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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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 Posted - Jul 06 2008 : 07:46:22 AM
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I hate to do this in a public way but this may be the only way I can get my money for the swaps I did over 3 months ago. For the 2 people who owe me money and keep telling me the checks in the mail, I am giving you until this coming Friday to mail off a check or money order before I turn you into the Farmgirl office. I have sent off many emails and have gotten no responses over the past 2 weeks. This may seem a bit forward and I hate to tarnish the boards but I think if you make a fair swap for something and owe someone money, you should honor that exchange. Either that, or send back the goods you purchased. Farmgirl sisterhood is about being honest and fair to your sisters and I would hate to think someone is not honoring that. If you need my addy again, I will gladly send it to you. No more excuses ladies...let's get this done.
Thank you.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Hideaway Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1553 Posts
Jo
Virginia
USA
1553 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 11:47:27 AM
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Whew, you tell 'em, Heather!
Hope your tardy farmgirls get their acts together and straighten up with you! I've only had one trade go bad in the many I've done; and it's sad when it happens.
Jo
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 12:00:46 PM
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Thanks Jo!!! I wouldn't have posted here but I haven't heard from my 2 trades in over a month and nothing in the mail. I think that is in poor farmgirl spirit. Either pay up or send your goods back.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
FARMGIRL #90 |
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Hideaway Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1553 Posts
Jo
Virginia
USA
1553 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 12:13:47 PM
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Hey, a month isn't too bad; but wait, the original trades were over three months ago...that's kind of lame, even though I know "stuff" happens. I sure hope things work out for you.
Jo
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 12:14:38 PM
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Well that was 1 month after the 2 month trade mark...so that makes 3...does that make sense??? HA!!!
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 2:30:15 PM
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ya know, honey-doo .. i've had a few times when i didn't get paid for dollies or treasures i sent (remember .. i send to a lot more than jus' farmgurlz though). i jus' always hope that i have sent what was asked for .. i'm real trusting and send stuff before i ever cash (or sometimes even GET a check for it). i do take a long time to send stuff sometimes ... but i almost always tuck extra treasures into the boxes i send .. if it's a SWAP though .. i do write to my swap partner if something is holding me back .. and have gotten 'please give me more time e-mails too'.
a coupla' times (right 'chere gurlfrenz) i didn't get paid and didn't get any responses to very nice e-mail reminder-ettes that i send about once a month. i honestly even choose to forget WHO it is or was.
i have decided that when that happens .. it's jus' STUFF .. and i am positive that my friends don't do these things intentionally .. they might be having some really BAD STUFF happening at home .. and i jus' consider it a 'gift' .. that way .. it truly doesn't bother me a bit.
i do understand how you feel though. i'm sure this will all work out for you. there is almost always a 'good reason'.
for instance .. before i left for toledo for SIX weeks .. i posted on all my boards and sent an e-mail to all my true friends list .. i really honestly knew of ONE doll that had not been sent .. it had been ordered just before i left .. but told the friend that i would be back in a month or two and wouldn't cash her check. another friend ordered some aprons .. i put three extra freebie ones in the box too. i don't think she knew i wasn't home .. cuz' i couldn't send out e-mails on my laptop .. but was posting on the farmgirl forum.
well, when i got home .. i brought grandson and two little guy friends joined us for most of the week of fun and frolic. so i didn't even take the time to look for them.
meanwhile, she sent her check while i was in toledo. HA! honey man was in charge of the mail .. and i'm not sure i got everything that came. had a big pile .. didn't even look at it until after lucas had gone back home. i can't find it anywhere since being back .. and i just looked at my 'mailed list' and it shows that i mailed the package (minus a beautiful linen that i had forgotten to put into the box) .. but it has not arrived at her home either. now, either my 'list' is wrong with the mailing date .. (i have been known to head out the door to the post office, write in my 'log' the mailing date .. only to discover the boxes in the back of the van a week later!!!) i'm hoping i didn't carry these to toledo!!! but anyhoo ... this week will be spent looking under, over, in, around and through everything i own in attempt to find that box (and checkie).
no bad intentions meant .. and she has been VERY patient. but that's what we do for and with friends .. jus' be patient and understanding. soo ... sweetie .. if you don't get what's owed you .. jus' honestly don't let it bother you too much .. you will get an extra blessing somewhere else in your life i do believe!
hope all this makes you feel a little better.
p.s. if you send my your addy .. i'll send along one of those little 'blessings' i promised happens. hugs, frannie
True Friends * Frannie
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ruralfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
4309 Posts
Rene'
Prosser
WA
USA
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Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 3:52:32 PM
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Frannie,
I love your wisdom and heart....I think I will call you "grace"... or better yet.. I will now use the word Frannie instead of Grace....I hope I always show the amount of "Frannie" that I want to be shown... How is that?
