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Across the Fence:  Just sick about it...Update!  |
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texdane
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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 Posted - May 09 2013 : 08:05:29 AM
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Hi farmgirls,
I don't think of myself as materialistic at all, but I do get sentimental over some things. There's a few really special things I'd be sick over if they got lost or broken, such as a cake plate my mom gave me, a fairy lamp that was my grandmother's, my farmgirl necklaces, my wedding ring. Stuff like that. Stuff that can't be replaced, that's got sentimentality to it. Well, when my baby girl was in second grade, she designed a tote bag for me from a company that did fundraisers for the school. It was beautiful. She drew a yellow butterfly and it was on a black bag. Amazing for a small child, and she turned in the money secretly and brought it home for me for mother's day. I use it, because it makes her happy when I do. I keep it hanging in the closet with a few other totes. We use it for my knitting classes when I bring in some knitting books, and when we run errands like to the post office. I realized this week that I can't find it. Searched everywhere. I don't always get too worried at first, as we do have a large house (thought we'd have more than one child, but God saw otherwise), and stuff sometimes gets moved to the wrong room. However, I do work hard to keep things neat and uncluttered, and recently neatened up all the closets (not an easy feat). It is nowhere.  My dd remembers us using it at the post office and knitting classes, but that was many weeks ago. I've looked in every nook and cranny and in my car. I've left it somewhere. It's no where here. My dd wonders if it may have been stolen out of the car????? Who knows, but what I know for sure is it is gone. I am so sad. It was so special, and she is no longer little and doesn't go to that school anymore. Even if she was still there and the company could make us another one, it wouldn't be the same because she isn't that small anymore. I'm so sad. Have you ever lost something you had a sentimental attachment to? This week I misplaced the mother's day card and a sympathy card I bought. I know I put them in the car because I walked to the car and placed them in before running into the hardware store. Think I threw the bag in the trash by mistake. Seems like ever since December 14th, we have been so on the go and so distracted, I keep misplacing things. Or I'm just getting old. Either way, the bag really makes my stomach turn. Sigh....
Farmgirl hugs,
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
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Edited by - texdane on May 20 2013 05:51:29 AM |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 08:45:21 AM
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I would put a ad in a newspaper, maybe you forgot it some where.
Also how long ago was it, I wonder if the company keeps good enough files to make a another one just like it.
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
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Annika
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 09:26:08 AM
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Oh sweetie! I'm sorry, that's happened to me too. I lost the last photo of my mom and I several years ago. I was sick and frantic looking for it and never found it. I'm still upset about it. I can never replace it and now only have the image in my memories.
Two thoughts come to mind. One, have you checked your knitting group? You may have left it there..put up a lost poster? Some may have seen it. Have you checked with the post office to see if it was left there and see if it's in the lost and found?
The second one, and please consider it, is that many people who have been close to a terrible situation or tragedy, were involved in a robbery or accident, develop a small bit of PTSD for a while. It can mess with your short term memory, make you seem forgetful, frazzled, extra tired, irritable and a myriad of other things...just sayin' My MIL was in an accident before Christmas and was diagnosed by her doctor with the situation. It's pretty common. I know that she found some memory and stress exercises online and they've helped her a lot.
It doesn't mean you've gone off the deep end, it just means that you're human =}
Anyway, loves, and I'm sorry that you've lost something so precious.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do
-Eleanor Roosevelt
Annika
Farmgirl & Sister #13
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RedHoopWoman
True Blue Farmgirl
513 Posts
Kathryn
Yoder
Colorado
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 09:59:11 AM
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Nicole I'm so sorry for your loss,I understand how it feels to be heartsick over losing a sentimental item,as you know we had a house fire in October and lost everything,so many sentimental items,irreplaceable photos,Grandma's quilts and depression glass and even my engagement ring,I could go on and on.
Sometimes I can't sleep and am just so heartsick over losing these things,it feels like a good part of my life has just been erased.
But I tell myself all the time (sometimes I actually manage to convince myself) that my life and the people I love were not contained in these things and that remembering the times and people that the things represented is the important part rather than having the physical item.
