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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6.  |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 01 2011 : 3:48:15 PM
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Let's just say she wishes she was down south right now. We are having a blizzard up here! 25-40 mph winds and up to 15 inches of snow. Tomorrow, I don't have to work so I am going to teach her how to bake bread and watch some chick movies! Thank you for all your prayers. Her heart is breaking and I don't know if I can pick up the pieces.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
1853 Posts |
Posted - Feb 01 2011 : 4:09:15 PM
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prayers for you and your DD
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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Diane B Carter
True Blue Farmgirl
1270 Posts
Diane
Blasdell
N.Y.
USA
1270 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 10:09:48 AM
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| Sending you and your daughter prayers divorce is very tough, I have gone through it and I thought I would never get over it but thank God I did and my life now is 100% happier than ever before. I am sure with time your daughter will be happy again. |
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woolgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
901 Posts
Elizabeth
Great Lakes
IL
USA
901 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 10:21:43 AM
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Oh Diane...I am sending prayers your family's way. Military marriages are so difficult. Hope the snow day is treating you and her well. Sometimes "Momma Time" makes things better.
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prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
1874 Posts
Linda
Kansas
1874 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 2:45:10 PM
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Diane, will be praying. So very sorry for the hurt you all are going thru. It has been so very tough on these families with the repeated tours. Praying!
Blessings, Linda
www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
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buffypuff
True Blue Farmgirl
1183 Posts
Claudia
Deer Park
WA
USA
1183 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 3:57:27 PM
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Diane, hoping you 2 are having a better day.
Buffypuff/ Claudia ~ Farmgirl & Sister #870 ~
"It compliments God to ask great things of Him." ~ St. Theresa of Avila
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
253 Posts |
Posted - Feb 02 2011 : 10:44:20 PM
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Oh my ! Shannon is in my prayers. This seems all to common in our neck of the woods. We are near Fort Riley and see this happen so much. It is so sad. What our military families go through. I will hold her and her DH up in my prayers. Hugs to you as well. Being Mom during this has to be tough !! We are here sister !!!
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
Scattered Prairie Gals Chapter
http://www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 05:30:04 AM
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Here is Shannon with her best friend Brooke. They have been friends since 1st grade. I am so glad she is home and seeing friends and family. There are some things that I have been keeping to myself and I need to vent. Her Husband's family lives here in Janesville. Try as I may, I have a hard time being around his Mom and Sister. They are back stabbing liers and just not very nice. Right after Shannon and Norm were engaged, they tried to set him up with another woman! Recently my niece who goes to school with Norm's niece was very upset with some things that Brandy (Norm's niece) has been saying at school. She says that Shannon doesn't really have Lyme disease, she is just faking it so she does not have to do anything. She also said that it doen't matter because they won't be married much longer anyway. I also found out from my DS that he (Norm) has been facebook messaging my son's fiance Kristin. He says that he made a mistake 5 years ago and he married the wrong one. Of course this is when Norm has been drinking. My DD also caught him drunk dialing a girl that lives here and is best friends with his sister. He says it was only one time, but his phone bill proved otherwise. Not only is he breaking her heart and ruining their marriage, he is making her feel like she is not good enough. She is too good, if you ask me. She doen't know about what his niece has been saying, I don't think it is necessary. Thanks for letting me vent.
Now, for something positive. If she does move back here, she will live with me until she gets on her feet. I have a friend that is a Veterinarian that says he is interested in hiring her. She will have 3 of the dogs, one will stay in SC with Norm. Kind of bittersweet, I guess she will get her wish of moving back to WI, but without her husband. Again, thank you for your prayers and kindness during this rough time.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
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buffypuff
True Blue Farmgirl
1183 Posts
Claudia
Deer Park
WA
USA
1183 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 07:32:01 AM
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My oh my Diane. You have been holding a bundle. It seems that Norm's family is not supportive at all to see this marriage survive. I truly am for marriages surviving, but having gone through it myself, sometimes I think God gives us a way out of a terrible situation. Until Norm is ready to really work on it, and his family keeps their mouths shut, it is very difficult to stand up under it. My pastor at the time said something that has stuck with me for the last 30 years. He said that "the same sun that melts butter, hardens clay." Where as Shannon is the butter, it seems that Norm has hardened his heart. If their marriage survives, it will take time for him to see what a dumb jerk he is being, and it will take Shannon awhile to see that she is not a piece of dirt, and should get the respect she deserves. I just pray that with this time of them being apart, will mend her heart so she can walk with dignity knowing it takes 2 to tango. Obviously at this point he wants to tango with someone else, since he is calling other women. God bless you both.
