabled and need 24-hour care. I also work two or three at home jobs to pay my share of the bills, keep a garden, tend my animals, keep a so-so clean house and everything else we girls do. I don't have a lot of friends. I can't leave my boys with a baby sitter and go have a girls night out like most of my old friends so they've drifted off. So I want a dog. If he was allergic or if we were starving or if it was going to hurt our family I would not do it, but that's not the case. So I am getting a damn dog. I think. NO, I am. Or should I just forget it?
What would you do?
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| katalind |
Posted - Jul 18 2010 : 10:38:48 AM
Oops, I didn't read far enough down to see you already got a dog. Congratulations, he's as cute as a button. You and your family are going to have so much fun having him around. |
| katalind |
Posted - Jul 18 2010 : 10:35:20 AM
You should definitely get a dog. Dog's are wonderful, loyal companions, and are very therapeutic. I bet after you get the dog it won't take long before your husband becomes attached to him.
I hope you'll go check out your local shelter for a dog. They know that your their last chance and if you pick them they will be forever grateful. |
| sherrye |
Posted - Jul 17 2010 : 1:33:14 PM
oh jake is so lucky to have you. such happy days for you all. yipee. he is soooo very cute. he will be so dedicated to his boys i know for sure. since him and dad are friends the boys will be a natural. happy days sherrye
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Jul 17 2010 : 12:17:45 PM
Oh Lisa:
Such a sight, such a beautiful face. I am just so happy for all of you. It is so darn refreshing to read such a happy ending story. And a true one!!!!!!
Jake is a handsome puppy. Now, you've got to post pictures of him growing up. We'll all grow up with him! Thanks for sharing with us.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
| Karrieann |
Posted - Jul 17 2010 : 08:28:34 AM
LOL such a happy Jake... he knows that he won the lottery with the family that he got! His breed is perfect for your home!
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| Mama Jewel |
Posted - Jul 17 2010 : 08:05:03 AM
Oh my goodness lol, that is the *cutest* face. What a love!!
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| LisaTwo |
Posted - Jul 17 2010 : 04:39:38 AM
How could you resist this face?
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| Lin |
Posted - Jul 16 2010 : 9:31:04 PM
Oh my gosh Lisa, that brought tears to my eyes!! I am SSSOOO happy for all of you and especially for little Jake! What a lucky pup he is!!! Hugs and puppy slobbers, Lin
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| Mama Jewel |
Posted - Jul 16 2010 : 6:33:34 PM
Lisa!! I'm so happy I have tears in my eyes! What a great visual you gave re: Jake & your hubs. Big hugs to you & your new pup --I can tell already this doggy is very much loved 
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jul 16 2010 : 5:43:42 PM
Yay Lisa!! Those are great dogs. I am so happy for you. And your hubby. Sounds like he caved big time! And that dog will have plenty to do and lots of kids to "herd". I want one also. I am going to get some lambs and will need help with them. He could also herd cows and goats.
Kris
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| 1badmamawolf |
Posted - Jul 16 2010 : 5:23:57 PM
Lisa, I am soooooooo happy for you and your not dog wanting husband,lol !!! I am sure your kids will be well loved by "Jake", and a border collie is a great pick, congrads girl...
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| LisaTwo |
Posted - Jul 16 2010 : 4:42:10 PM
Thanks so much for all your advice and stories. They really helped. We got a border collie puppy today. I still have goosebumps, I am so excited. I would have gotten a rescue dog in a heartbeat, but up here in Maine we have pretty strict breeding laws or rules or whatever and there are not many dogs at the humane society unless they eat cats and/or little children. My rationale is that THIS dog will never end up in a shelter, he will be loved and trained and did I mention LOVED.
AND-guess where he is right now? With hubby down in his shop. I came home, put his little puppy self on the floor and he walked over and licked hubby's hand. I said I wouldn't tell a soul, but I saw misty eyes and the next thing I knew he had named him Jake and they went out the door to explore the farm. HA! Umm, wait, I think I just lost my puppy...
Anywho...thanks so much again I just loved reading everyone's comments and just look what you did!
Smiles,
Lisa
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| Mama Jewel |
Posted - Jul 15 2010 : 07:33:52 AM
Lisa, big hugs, my farm sister!! I vote to get a dog, too! I have 3 sp needs kids (4 kids total) & like you, can't get a babysitter & don't have time & really no friends (other than virtual as it's easier to "visit" when you can pop on/off the computer at a moment's notice). My littlest has high anxiety/OCD and goes to a dev ctr to help him with regulation (as he stops breathing if he's injured or gets emotionally upset or something's not done right, the OCD part)... Anyway, we have a rescue dog (a Daschund/Jack Russell mix) and she has been the best dog for him. We call her Nana Lulu because she has treated him like one of her pups ever since he was a baby. She will lay across him like a weighted blanket and has this great calming effect on him. Really very sweet. I think everyone in your family will benefit from having a dog around... they're loyal, funny & great for security. BTW, if you ever want a friend to talk with, I'm here
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Jul 15 2010 : 05:18:42 AM
I am on board with you getting a dog. I sure hope you look into a shelter or rescue animal. I belong to a rescue group and we have placed over 47 dogs in 6 months. A lot of rescue groups, like mine, use foster dog parents so they know how the dog acts in the home environment and they usually have all the vet stuff done and even some training. I wish you luch in finding the right one. I know the dog would become a member of the family and be great for your sons.