It is hard though,I really hope you find it but in the case that you don't just try to think warmly of your Daughter making it and how it made you feel and just hold that feeling in your heart.
"Today's Mighty Oak is just Yesterday's Nut"
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 10:38:55 AM
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I wonder if your DD has it and is doing something special for you for Mother's Day again. That's the first thing that popped into my head as I was reading. But if not, I do hope you find it or someone else does and brings it to you. But I like the idea of your DD having it and making a surprise for you. Just a few more days.
Kris
The good beekeeper is generally more or less cranky. C.P. Dadant
www.kris-outbackfarm.blogspot.com
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
4658 Posts
Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - May 09 2013 : 11:05:24 AM
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Thanks girls. Maybe I sound a little silly, it was just a tote bag but a special one. I'm going to go to the post office and see if there's a lost and found, and keep checking. The only place I haven't looked is my dd's room. Kristin...wonder if you are right? That would be something my dd would do. Hope so. I think it made me especially sad because dd has changed so much at her new school. They really push them to grow up and be independent. And now, all of a sudden, she's taller than me (at ten years old), and while she has a lot of little girl in her left, she is so much different than just last year at this time, at elementary.
Kathryn, oh my goodness. I can't imagine having a fire and losing everything I have. Just awful. We had a chimney fire once, so scary. My whole house could have gone but thankfully our brave Sandy Hook volunteer firefighters made it in time and put it out. We were really lucky, as they said our chimney was made "over code" so that the fire was contained. You poor thing. But what a great lesson you have for us all in your post. And you are so right.
Annika,thanks for your concern. Miss talking to you. Must email you soon and get caught up. I think a lot of my forgetfulness is being over-tired and over-scheduled. My dh has been getting home really late at night from work (he works in NY, long drive) and I just keep going like the energizer bunny until he gets home. Then he eats his dinner and we chat. Set the alarm, and up at 6. Most days I'm ending up with four to five hours sleep. And I am no napper, hee hee. Not even as a baby, much to my mom's chagrin. Then, what's been happening are all the activities offered to Newtowners since 12/14. They are in an effort to help us all forget, especially our kids, and so many want to do nice things for our town. But now my friends and I agree we are over-scheduled and over tired. We really could do something, for free, almost every night. Every weekend has been like this for so long, so now I am trying really hard to not sign us up for everything. It's gotten to be too much. (Albeit too much of a good thing, we all appreciate it so much).
So now, I've peeked back here so much today that I need to log off and go get some more "stuff" done. Just love my farmsisters. Y'all are the best.
Farmgirl hugs,
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
Farmgirl of the Month, January 2013
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
2817 Posts |
Posted - May 09 2013 : 11:58:04 AM
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I'm not judging you at all when I say this, just agreeing with you. The growing up too fast, is a reason I homeschool. They have the rest of their lives to be grown ups, only a few short years to be children. I don't understand the hurry up and grow up thing that Public Schools sometimes push.
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
4810 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4810 Posts |
Posted - May 09 2013 : 12:16:46 PM
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Oh, you poor dear! I know exactly how that feels. I have a little one right now and I struggle to part with anything she does because they are only so little for so long and then...well, all those nuances are over.
I have lost something precious to me--and I was sick over it for about 3 years. When my husband and I talked about marriage, I told him not to get me an engagement ring (to which he balked) because, well, I'd been married before and I guess I felt like I didn't need to go "all out", even though I didn't have one the first go round, either. He insisted, but I didn't want a traditional new fangled ring--so we compromised. I wanted a Victorian Gypsy ring--a wider gold band with an inset diamond. To satisfy both the wedding band AND engagement ring. We went looking at all the estate jewlers in the area and found the perfect ring at a little shop in Bellevue. When he went back to put a deposit on it on payday (a mere 2 days later) it was gone!