Buffypuff/ Claudia ~ Farmgirl & Sister #870 ~
"It compliments God to ask great things of Him." ~ St. Theresa of Avila
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
253 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 08:44:26 AM
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Wow is all I can say. My heart breaks for you and Shannon. As a Mother this is heart breaking for me to even read. I hold you tight in my prayers Sister. Prayers for comfort,wisdom and some how some joy while spending time with her. God bless you all !!!
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
Scattered Prairie Gals Chapter
http://www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com
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prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
1874 Posts
Linda
Kansas
1874 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 10:42:53 AM
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Oh Diane!! This is all heartbreaking. Let your daughter know that she is a beautiful girl, what a nice pic of her and her friend. A marriage breaking up is never easy nor usually the best solution. But it akes two making it work and it seems as though his heart has given up. Definately his loss! It will take her time to heal, it is great that she has such a good support system with you. Prayers and Prayers for your family!!
Blessings, Linda
www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 4:39:49 PM
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My DD is here just because she needed a break. Well she got one this morning on the phone. He says he isn't interested in being married anymore. Not even man enough to tell her in person. I had a feeling since August that this is how it was going to end. My heart is breaking watching her in so much pain. As a mom, you just want to make the hurt go away. We have had lots of tears and hugs today. She turned her life up-side down to marry him and has stuck by his side through all of his changes of career and deployments, only to have it turned up-side down again just because he decides so. It is just not fair to her but it is probably for the best. I have been worried sick about her being so far away and alone. At least she is here with her family and friends again. Thank you for your continued prayers and for listening.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Feb 03 2011 : 4:44:07 PM
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God bless her heart... Thank God she's with you, Diane. I'll be praying. My heart simply aches for hers. Hugs - Nini
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
Farmgirl Sister #1974 |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 07:00:12 AM
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Now, the business of breaking up.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 11:43:08 AM
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Diane- keeping you and your daughter in my prayers. Please give her a hug for me!
Sending lots of postive thoughts your way!
Lori |
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SuzieQ
True Blue Farmgirl
175 Posts
Suzie
Texas
USA
175 Posts |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 12:14:57 PM
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| If he is out of the house have her move everything and she needs to empty all bank accounts. Also she needs to cancel all credit cards so she will not be lible for any charges that he will do. She needs to protect herself. He has found someone else and things will get ugly. He is all about himself and again she needs to protect herself. Have her get a lawyer asap. Prayers to her and your family during this |
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Mommyswanson
True Blue Farmgirl
463 Posts
Laura
Waukegan
IL
USA
463 Posts |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 3:58:46 PM
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Praying for her. Poor thing. I'm glad she has you close by to see her through this tough time & remind her that she can get through this & none of it was her fault, she did the best she could.
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 10 2011 : 10:32:08 AM
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My dear friends, I have not been on this forum much lately due to the turmoil of my DD separation and pending divorce. I really appreciate being able to spill my guts here to all of you. He is done, he needs help but won't take it. My DD decided she is not going down with him. She is really handling everything very well. I am so proud of how strong she is. She is living here with me. We organized the lower level and made a cute little apartment for her. She has a job interview this coming Tuesday at a local vet. She and my DS will be driving down to SC in the end of the month to collect her belongings. There is only one issue...she has 4 dogs. Her DH decided he will not keep any of them. My DH and I decided that they are her family. They have been with her through all his deployments and she rescued them and they have some health problems that she has helped them get through. So now we are looking for a house for her. It is a good time to buy in Janesville due to GM closing. The market is a buyers market right now. My DH and I will get the loan and then sell it to her in a couple of years when she gets back on her feet. We have one of the dogs here now and she will be bringing one more back in the end of February. Her Ex DH will bring the other two in June. Lots going on! It is nice to have her home again eventhough the circumstances could be better. Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts, they are really appreciated. Now I have to get back on track with some of my swaps and cards!
