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njaw09
True Blue Farmgirl
397 Posts
Annie
NJ
USA
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 Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 09:28:00 AM
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Yes, Jonni very difficult but I learn how to zone her out & pretty good at it. I pretend to listen to her shaking my head up and down but in reality I am not listening to her. I just smile and walk away. My sister-in-law pull some kinds of stunts once in front of my parents. I was quite furious. I told my mom she is a "princess". I told my husband and say tell your sister stop being a you know what in front of my parents. Her mom (my mother-in-law is an angel). Thank goodness my mother-in-law is not a princess otherwise I would hang myself.
Your niece will love the gift no matter what you give her even homemade. Her mom (your sister) shouldn't get involve. Period. You have to tell your sister to grow up. I have list too but if I feel it is impractical or whatsoever I usually don't follow the list. If any recipients give me a hard time. I just give them cash (my budget not theirs) and let them buy whatever their heart desires. I don't let them bug me anymore. It used to drive me insane when someone tell me I can't do this or that and it ruin my holiday spirit but not anymore. If my niece is spoil I do tell her upfront or teach her some common sense even if the parents do not like it. Yes, they are young but sometimes as an aunt it is good to teach them some moral sense instead of being a spoil little brats.
Don't let your sister ruin your holiday spirits. |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 11:53:31 AM
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wow! About the gift. just wow!
When I was growing up you got what you got! lol haha
Now I will say I do kind of give tips and hints to my family on gifts for the kids, but mainly it's cause we don't have a lot of space. We have always only lived in a one bedroom apartment, and still do and we have three kids. Yes, we only have ONE bedroom still, it's my husband and ours. Our kids "bedroom" is in the living room, which means ALL their toys have to also be stored in the living room. I want the living room some what usable as well though so if we are over ran by toys........well. I mean well it's a given it is overran by toys but I don't need a LOT of junk toys taking up the space. So I kind of know my kids, and what they like to play with. So I give hints to my family. Like they would like more felt food for their "kitchen", or no more toys we are at our limit, but would love some books. Now again with books I am a little bit controlling again space issue, but not very. I usually say anything that Kohl's Kids Care is selling is good (usually great quality) any dr seusse (sp), any golden book, or richard scarry etc. I have other authors I give out if asked, but my parents know all those types are a given we will like.
At the same time, that's ONLY when asked! Most the time, my mom sends things she "thinks" we would like that she has thrifted at Goodwill/garage sales or what not. More often then not it's something my kids love! lol And we just have to let go of some other toy! lol haha I've NEVER asked my kids if they wanted something though I don't think. I can just tell their personalities what they like. DD1 is more of a cars/air planes type kid, IF she plays with toys but she really isn't much of a "toy" player. She would rather be DOING, and books is really what makes her happiest for gifts. Or DOING something with her, a season pass to the zoo, would be awesome for her, she just likes to DO. DD2 on the other hand is all about dollies, loves them, and loves anything to do with them. Same with food, kitchen toys plays kitchen and dollies I guess we called it "house" when I was little, daily. DD1 never cared to play "house" even when I would try to play it with her, it was my favorite as a kid.......but she never cared for it, so I never pushed her. However, DD2 seen all the toys I had bought for DD1 to play "house" and was in love and has always been that kind of kid. Oh she likes doing too, but she would just assume sit in a chair with me and/or play house. Oh she also likes the rocking horse, I bought DD1 who DD1 only cared to pet it, never cared to ride it. DD2 rides it daily. lol Funny little kids! lol
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cowgirlandboys
True Blue Farmgirl
308 Posts
Rachael
Missouri
USA
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Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 4:01:34 PM
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There is a humus tray at Aldi if you have that in your area. It is cheap premade and easy. Might be that having her mom around to help isn't help and that, being a stay at home mom might mean she hasn't had a break from her kids in a while and can't think straight. I have been there. Best wishes for your Thanksgiving!
Happy Trails!
Rachael
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LuckyMommyof5
True Blue Farmgirl
500 Posts
Suzanne
OH
USA
500 Posts |
Posted - Nov 23 2011 : 7:21:49 PM
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We had a family member a few years back who assigned EVERY other item of the meal out to other family members because she was hosting and roasting the turkey, so she thought that was "only fair." Then when we all got there, she refused to let us use her oven to reheat or bake because the turkey was in there. And there was no other alternative. Ever eat ice cold green bean casserole and half-cooked cornbread souffle? Not good!
I don't understand what happened to graciousness - if someone brings a dish, you smile, thank them and eat it. Or, if for whatever reason you can't eat it (I have an SIL who keeps making baked goods with cinnamon for us, even though she knows I'm allergic) you smile, thank them and say nothing more.
I will say, though, I'm a SAHM of 4 and I'm run off my feet every minute of every day, and I haven't had more than 5 hours of sleep a night in years.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." - Laura Ingalls Wilder |
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
985 Posts
Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - Nov 25 2011 : 4:11:29 PM
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How about this: bring 1 can of fruit cocktail, 1 can of pineapple, 1 bag minimarshmellows, 1 jar maraschino cherries, container of sour cream and a bowl. When you get to her house, ask for a strainer, drain the fruit and pineapple (reserve juice for later if you need it in a recipe). Mix all ingredience in bowl and top with cherries. You have a dish that everyone would die for. Trust me on the sour cream. Whipped cream is too sweet for this recipe.
Patience is worth a bushel of brains...from a chinese fortune cookie |
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