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl #185
" Plant goodness, harvest the fruit of loyalty, plow the new ground of knowledge. Hosea 10:12 |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 4:13:00 PM
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Ms. Frannie, I understand falling behind and being a little short but when someone tells you the checks in the mail, assuring you they have paid for it, then that is what I would expect. I would forget it accept it was clear that the money I was making was for something really nice for my son. It break my heart that I can't get him his gift yet. That is all.
Thanks for the input and it is taken well...I just wish people wouldn't make trades or offers when they can't afford it or where never intending to pay for it in the first place. That is not very Farmgirl like. Maybe I lack grace, but that is how I am truly feeling. Usually, I would forgive and forget, but I am relying on this large amount of money.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jul 07 2008 : 9:46:22 PM
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thanks rene .. you're a sweetie-pie .. i guess i've just learned as i've travelled this road in life .. that i if get keflummoxed .. i'm the one i'm hurting.
sweet heather .. i do understand. i was thinking it was more of a swap and not BIG money. needing your pennies is surely not lacking in any grace. i do hope the gurlz who owe you will be able to pay you real soon. hugs
True Friends * Frannie
adopt a 'rag-chile'
http://sistermercysfoundlinhome.blogspot.com
treasures .. new and olde .. http://mudpiemanormercantile.blogspot.com
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Jul 10 2008 : 9:12:27 PM
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I respect your feelings, but I was on the other end of a similar situation here. I entered the swap and then several things that I do not feel comfortable sharing publicly (which is saying alot since I've shared here about losing my job, etc). I won't go into any more detail other than that my emotional state was at the lowest it had ever been. There were days I truly could barely make myself get out of bed. I did the best I could in the circumstances, and everyone finally got their stuff. I asked for patience and shared what I felt I could about why it was taking me so long, and for the most part everyone was very nice -- at least to me. However, one lady was absolutely horrid, accusing me of being a thief and other things. I found out later, from someone else in the swap, that she made accusations about me to others in the swap as well.
Long story short -- I'm with Frannie on this. You have no idea what a person might be going through, what they might be too embarrassed to share with you. I would rather lose out of something in a swap than lose my compassion for other people.
By the way, I don't chime in often here anymore but when I saw this I couldn't help myself.
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 11 2008 : 04:37:45 AM
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I completely understand what you are all saying but when someone tells you and promises you that payment is in the mail and sorry for the inconvenience, you believe them. I don't think I am lacking compassion at all. If someone can't pay me, let's work another way of doing it out, just let me know. Being that I heard NOTHING from these people over the past month only to now have no contact with one person, I think is lacking in compassion on their part. There was no asking for patience and understanding or even a hey can I have a little more time, I am having problems right now. It was straight forward check is in the mail. We all rely on each other to be honest and to lean on when things get tough. Don't say you are going to do something and then disappear and say nothing at all about it. There are 2 sides to every story and people are seeming to forget I've got a little boy here waiting on a present that I promised him in March. I am not rich. I do these swaps to declutter, make a little pocket change and hopefully, someone find somethnig they like. Large amounts of money are not small matters to someone who doesn't have a lot and is doing what she can to survive with her family. It's all a cycle.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2008 : 08:47:58 AM
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I totally under stand I have been on both sides it can make hard feelings that last on either which is sad sometimes you just can't take things back and wish you could. I hope it all works out.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
Farmgirl Sister #115
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Ardis Eckel
Farmgirl in Training
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Ardis
Harpster
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2008 : 8:35:38 PM
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After years of being in one business or other, I can say that it's tough when it's business and you're counting on payment for either a service or a product of some kind and that payment doesn't come.
Many times, you're waiting on it so that you can make a payment you owe someone else. And it seems like when you have young children - and older children still at home - that those are the toughest years to make those dollars stretch.
There can be reasons you don't know about that hold that person up from paying you. But I agree that a call or email that says they are sorry and they are working on it is just a common courtesy. It helps you to be able to do the same thing - to let the person you need to pay know that it's in the works and you haven't forgotten them.