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
Edited by - Fiddlehead Farm on Feb 10 2011 10:32:33 AM |
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
1853 Posts |
Posted - Feb 10 2011 : 6:31:48 PM
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love and prayers set to you and your family
how wonderful for you to have her back ..
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 07:51:43 AM
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When a heart breaks, it doesn't break even. This last few days have been really tough. My DD is feeling really down. Her XDH sent her an e-mail that finally gave his reasons for the break-up. He says that he isn't attracted to her physically anymore. That she was so sexy when they got married and now has put on about twenty pounds. I am so angry...their marriage vows did not say "until 20 lbs. do us part". She has never had self esteem problems until she married him. Between all his drunk dialing other women and facebooking my son's fiance and now this. This really hurts. If he was injured in Iraq and disfigured or paralyzed, she would have still loved him. She is in love, He was in lust. I know in time her heart will heal, but in this case, this is a wound that cuts really deep. I am biting my lip and just trying to listen when she wants to talk. I am just so angry and disallusioned. How can he do this to my dear sweet Shannon, who has stuck by him through all his career changes and deployments. He does not deserve her and she deserves so much more. She is still young and she will heal. Thank you for all your prayers and comments. I just need to get this off my chest and I appreciate you all for listening.
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
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buffypuff
True Blue Farmgirl
1183 Posts
Claudia
Deer Park
WA
USA
1183 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 08:18:24 AM
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Oh Diane, I have thought a lot about you and Shannon. I know that Shannon's heart is breaking now, but as far as being an outsider, I'm glad that she will be rid of him. It looks as though he emotionally divorced her a long time ago, and blaming 20# is stupid. He is looking for some rationalization to justify his actions. It supposedly makes it easier on him to blame Shannon. NOW...for you. I am concerned about you. It is difficult watching your child go through all this pain knowing that she is the one who will have to get through it. It is wonderful that she is with you, but my concern is that you take care of yourself and feed yourself good thoughts, some special time, or whatever you like to do, so you can stay healthy and be able to be there for Shannon. Anyway...I want you to know that I not only care about Shannon, but I care about YOU!
Buffypuff/ Claudia ~ Farmgirl & Sister #870 ~
"It compliments God to ask great things of Him." ~ St. Theresa of Avila
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nut4fabric
True Blue Farmgirl
885 Posts
Kathy
Morgan Hill
CA
USA
885 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 09:06:26 AM
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Diane We went through a very similar situation with our daughter several years ago, her ex is a marine so I understand the military end too and their marriage ended a couple of months after he returned from Iraq. What he is doing by saying that about her is putting the blame on her rather than admitting that he has issues, trying to make her feel at fault which of course she is not. For my daughter and it will be for your daughter everything turned out for the best, she is happy has a great career, her own home and happy to be rid of those headaches. Give her a hug for me and tell her everything will be just fine and that she is perfect the way she is.
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
4562 Posts |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 12:09:55 PM
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Thanks for all the hugs and support!
http://studiodiphotosite.shutterfly.com/
farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
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Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 4:25:51 PM
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Yes, your DD is better off without him. If some guy dumped me because I'd gained twenty pounds, I'd send him a twenty-pound bag of lard and leave this message: I lost this. You can have it.
Sorry, but it just burns me up when men act so shallow. I know he has issues, but that doesn't give him the right to hurt someone else.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
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Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 6:10:05 PM
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Diane, sending big hugs for both you and Shannon!!
Hugs,
Hannah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Lifes not about the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away.
Just a small town country girl, farmgirl,loggergirl, trying to live her dreams. :)
P.s. I've been playing around with the spelling of my name ( weird I know) and I've decided that I will stick with Hannah for good. Sorry I got you all confused. Hugs!! |
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6. |
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DD is OK, SIL needs prayers. Update pg 6.
