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Family Matters:  15year old is learning to drive,HELP!!!!  |
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Alaska farm girl
True Blue Farmgirl
123 Posts
dorothy
skagway
Alaska
USA
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 Posted - Apr 07 2006 : 6:55:29 PM
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| I need to grab some patience,calmness and also that angel sitting on my shoulder.Lots of deep breaths,Okay,just eeease out on the clutch,nooo,don't put your foot on the gas (all the way to the floor)!,too,just a little bit.Ooookay,lets try it again.(Lots of comments,in between,like,why do people want to drive a stick-shift anyway,it doesn't make sense)!My response(REAL women drive stick-shifts,and,you have to know this to drive a tractor,or a dump truck.Yeah,that went over well, considering she is the fashion queen,NOT like me at all!!! I remember my mom teaching me,it was scary for both of us!! Well, the car sits there,we'll try again another day,hopefully,or maybe I can get a friend to do it,if I pay her lots of money,yeah!Last suggestion,friend says to tell daughter guys think you'll be more cool if they know you drive a stick.Think that'll work??? I need that glass of wine!! |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Apr 07 2006 : 8:40:27 PM
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I have been there..with my three oldest boys..but havn't had to help a new driver learn in the past 5 years...blessed long years...and have 5 more until my 11 year old daughter is 16..not my favorite thing. I think I will give STeve the "opportunity" to be their driving teacher..haha. I remember a future sister in law (now ex sis in law) teaching me to drive a stick shift with a ramber station wagon when I was a senior in high school..wow. She was so brave! My mom could never have handled it.
Good luck!!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Apr 07 2006 : 9:08:48 PM
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I drove most of the time with ds (who is almost 20) and dh taught our dd. She and I would have murdered each other before reaching the corner! One thing having an almost-driver did for me was make me a slower, more law-abiding driver. No more 4 miles over the limit and stuff like that when I knew they were watching my every move. It quickly became a habit, too, and I am now what my kids call an "old lady driver" - poking along at the speed limit or just below. You should see me driving around town with my top down in the summer. Slow but my car is cute 
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Apr 07 2006 : 9:12:18 PM
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Jenny, I take it your dh's name is Steve -- so is mine, and so is my ds's!
And, Dorothy, I forgot to add that the first car I learned to drive was a stick shift. My then-boyfriend taught me how to drive his stick shift (brave guy to risk his car that way) and I loved it. My mom kept saying, "Are you sure you know how to drive a stick?" I miss shifting. That's why I love ds's car. It has a his/her shift.
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl
2349 Posts
Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area
Texas
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Posted - Apr 08 2006 : 03:17:17 AM
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Dorothy, you are so right about the necessity for a gal to know how to drive a stick. It comes in handy on many different occasions. When we moved, I had to drive the big U-haul because my hubby doesn't know how to drive with a stick. I acted a little frustrated, but deep down, I had a lot of fun driving that huge 30 ft. truck.
Yep, guys will think she's pretty cool. Plus, I think it makes you feel cool, too.
Perhaps it's a bit "safer" for us gals, too...... Recently, I was driving a small truck with a stick and it was quite difficult to steer, shift, talk on the phone, shift, take a bite of a burger, shift, paint fingernails, shift, swerve to avoid going off the road, shift, putting on make-up, shift.....Ya' actually have to focus on driving!!!!
Blessings
Catherine
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt." |
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Nancy Gartenman
True Blue Farmgirl
9094 Posts
Nancy
West Seneca
New York
USA
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Posted - Apr 08 2006 : 05:44:13 AM
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Dorothy,
You might want to see if you can find a driving instructor, All my kids had one, he came to the house and took them out driving, and then even took them for their driving road test. Didn't cost all that much. Each one had a different number of lessons depending on how they were doing. Didn't take them that long. Sure was a better way to go then with me in the car with my hands over my eyes.
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Libbie
Farmgirl Connection Cultivator
3579 Posts
Anne E.
Elsinore
Utah
USA
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Posted - Apr 08 2006 : 09:48:10 AM
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I agree with learning to drive a stick shift car - my dad said that I couldn't take my driver's test in an automatic because if I ever was in a bad situation and the only car around was a stick shift, he wanted me to be able to drive myself home. I've always appreciated that - expecially the few times when someone (FIL) has said, "You could take my truck, BUT, it's a stick shift...) I was so proud to say, "That's okay. Thanks! I'd love to!"
My dad taught me to drive, but many of my friends had driving instructors, too...