And, so, I simply let him decide. A few years later, just before my 30th birthday, I went to the same jeweler to peruse and THERE WAS ANOTHER GYPSY RING!!!!! I called him and put it in layaway the very same second. It was from 1890, and inscribed, "From Joseph" and I recieved it on my 30th birthday. Could not have been happier and it was a fixture on my right hand every single day until about when Violet was 9 months old. I had lost some baby weight and it was late Autumn, so my fingers shrink with the cold. I got ready to leave the house that night with my gloves on and went to get my hair done. I guess when I took my gloves off, my ring came with it. While I was sitting in the hair dresser's chair, I felt my fingers...where was my ring? Gone. Gone and never to be found again--it was so dark the night I lost it, I couldn't see and even a flashlight didn't help. I never heard it "ping" on the sidewalk or street or anything. It wasn't in my glove, it wasn't in the car. I actually threw up I was so upset. My hair dresser still looks outside for it, even after all these years!
I have a new ring now that was purchased for me at Christmas from the same old jeweler--a lovely rose gold Victorian crown set diamond that is lovely, and even though I am grateful to have it, it's not that ring.
I do hope your bag turns up--back track and call all the places you normally go. I've got a good mind it will show up!!!
"Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile..."
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
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Cindy
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 3:29:59 PM
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Sometimes things do turn up after years. I had a dog tag for Boxer years ago and it fell off his collar. It was heart-shaped. Just last week, Jaxon was out in the dog pen digging and he dug up Boxer's old dog tag. Don't give up, it may turn up when you least expect it.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead O'Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
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Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 4:23:38 PM
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Oh Nicole,
I can totally sympathize with how you are feeling. In fact I have many similar items (probably from the same company- we used Silver Graphics through our school) that my two children made for me. I have their artwork on dishtowels, coffee mugs, water bottles, notepads etc etc. These items are indeed precious because our little ones made them for us. I am sorry you cant find the tote bag, but it may just turn up yet, when you aren't even looking for it.
Keep the faith my friend.
I will say a Little Jesus Lost and Found prayer for you!
Hugs,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
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Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - May 09 2013 : 8:27:40 PM
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Nicole: I don't think you are being silly. I will keep that tote bag in my prayers.
Hugs to you.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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HemetGardener
True Blue Farmgirl
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Terri
Hemet
CA
USA
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Posted - May 10 2013 : 11:48:24 AM
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Oh Nicole and Kathryn,
So sorry for your losses. I lost a bunch of things in a move, including my daughter's baby book with birth certificate in it, quilts I had made, all my shoes except the ones I had on and many other sentimental things. So I know how you feel.
But remember your bag is only misplaced. Growing up Catholic we prayed to St. Jude to help find things. Now I just ask God directly. I think you should check the post office. I have left a bag there when I was doing errands and was able to recover it.
Terri
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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Posted - May 10 2013 : 5:48:16 PM
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@Heather, I agree with you. Especially the 5th/6th grade school my dd goes to. They push the kids to grow up. I would have homeschooled, looked into it, if she was not an only child. I do do alot of what my homeschooling friends do with their kids when she is home with me, though. We are together alot.
@Jonni, I can only imagine how sad you were to lose that ring. Made my stomach turn reading about it...I feel for you. And Nini, how heartbreaking your story is.
I did go to the post office, it wasn't there. :( It's just got to be around here somewhere, but it hasn't turned up yet. I can't recall taking it anywhere else but knitting class, and the books are back on the shelf that I took with me. So frustrating.
I once put my keys in the freezer absentmindedly when I was going through my grocery list on the way out the door. Hopefully it will turn up like that...that I put it somewhere that I just haven't found it yet. Audrey is upset too, because she made it "special". If I find it, I won't use it out and about again!!
Hugs,
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
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MtnGrlByTheBay
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Erin
Lexington Park
MD
USA
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Posted - May 13 2013 : 07:42:04 AM
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You know... sometimes those art companies keep records of the art made into tote bags. My boys have done stuff through Square One art, and their art is still available to make into things and purchase them. Maybe call the company?
^^^I'm a RidgeRunner, and will always feel best when surrounded by the PA mountains.^^^
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shanda
True Blue Farmgirl
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Shanda
Broken Bow
OK
USA
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Posted - May 13 2013 : 12:32:01 PM
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Just an idea. Maybe you could call the company that made it. Mabe they archive their order designs. Maybe, just maybe they could remake the bag? Who knows, it may be worth a shot.