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| 1badmamawolf |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 7:25:43 PM
Lisa, I would like to tell you a story about my oldest G/son, he is 11 and blind and autistic. He panics around loud strange voices. My D-in-law is at the park with him, some boys were talking real loud and Roger put his hands over his ears and started screaming, as his Moma is trying to calm him down, and those boys are yelling louder and making fun, a 8 week old (?) puppy walks over and sits next to Roger and start howling her little heart out, and Roger stops screaming and listens, then the pup stops howling and crawls into Rogers lap and goes to sleep. My D-in-Law asks everyone around if its their pup, and no one claims her. She takes her home and continues to look for her owner, and in the mean time she has a magical effect on Roger, he gets upset and she howls, he gets quiet and so does she. That was about a year ago, and "WEBBLE" is the best therapy Roger has ever had, they are like velcro, and she has been ok'd to even go to school with him. Oh, and she weighs all of 4 lbs.
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| 36paws20hooves |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 6:40:18 PM
I agree with Kristin and Heather. The dog would be a great asset to the boys and how could your hubby say NO to them.
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| Heather B |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 10:32:21 AM
Dogs are a great addition for special needs children. They can help them feel more independant, comfort them, detect issues and just be a friend. So with that said I think a good arguement for having a dog in your situation would be "it would be good for the children". And remember, rescue dogs make good buddies!
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| Faransgirl |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 09:32:51 AM
Get the dog. My husband claims he hates dogs but we have 5. I wanted a Great Dane but he kept saying no so my daughter brought one over "just until we find it a new home" and finally he said "I" could keep it. She now lays under his feet all day and follows him everywhere. She is now "his" dog. See if you can find out why he doesn't want a dog. Maybe it would be easier to work from there. Could he be afraid of them. Some men are but they don't want anyone to know it.
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| Annab |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 03:34:31 AM
Will this animal be a family member or outside fixture?
Pup or adult?
Is there a particular breed you have your heart set on?
As a kid I had always wanted a dog, and made that 20 year dream a reality when I finally had the time and space and was not in a small apartment.
I think we'll always have one. You just can't beat that kind of loyalty. And a happy greeting at the end of a hard day really is a stress buster
Best wishes on what ever you decide!
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 11:03:42 PM
I can't imagine life without a dog (or two) so I am totally on board with team "get a dog".
Jenny in Utah
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| Alee |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 10:08:07 PM
I agree that you should get a dog but I think you really need to get husband atleast partially on board. Doug and I got a dog for me when I was desperatly homesick and needing a friend when we lived in Moscow. He never really wanted the dog, but he wanted me to be happy. We picked her out together and he does love her- but certainly not in the same way I love her. She is very much "my" dog. We have had some fights over her and sometimes he says he wants to get rid of her. (Uhm no- we adopted her and made a LIFETIME commitment). If he hadn't agreed first we probably would have been divorced over it long ago. I know that might sound silly but I feel that if you are willing to fudge on some commitments it asks too much of a person. It would be like asking me to give up a child, really!
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| Lin |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 9:10:35 PM
Wow, Lisa, you're quite a gal!! You've got a full day, each and every day, and you so want a dog, even with all you do, so I say, it's a "meant to be"! A dog for your sons would be the bonus, but as all have pointed out, may take a few tries to find the right match for your life! You go girl and I'm sure your husband will come around. There are so many dogs that need loving homes. You're a stay at home mom, so caring for the dog is not an issue. My daughter (is 13) wants another dog so badly. We lost our Golden Retriever several years ago to a heart attack and we miss her terribly, but we have since rescued 3 inside-only cats, I'm divorced and work full time so to add a dog at this point would be difficult. My daughter has Aspergers, so a dog would be so therapeutic for her, but I have to be sure any dog we get would be a match for our life and right for the dog. It sounds to me like a dog for you would fit in very nicely!!! You'll do the right thing! By the way, I lived in Maine for 4 years!!! I miss it! Hugs and Smiles, Lin
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 9:08:19 PM
Just a note: in frontier times, dogs were often used as baby sitters for young kids when momma was busy doing chores. The number one breed of choice for looking after kids were the Staffordshire terrier-types. They were gentle with the young ones and also fiercely protective of them. And if a wild animal came prowling around, they were more than able to handle it. There are many breeds that are qualified, but the trick is finding that special individual. And often, it's a mixed-breed. Best wishes in finding that special dog--your boys will come to think of him/her as a sibling.
cindy
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| natesgirl |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 9:07:21 PM
If you really researched it I am sure there are service dogs that are trained for helping the disabled that are given to families of lesser incomes. You could do the research, find the organization, be paired to a dog, and then tell Hubby you figured it was better than the assistance monkeys that they have! LOL! I'm sure Hubby wouldn't mind the dog so much then!
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| DvilleMama |
Posted - Jul 13 2010 : 8:53:52 PM
I don't know anything about these organizations but what about looking into a trained service dog? These are dogs that have been trained specifically to help people with disabilities. The dogs that are chosen are the ones with the Omega personalities...it goes Alpha, Beta, Omega. In the wild, the Omega's are the ones who get kicked out of a pack or worse because their personalities are so docile. Even if the dog is not from an organization, if possible, it's best to find one with an Omega personality just because they are such gentle creatures. Blessings to you on this journey. I keep bringing in strays even when my husband says no. We have 4 cats & 2 dogs. He's fallen in love with all of them & hasn't divorced me yet...in spite of his not wanting "another mouth to feed". There's hope for you!! Good luck!
Lyn
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