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
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Alaska farm girl
True Blue Farmgirl
123 Posts
dorothy
skagway
Alaska
USA
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Posted - Apr 08 2006 : 09:54:48 AM
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| Wellll,here in Skagway,(pop.800),we don't have official driving instructors,so I think I'm back to bribeing a friend. I don't want to use family members,#1. I fear for their safety,#2., They might disclose secrets of my own driving ability(no records),but the less info. the better,(you know family has a tendency to imbellish the story!! |
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theoanne
True Blue Farmgirl
282 Posts
teddie
CARROLLTON
GA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 06:17:09 AM
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Have taught 3 to drive and paid for driving lessons from a school while teaching the 4th. ( this gives 15% off insurance rate ) After teaching 3 in 4 yrs I decieded it was worth it to use the child support check to pay for drivers school for #4. They all know how to drive stick and so do I. I really enjoy stick. The best thing I remember was a friend telling me if you push the passenger seat back all the way...there is room to kneel and pray while your teen drives...LOL
It'll all be okay and you'll have tales to tell of their driving skills. Teddie |
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westernhorse51
True Blue Farmgirl
1681 Posts
michele
farmingdale
n.j.
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 06:42:26 AM
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mine is righjt around the corner! My 2 stepdaughters drove but dad taught them. I cant imagine my 15 y/old driving.
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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bboopster
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Betty Jo
West Bend
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 07:44:30 AM
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Well ladies I've made it through 5 beginners. It was a tough one each time not to say to much but say enough. I do believe the best times were getting them out during the snowstorms. Never went into the ditch, close calls but all in all looking back it was fun. Burn out and doughnuts included. Figure they might as well know the correct way to do them. Empty parking lots and side counrty roads just the way my grandpa taught me.
Pray for our troops to come home safe and soon.
Enjoying the road to the simple life :>) |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 08:08:01 AM
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I agree that everyone should know how to drive a stick..It seems like it would be so dangerous to NOT know....what if the only car available in an emergency were a shift and you didn't know how to drive it...yikes. I made sure my older boys could drive anything. I have always liked that my dad made me learn a shift before I was allowed to get my first lisence.
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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sleepless reader
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
CA
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 11:38:52 AM
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My son learned on an automatic and then his grandpa gave him an old beater Honda CRX with stick. $650 and a new clutch later he has it down! We have 6 years until the next one learns (unless they change the age to 18) and she'll learn with a stick! A friend who got his license in England told me that you are licensed for specific types of vehicles. If you are ok'd to drive with a clutch you can drive either, but not the other way around! Not a bad idea... Good luck, Dorothy.
Sharon
Life is messy. Wear your apron! |
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Alaska farm girl
True Blue Farmgirl
123 Posts
dorothy
skagway
Alaska
USA
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Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 11:53:15 AM
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I laughed a big one about putting the pass. seat back so's you could pray!!
Well,she won't even GO driving now, even when I told her guys will think she's more hot! I'm gonna have to let her read this site,hope it doesn't backfire on me.Wish me luck!!! |
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bboopster
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Betty Jo
West Bend
Wisconsin
USA
1140 Posts |
Posted - Apr 10 2006 : 6:26:17 PM
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Dorothy,
Guy's diffently think your cooler if you drive stick. They also like it if you can check your own oil and know your way around the engine a bit. She will be Oh So Cool driving stick. Have you tried a road with no traffic. I learn is a subdivison that was being developed. No traffic or anyone to see you. 
Pray for our troops to come home safe and soon.
Enjoying the road to the simple life :>) |
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theoanne
True Blue Farmgirl
282 Posts
teddie
CARROLLTON
GA
282 Posts |
Posted - Apr 13 2006 : 1:29:25 PM
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Dorothy, Don't worry if she needs a break or doesn't want to. Just as they learn to walk and talk in their own time they also have to be "ready" to do this. All my boys were older than the 16 yr age to get a license. 3 of them were actually over 18. They told me they did not want the responsibility of driving alone. I even had one who had has own car and still had his learner's license. I had to ride along with him every where. Now he's 26 and has 2 cars 1 truck and a motorcycle!
She'll be fine.
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theoanne
True Blue Farmgirl
282 Posts
teddie
CARROLLTON
GA
282 Posts |
Posted - Apr 13 2006 : 1:32:33 PM
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Also one nore thing on 'clutch practice'. We went to the school parking lot when no one was around and did alot of practicing shifting into 1st and then reverse. No pressure of the road.
Teddie |
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akcowgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
296 Posts
Valerie
Homer
Alaska
USA
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Posted - Apr 13 2006 : 2:22:29 PM
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I have to say that my dad tried to teach me how to drive a stick. It did not work out, 5 mins he was yelling and i was crying and screaming the we were taking the car back to the dealer (I had just bought it.) He never got back in the car with me till i had already had my license for 8 months. I taught my self how to drive the stick in my driveway with no one home. if i had a problem or question i had a good guy friend with a stick shift truck and i would call him and ask him what i was doing wrong. I have also had to teach 4 of my friend how to drive sticks because there parents flat refused to teach them. I think it is a parent child issue that may be better handled by someone else. Does she have any really good friends that own stick shifts that you trust? On the subject of guys thinking it is cool, they really do. I not only could drive a stick, but i could change the oil in my car. That really imppresed them.
Valerie
Alaska Girl all the way
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