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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6.  |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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 Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 04:19:29 AM
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Please keep my DD in your prayers. She called me this morning and told me that her DH doesn't want to be married anymore. She changed her whole life for him and now this. She married him 4 years ago this August 19th. He said he was going to leave the military and they would make a life here in WI. That all changed...he stayed in and just got back from his third tour in Iraq this past January. She has gone along with all his changed plans and held down the homefront while he was deployed. Now this! I feel so bad for her. He says that he loves her but is not in love with her. I say that staying in love is something that we choose to do. She is very upset and confused and also far away in SC. I think he needs some post traumatic stress therapy, but he refuses to go. Please keep Shannon in your prayers during this tough time.
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farmgirl sister #922
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
11303 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 04:24:13 AM
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Diane, I will be praying for her. I'm so sorry. It does sound like he needs some counseling. I know my DD's fiance was in Afganistan. He should have some counseling too. I cannot even imagine what they go through over there and what they see or have to do. I just hope they get through this and work things out.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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MerryHeartSister
True Blue Farmgirl
158 Posts
Christy
Tuscaloosa
Alabama
USA
158 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 05:10:14 AM
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So sad. Praying for them both to make the right decisions.
Farmgirl #1951
Home is a gift that should be opened every day. |
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Ga Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
2355 Posts
Karen
Meansville
Ga.
USA
2355 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 05:38:59 AM
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Will be praying for both. Blessings,Karen
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10
Farmgirl sister #1156
www.KKJD1.etsy.com
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
1900 Posts |
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 07:04:09 AM
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I will pray, too. Definitely. God bless her heart.
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 07:10:24 AM
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If I were her I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. It does sound like he has some issues that counseling could help. If he really does want to end the marriage then, a few weeks or months of counseling and making darn sure that is what he really wants isn't going to hurt him. It could make all the difference.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
2325 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 07:15:54 AM
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Prayers are on the way for both of them. Love changes with time but that isn't a reason to give up. Sometimes though when one makes a decision to give up it is better for both. My prayers are that they give counseling a chance and then make any further decisions. If she has to change her whole life for him, he at least owes her the counseling option.
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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HealingTouch
True Blue Farmgirl
3448 Posts
Darlene
Kunkletown
Pa
USA
3448 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 09:57:36 AM
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So sorry and prayers for you all. It does sound as though he needs counseling but if he won't go you can't force him. Who knows what precipitated this awakening. Now the issue of your daughter changing everythng for him...he sounds like a controller and you can never do enough for them. She may not see it now but this may be a blessing in diguise. Living in a loveless marriage is not the answer for her. She deserves more! HUGS.
Blessings,
Darlene
Sister 1922
The road to a friends house is never to long! |
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BarefootGoatGirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1495 Posts
Corrine
North Carolina
USA
1495 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 10:08:33 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear about this. It is not an experience I would wish on anybody. I will be praying for your daughter.
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 10:12:49 AM
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I know it might not help the situation, but if he is in need of counselin, she can contact his CO and let him know that he's not actin himself. They can force him to be evaluated. It might cause more problems between them, but if he needs help, there really isn't much else she can do.
Farmgirl Sister #1438
God - Gardening - Family - Is anything else important? |
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MrsRooster
True Blue Farmgirl
1168 Posts
Amy
Seabrook
TX
USA
1168 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 11:31:39 AM
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Lots of prayers. I think she should seek some conseling herself to help get this all squared away. It wouldn't hurt.
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Farmgirl #1259
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Mama Jewel
True Blue Farmgirl
435 Posts
Jewel
Sweet Peas Farmette,
Bend, OR
USA
435 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 12:35:37 PM
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so very sorry to hear. Praying. xoxo
Farm Girl Sister #1683 Living Simply & Naturally on our lil Sweet Peas Farmette
"Do Everything in Love." 1 Cor 14
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 1:38:15 PM
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 4:23:54 PM
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CJ I'm so sorry to hear about your DD. She and her husband will be in my prayers. My DH was in for 22 yrs. and he said it is very hard when you come home. But it sounds like he really does need some counseling. Has she seen any difference in him before he left? I know her heart is breaking. To be told that is the worse. She has the love of God and a beautiful family that is there to support her and lots of prayer going out. CJ sending prayers for you also farmgirl, being a mom you, just wants to make it all better for them and this is a situation we can't do much for them. Just be there and that will be a get relief for her. Take care of yourself also.
