| Author |
*Farmgirl Barter™:  Swapping/barter subject that needs to be addressed  |
|
darlenelovesart
True Blue Farmgirl
8066 Posts
darlene
Loleta
California
USA
8066 Posts |
 Posted - Jul 03 2012 : 8:10:08 PM
|
That is too bad that that has to happen that way.
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
by Frances Farmer |
 |
|
|
khartquilt
True Blue Farmgirl
1176 Posts
USA
1176 Posts |
Posted - Jul 04 2012 : 10:19:53 AM
|
The reason I joined the forum was for the swaps. At first it was just the quilt block swaps. Then I did some apron swaps. Did the cloths pin swaps. Mini apron swaps. Did I receive items not up to my standards? yes. But that is all part of the risk. Have I received items above and beyound, yes!! Wonderful items that I still use to this day. Items I keep in my sewing room on display.
And yes it is very sad when your partner does not hold up to her part of the swap. But I just take it all with a grain of salt. I have swapped with a number of different ladies. I spent money on confirmations and insurance. I have sent things second day and have even sent things out of the country. As for the SS swaps, it is very difficult to keep 100% on top of this. I have emailed a number of ladies asking if they have received and or send out a package, never to get a reponse. I see them on other threads/subjects just chatting away. It is sad. But what can you do?? Should we start a "Black List" thread? Post the names of those that do not keep there end of the swap or barter??
I too keep a journal of names of people I have swapped with. I keep notes of those I will not swap with again. I have infact told the swap host that I did not wish to swap with certain people because I did not receive from a different swap.
If it were a perfect world this thread would not be on this forum.
When you join a swap there is always a chance of not receiving something from your partner. Just remember that when you send your item out, that you are doing the right thing. Try to remember that the joy should be in the giving not the receiving. Oh I know it is wonderful to receive a package in the mail. But it is also wonderful to know that you are doing the right thing by holding up your part of the swap.
Have a Happy 4th everyone.
Kathy H
Farmgirl Sister #81
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world..." (anomymous)
|
|
|
|
FARMALLChick
True Blue Farmgirl
978 Posts
Lora
Alexandria
IN
USA
978 Posts |
Posted - Jul 06 2012 : 1:30:17 PM
|
Wow. There are some very strong emotions on this. Can't say as I blame them either. I do hope that those I have swapped/bartered with were happy with what was received. I know I have one swap that is pending due to my unusual situation. I did post a message to that extent and that I would get in out to her as soon as I can. If I have missed someone, I hope they would contact me and tell me as much. I get scatterbrained sometimes and forget that I was supposed to send something. I have also written down what I'm supposed to send and when, but sometimes I forget to look at the calendar!
Lora
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway" -John Wayne
www.CountryFriedAcres.etsy.com
www.farmallchick.blogspot.com
www.farmallchickphotos.blogspot.com |
|
|
|
kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
1291 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
1291 Posts |
Posted - Jul 08 2012 : 05:53:13 AM
|
I am new here, like not even a week. I have just posted an item for barter, and now after reading this I am not sure even if I want to follow through with it. I really did not expect this sort of thing here ...I know they happen ...
oh, I am sure there are more good than bad ... but I have had my bad experiences at other places, where I have sent off my item, and waited only to get nothing in return! Really, I mean when you take the time to do this, and then someone else does nothing and reaps the benefit from you and how many other?
Why can't you initialize some sort of a feedback rating for people who have had swaps or barters ... and then people can make an informed educated decision ...
But again, I am new to Mary Jane's world ... but, not new to the world in general ...
So for now I guess I will remove my barter ( I haven't made a deal yet) and wait and see what you all decide ...
I just don't want to start off on a bad foot, as well as the people may not want to barter/swap with someone as new as I am, they don't know me at all ... Maybe, someone new to MJ should have a waiting period or something.
KY. Sheep Lady |
|
|
|
gathered herb
True Blue Farmgirl
87 Posts
Patty
Ormond Beach
florida
USA
87 Posts |
Posted - Jul 08 2012 : 1:21:47 PM
|
| hello ladies, I am glad to be back!!!!! I have moved to my little farm in the woods & love it. I too, have done a couple swaps... & only once have been very disappointed... I am glad this topic is up... I would like to join back in on the fun with faith!!!! patty |
|
|
|
doll58maker
True Blue Farmgirl
2259 Posts
G
TX
USA
2259 Posts |
Posted - Jul 17 2012 : 2:17:39 PM
|
Hello friends, I have been reading MJF threads today because I am a little under the weather and am still in my pjs at 4:00 p.m. I have been on the chat forum less than a year and I have not participated in any barters or swaps until I could see how it all works and what to expect. I actually have just finished reading this whole thread and a few things stand out for me as good ideas. Someone said contact your partner when your item is ready to send and be sure they are still in the game before you send it, that would greatly improve your odds of getting your swap. and 2)Have a basic set of rules (maybe you do already and I didn't see it) that is sent out by the "swap mama" and one of the rules says "if your circumstances change and you can not fulfill your swap, please contact your partner or swap mama immediately , and 3) post on the swap thread when you get your swap and publicly thank the partner--everybody else will read it and a list of responsible names will emerge. If you don't get your swap, post: gee whiz, something must have happened to ..(name names)....... because I haven't heard anything and never got my (swap) from her. That gets the message out without actually "mucking" anybody. and serves as a reminder in case it was an oversight. It sounds like some of you were disappointed but your goal here isn't to "muck" anybody so much as you don't want to see your sisters go through the same thing and you are trying to find a polite way to cover that.