Good Luck
Shanda
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patchworkpeace
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Judy
Jackson
Michigan
USA
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Posted - May 15 2013 : 06:26:32 AM
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((((Hugs!))) to you, Nicole.
Success is measured not by the position one reaches but by the obstacles one has to overcome to reach it. Booker T. Washington
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
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Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - May 15 2013 : 07:11:02 AM
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I feel for you. We were robbed 1 month before we got married. We live very remote. Our house was having some remodeling done so we were staying at mils not far away.it was blueberry harvest in August and the area had alot of migrant workers due to harvest. Our door was left unlocked (who'd ever know our house was there) and my new safe. (New to me) was shut but not locked. And we were sleeping in the downstairs bedroom (now my son's room) . I came over to get something in my looked in my room and saw all my jewelry gone which included my wedding jewelry which my husband bought me for my birthday that July. They had found my safe and took almost everything. My grandmother was a very good cook. She made almost everything from scratch. She died that previous February. I got to go through her things from which I grabbed recipes written in her writing and her mothers. They just reached in and grabbe and in that stack were her recipes. They took a lane cedar chest sampler which had my class ring from high-school, a horse ring from service merchandise my parents bought me when I graduated college, a vintage velvet hand clutch this same grandmother gave me as well as a cross pendant. I was sick. Never found anything. The sheriff's office took the report but they were basically useless too. Still hurts.
Lorie
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HemetGardener
True Blue Farmgirl
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Terri
Hemet
CA
USA
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Posted - May 15 2013 : 5:30:59 PM
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Lorena,
I'm sorry. I know how it feels to lose irreplaceable things. You have to just let it go. Maybe you will find some similar things to fill that emptiness.
I lost a watercolor painting I did in a class in 1986 about 7 years ago. Since I moved to Hemet, I have met the instructor's wife and she sold me the watercolor painting we used as our model. Such a small world and God comforts us in unusual ways.
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queenmushroom
True Blue Farmgirl
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Lorena
Centerville
Me
USA
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Posted - May 16 2013 : 05:38:26 AM
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Basically I have let it go. It just hurts sometimes.
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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Posted - May 20 2013 : 05:57:13 AM
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@Lorena, I am so sorry to hear about what happened. Especially knowing someone did that to you. Just awful and I can imagine it will always hurt. Hugs to you.
Good news, I found my bag!!!!! Thank you girls! You were all so right! It was in the sewing room. It was in a dark wood cabinet I had looked in before, but it was folded in half, and underneath a bunch of knitting pattern books. I don't remember putting it there, must have done so absent-mindedly. I was so happy to find it. My little girl is growing up, and her drawings don't have that "little kid" look to them anymore, and this was so special. Thanks so much for your prayers and support, and for not thinking I was silly. Love you all!
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
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Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
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Kirksmom71
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Mel
Dallas
Texas
USA
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Posted - May 24 2013 : 1:37:49 PM
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Nicole....now you just need to frame the bag so you can't lose it again! :)
My best to all,
Mel
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
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Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - May 24 2013 : 2:09:39 PM
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Yay! So glad you found it, Nicole! Isn't that just the way?! :) Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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HemetGardener
True Blue Farmgirl
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Terri
Hemet
CA
USA
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Posted - May 24 2013 : 2:14:42 PM
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Nicole,
I am so happy for you.
Yippee!!!
Terri
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
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Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
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Posted - May 24 2013 : 5:30:10 PM
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Hooray Nicole!
I was so happy to see the update, and that you did indeed find the bag.
I just love happy endings!
Enjoy your weekend,
Hugs,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
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Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant.
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
4658 Posts |
Posted - May 27 2013 : 07:03:29 AM
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Thanks, girls!
Hugs!
Nicole
Farmgirl Sister #1155
KNITTER, JAM-MAKER AND MOM EXTRAORDINAIRE
Chapter Leader, Connecticut Simpler Life Sisters
Farmgirl of the Month, January 2013
Suburban Farmgirl Blogger
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