And in Cat's case, it's especially hard to explain to a child why what you've promised him isn't there yet. Every day's a year to a little one. And your heart hurts when you're the one they're looking to.
I hope it's something as simple as a check that's been lost in the mail. That happens. (I just got a call last month about an overdue payment. I was absolutely sure I'd paid it. But when I looked, the check and the payment slip were in a side pocket in my purse - exactly where I'd put them the morning I planned to make the payment - and then obviously forgot!)
Anyway, I hope that in some way, this gets worked out for the sakes and feelings of all involved. Ardis
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2008 : 9:46:49 PM
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I do understand what you're going through. I've been in swaps that went well and a couple (2 here) where I didn't get a thing, even though I did my part and I know they received what I sent. I've been out money, time, etc. In all honesty, I used to get worked up about things like this, but I no longer agree to any swaps or trades that, if I don't get what I'm supposed to, it will create hardship or hard feelings.
I'm truly sorry that you have lost money and that it affects your son. But I can tell you that I've learned the hard way that when I get angry (no matter how justified) or hold a grudge, it only hurts me -- emotionally and spiritually.
I wish I could help you out with what you've lost on this, but we're living extremely tight at my house. I'll be praying that the folks you're waiting on come through.
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Jul 11 2008 : 9:53:20 PM
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I forgot to add something. I realize that it seems like such a little thing to simply explain and ask for more time, or something like that. But I can assure you, from someone who's been there, that sometimes even what seems so easy to others, even what seems like it should take just a minute or two, is beyond what you're capable of. I would never have believed that myself, but I now that it's true.
Please believe me when I say I'm not trying to argue with you. Perhaps these folks really are inconsiderate and dishonest. Maybe they could/should take care of this right now. I don't know. I'm just trying to explain that there might be a reasonable explanation.
Thanks for understanding!
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2008 : 04:31:56 AM
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Heather dear .. i know that children sometimes get their hearts set on a 'special prize' .. but there were times in my life when i didn't have two pennies to rub together .. but i chose this opportunity to teach my little girls about 'the valleys and mountaintops' in life. there are wonderful alternatives to things they wanted (and sometimes what they 'thought' they wanted). i read a thought recently that i just loved: "there are no mistakes in life" .. now that sometimes is a tough one to swallow .. but at the same time .. it helps me look for 'reasons' and 'solutions' to 'problems' that 'seem' to come my way. to 'teach' my children and to 'grow' myself.
one of the main messages i always tried to show to the girls who came to my children's tea parties (they were often birthday parties) was: "gifts don't always have to cost money". (see below for one of the special little party events we would do to teach them this).
if your little one is heartbroken .. it might help to do something really FUN with him and tell him that 'someday' the extra pennies will be there .. and if he still wants this prize .. it will probably come.
i remember one year when i was 'wingin' it alone (before honey-hunk) .. my daughter desperately wanted a Madam Alexander Cindrella doll. (now i'm pretty resourceful and can usually find other ways to raise a reasonable amount of pennies that i need (i had not yet discovered my love for and ability to make rag dolls)... but life was busy .. and i had other priorities for my money (like FOOD and RENT!) .. but i promised her that 'someday' i would get her a Madam Alexander Cinderella doll.
years passed .. and she never brought it up again .. and, i, too, forgot about it.
on one of her adult birthdays we were reminiscing about "the good 'ole days" when she was a little girl.
she laughed as she remembered wanting 'CINDERELLA' when she was little .. my mind was rushed back to that PROMISE i had made her.
now .. i do belive 'guilt' is self-inflicted .. and for all my life i have not allowed myself to feel 'sad or guilty' about not supplying what i didn't have .. there is always a 'softer' way to treat ourselves.
and SHE remembered what she said was one of her most favorite birthdays ever .. she said it was the year SHE was the princess instead of Cinderella. she made my heart full as she recounted how we got dressed up in our 'princess clothes' .. she described how we made 'tin foil' princess crowns .. rummaged through my clothes closet for two of my 'finest frocks' and dressed up in them .. (right down the lipstick and 'high heels') .. and we spoke with a 'princess' accent .. 'dahling' .. My Lady .. and 'your royal highness .. (she by the way was "Princess Lily Flower" and i was her "Lady-in-Waiting, Mrs. Rose Thornbush".