Hugs, Brenda
"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are small matter compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Bonnie Ellis
True Blue Farmgirl
2474 Posts
Bonnie
Minneapolis
Minnesota
USA
2474 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 5:29:17 PM
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Diane: This is your farmgirls on the loose buddy Bonnie. Consider yourself hugged. You and Shannon are in my prayers. God is our help in every situation. Have you found any leads on a farm for yourself yet? Hope to see you in Sept. Love Bonnie
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Roxy7
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Robin
Denver
CO
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 9:30:19 PM
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clothedinscarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
1333 Posts
Siobhan
Battle Creek
MI
USA
1333 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 06:45:16 AM
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Oh Diane, I'm sorry you got such saddening news :( (((HUGS))) I wish I could come give you a big hug in person. I know it must be hard to watch your sweet daughter go through such a thing. I will pray continually for Shannon and her husband. This can't be the end to this. There's no such thing as "being in love". Well, there is, but it's not a feeling that should be the foundation of a marriage. I love the quote from the movie Captain Correli's Mandolin, "Love is what's left over after being in love fades away." That is so true. Unfortunately, for your daughter and son in law, his absence in their marriage has made the love that's leftoever very fragile and delicate and not as strong as it would be if he weren't gone with the military all the time. They need to work on strengthening their love for each other. And love is a choice and a selflessness, not an emotion. I can understand that he has "lost that loving feeling" right now, but there is such a reward for the both of them if they stick it out and really learn to LOVE each other. Have you ever heard of Jimmy Evans or Marriage Today? It's a radio show and he and his wife, Karen are nationally known for their marriage "counsel". They have a great DVD series called, "Marriage on the Rock" that has transformed so many marriages that were otherwise doomed. It's comes from a Christian perspective as Jimmy and his Wife are awesome Christian people, but it doesn't require that you be a Christian as it's based on principles that can be used by anyone. The cool thing is, they know the trials of a military marriage so well that they offer a free program called "Quest" online for military couples to go through that includes videos that they can watch and questions to go through. I think it's a 10 week program and they only have to watch one video a week. Here's the link: http://quest.marriagetoday.com/
You should have Shannon take a look at it.
Most of all, let's PRAY as only the Lord can truly work on the hearts of Shannon and her husband.
Loving Father, I just lift up prayers today for Diane's daughter, Shannon, and her husband today. I know that You are a powerful God and that You can heal marriages and bring a new love to broken relationships. I ask that You will work in the hearts of Shannon and her husband today. Lift the veil from their eyes and show them what authentic love looks like. Wrap them in Your arms that love unconditionally so that they will know how to love each other the way each deserves. Lord, protect Shannon's heart as she waits for you to change her husband's heart. Let her not become hardened toward him because of anything discouraging or hurtful that he has said to her out of ignorance. Let her hold on, knowing that the words being spoken are not from his heart, but lies from the enemy. Help her to continue to love him and all the more as he pulls away. Give her encouragement today through those who love her and signs from You to show her You hear her heart and will be there for her through all of this. Let her know that there is hope and that You are working hard for their reconciliation. I pray that You will help them to reach out for help and not just give up. Put them in the path of wise counsel soon and let their hearts be open to receive it. Thank you, Father, for hearing our prayers today and for caring so much about your children and for marriage. Your Word says, "What God has joined together, let no man separate." We believe Your Word and that it is true and powerful, in Jesus' name, AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!
Love you, my farmgirl sister. (((HUGS AGAIN))) Email me if you need anything at all. Keep your head up. Trust the Lord and keep on praying. The prayers of a praying mother are special.
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 07:13:05 AM
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Diane,
Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. Hugs to you and prayers for you and your DD.
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE |
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bboopster
True Blue Farmgirl
1140 Posts
Betty Jo
West Bend
Wisconsin
USA
1140 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 09:47:47 AM
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My prayer are with you and you DD and her DH. The military is very hard on families. I see that with my sons. Mya God bless you and keep you all in grace.
http://www.bboopster.blogspot.com
Nana to 4 with 1 on the way.
3 Blue Star Mother and Proud of it!
Pray for our troops to come home safe and soon.
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
3259 Posts
Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
3259 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 2:58:31 PM
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I will certainly keep your daughter and son in law in my prayers. As everyone else said, I am sure he needs counseling after what he has been through over in Iraq. I am thankful for all of our service men and women who fight on behalf of our country, and I am saddened that when they come home, their family lives are sometimes not as they were. It must be very difficult for everyone involved. Prayers to all of you, and I know that God will see them through this, and help them find what is right for their situation.
Blessings,
Laurie
Farmgirl Sister#1403
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.. |
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tea_lady_tammy
True Blue Farmgirl
1485 Posts
Tammy
NE
USA
1485 Posts |
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
13764 Posts
CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
13764 Posts |
Posted - Aug 14 2010 : 5:43:58 PM
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Diane,
I say AMEN to Siobhan's prayer . . . and I will be lifting you and Shannon up in prayer myself as well.
I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry . . .
These situations are hard on everybody. My hubby and I had to help our daughter go through a very painful situation with her first husband.
Love, hugs and prayers!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Aug 15 2010 : 8:47:40 PM
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I will be praying for her Diane.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2010 : 06:14:51 AM
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I am a little upset and worried. Apparently, when my DD and SIL were here in the end of July, he was treating her pretty badly (not in front of me). My DS told me about it last night. He was complaining to everyone that when he came back from Iraq (third tour) she gained some weight. If that is why he wants to leave her, how shallow. She has been having some medical problems that the doctors are trying to figure out. She is insolin intolerant and has high and low spikes. They are checking her pancreas. What happened to "in sickness and in health"?
I talked to her last night and now he wants to try, but says that we have to be honest with eachother no matter how much it hurts. I think he is going to drop a bomb on her. There is something he wants to get off his chest. Conveniently he is going to 3 weeks of Airborne schooling on August 27th. He has already looked into the divorce laws of SC!!!! What is going on? My DD is very strong and caring, she would walk through fire for someone she loves and would never make them feel like nothing. He has broken every promise that he has ever made to her and yet she stands by him. He is lucky to have her. All of her friends and family here, just want her to come home.
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farmgirl sister #922
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Edited by - Fiddlehead Farm on Aug 16 2010 06:15:42 AM |
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6. |
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DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6.