Nothing is going to solve the problem of the occasional let down. It's all part of the game. but these ideas that you have come up with might improve the game a little. just my 2 cents for what its worth.
Glenda #3534
|
|
|
|
delicia
True Blue Farmgirl
917 Posts
delicia
cincinnati
ohio
USA
917 Posts |
Posted - Jul 18 2012 : 06:55:32 AM
|
| Hi all, I have read through and am sad that there has to be a discussion on this topic. I have been really blessed to be a part of the FarmGirl Sister Hood. It gives me an outlet for crafts and I have learned so much from everyone on here. I have not recieved on only one swap and that was sad but, what can you do. I try to do unto others as I am sure that most of us do. When dealing with people everything is not going to be perfect. I have mostly been blessed by the swaps that I have participated in. I am always hoping that the person that I have as a partner likes what I send but, I am sure that most of my things are not equal to what some of the sisters produce. No one has ever said anything to hurt my feelings on that though. I do fill my things with love and work really hard on what I send. I do not get into some of the swaps because I know that I can't produce such beautiful things (aprons) I really wish I could but, it would be unfair because I know my efforts would not be up to par. I love the idea of keeping a notebook and will start doing that. I just want a place where I can grow, and learn as a crafter and a person and this site helps me to do that. I am so happy to have found Mary Jane and am going to stop rambling now. |
|
|
|
rubyleesmom
Zapped Profile
190 Posts
Colina
Homosassa
Fl
USA
190 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2012 : 09:41:58 AM
|
| I know the main issue on this topic is not following through and holding up your part of the swap, but I'd kinda like to put my two cents in too if I may. Please, I hope I do NOT offend anyone and if I do I sincerely apologise as that is not my intention at all! I have participated in a few barters and all have been good experiences for me.. I have always been too afraid to join in on a swap though.. not for the fear of not receiving anything in return, but for the fear that someone will be disappointed with what I sent them. To be honest, I have seen some comments in the past on the forum that I am sure are not meant in any way to sound that way, but really just kind of come across to make me feel like to be in a swap you have to be this awesome crafty person who does stunning work and I am fully aware that I am not the greatest at crafting and stuff yet, (but i do try my best)..What about maybe doing swaps for different skill levels? For example if you would prefer it to be something a little more fancy and detailed, list experienced sewing preferred in the subject line? Or if it is just something simple, name it something like beginner apron swap etc? Again I hope that i didnt offend anyone...I do love being part of the Farmgirl Sisterhood! Just renewed my membership and looking forward to my 2nd year! I am blessed to be connected with so many wonderful people :-) It was Just a random thought from a fellow farmgirl. |
|
|
|
kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
1291 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
1291 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2012 : 10:47:40 AM
|
Colina,
I could not agree more! I am new here,and I have been looking around all the threads and came across a swap that I thought I might like to try. I e mailed the person and asked a few questions about it. She was so obtuse about it, I said forget it. I felt as though they didn't want any new people in on the swap. So for now, I will stay out of the swaps. But I do think you are right.
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
|
|
|
delicia
True Blue Farmgirl
917 Posts
delicia
cincinnati
ohio
USA
917 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2012 : 4:27:56 PM
|
| Terri and Colina I feel horrible that you had that experience. I have participated in quite a few swaps and have enjoyed them. The only stress is stress that I put on myself. No one has ever said anything to make me feel bad about what I have sent as a swap. I love learning the new things and the swaps are a great way to do that. If i said anything in my post to make either of you not want to participate I am so sorry. I love the swaps and have had alot of really good and fun things sent to me. I would encourage both of you to participate in one and see what you think. Teri what part of KY are you in? I am from KY and love it. |
|
|
|
kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
1291 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
1291 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2012 : 6:02:09 PM
|
Near the Marina ... and no you ... did not say anything to discourage me.
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
|
|
|
delicia
True Blue Farmgirl
917 Posts
delicia
cincinnati
ohio
USA
917 Posts |
Posted - Jul 19 2012 : 8:09:05 PM
|
| Teri, so you are in Northern Ky? I am in Cincinnati |
|
|
|
kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
1291 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
1291 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2012 : 03:30:37 AM
|
South Central KY. near Lake Cumberland
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
|
|
|
delicia
True Blue Farmgirl
917 Posts
delicia
cincinnati
ohio
USA
917 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2012 : 05:06:42 AM
|
| I love that area. I am from Hazard. |
|
|
|
crittergranny
True Blue Farmgirl
1096 Posts
Laura
Lindrith
NM
USA
1096 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2012 : 10:20:13 AM
|
The only thing that has not set right with me is when someone says they are interested in anything in return but don't give any specific thing they would like and then they switch it to "well you can just send money". I personally do the swap mostly to find homes for some of my stuff I don't need and it's fun to get something in return, but I'm not in it to buy something. I think there should be a separate page for stuff for sale. Although I do not have a problem with 2 folks deciding to make it into a transaction, I just feel there are some with that intention in mind in the first place. I don't care for silly shell games. If one is wanting money for something then they should be up front about it. However I am new at this so there may be issues and reasons for things that I am not aware of.
Laura
Horse poor in the boonies.
www.nmbarrelhorses.com |
|
|
|
*Farmgirl Barter™: Swapping/barter subject that needs to be addressed |
|
Swapping/barter subject that needs to be addressed