We drove (gas was MUCH cheaper then!) to one of the Smithsonian museums in D.C. (i did pack some 'sensible shoes' in my 'princess bag') .. i found a 'docent' at the museum and explained to her that i had a 'princess' with me and that she wanted to learn all about 'dinosaurs' and asked if she could please give us a tour. the docent was a wonderfully wise older woman and caught on right away that i was doing something special for my daughter. afterwards, the docent said she would be 'enchanted' to have 'the princess and her lady' join her for luncheon .. and she took us to the special restaurant reserved for Smithsonian Members .. and treated us to a lovely luncheon. She even introduced us to friends that saw her with us and told them to 'courtsey' to the Princess or they would have to answer to the KING! (i do believe she was one of those 'angels unawares' the bible tells us of).
take this opportunity, dear one, to create a lovely memory for your son.
i PROMISE you .. in the years to come .. you won't even remember the names of the person who owed you some pennies .. but you will never forget the memories made.
on that adult 'remembrance birthday', my daughter told me that was the day she came to realize that the best things in life were free.
(p.s. her NEXT birthday .. i presented her with a beautiful Madam Alexander Cinderella doll).
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as promised, here is one of my most special memories from my Yesteryear's Children Tea Parties. If it was a birthday party, i wrote beautiful 'friendship' poems and proverbs on pretty cards .. and tied them each with a silk ribbon.
We had a wonderful 'Secret Garden' .. with a 'magic key' tied to a huge tree at the entrance. (it was truly 'secret' .. as you could not see inside because it was ringed with bushes and evergreen trees. Once inside there were lovely stone benches to sit upon. I hung these 'friendship poems' to the bushes and low branches of trees. Each little girl would take a seat on the benches (oh yes!! there was a special 'Birthday Girl Chair' bedecked with ribbons and flowers in there too .. as she would sit upon her 'throne' .. each little girl would untie a poem and in turn .. walk to the birthday girl .. and read it to her. Then she would present it to her for her Birthday Memory Scrapbook. I would tell them of some things that we could give to friends that didn't cost money .. and then would ask them to name some gifts too. I loved their answers .. i remember some of them included .. just walking with them and talking. inviting them to your house to play .. giving them something they made or one of their own toys that their friend liked when they played at their house .. inviting them over to watch tv and making pop corn .. a pajama party .. going somewhere with them that was free (like the beach, the park or a museum) .. making cookies together .. a painting they painted or picture they drew .. their ideas were endless and precious.
xo, frannie
True Friends * Frannie
adopt a 'rag-chile'
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City_Chick
True Blue Farmgirl
509 Posts
Christina
Omaha
Nebraska
USA
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Posted - Jul 12 2008 : 05:22:49 AM
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Frannie, your last post sang to my heart! I was raised with a woman who did the same thing several times in my life. I can remember eating eggs for nearly every meal when we went through some rough patches. She always made sure to do things up in a special way for me and my sisters.
Now I try and do the same things for my children. The good Lord knows our family has seen many months/years of scrimping for enough to buy food and pay the mortage in the past. Even now with the tough economy many people, including myself, are again searching for ways to save a couple bucks. I truly believe that being honest with our children and just telling them that we do not have the money right now builds character. In a world that is so credit card dependent its good to show that good things can come to those who wait.
Thanks again for sharing Frannie!
Christina
Farmgirl Sister #195
Although no one can go back and make a brand new start; anyone can start from now
and make a brand new end.
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 12 2008 : 06:20:52 AM
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Actually, I give Charlie all of our loose change and I let him count it and put it in his piggy bank. He is VERY good child at the store, he likes to look at things but never throws a fit for things. I make sure to tell him "We can come visit the toys" and he says bye bye to them when he leaves without a tear or fit. We live pretty simple all around. I take pleasure in simple things like letting him play in his blow up pool or taking long nature walks and bringing snacks with us. He likes to carry his bucket and collect rocks. We build inside forts and Chloe is the horse for "trail" riding.He love to do any type of craft project and he is obsessed with cooking with me right now. He even is learning to say "May I have" instead of "I want". He's not the type of kiddo to obsess about wanting something.
I don't like to be an angry person nor seem greedy but I received a rather rude email from the one person who owes me money, as if it was my fault that I didn't receive the money. Now I haven't heard from her at all in over 2 weeks. I simply asked her to send the items back and we would forget the whole deal. I have been more than courteous and patient. I guess this hits my core because I grew up with a lot of promises made in my life and they never materialized and I don't appreciate people who put on an honest front and then turn out to be something else. My own issues, yes, but still... : )
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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