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Family Matters:  Old and Pregant, Things to do on bedrest?  |
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summerbreeze
True Blue Farmgirl
277 Posts
Laura
WA
USA
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 Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 1:09:58 PM
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I posted back in August that I was having trouble creating a family. I thank everyone for all the support. We spent the next month sending in applications for adoption and applying to be foster parents. My husband felt strongly that we should make one more IVF attempt, I agreed if he promised this would be the last one. Surprise, surprise the last one worked. IVF attempt number 11 was successful. I have started my second trimester and everything looks good. It started out as a twin pregnancy and we lost one, Dr. tells me this is very common. I have been on bedrest since the middle os September. I have 10 days left of the bedrest and then he said I should be able to be up and around.
I'm bored! I have addressed all my holiday cards, read more books than I can count. I now know what I gave up tv several years ago, nothing but mostly garbage. Any ideas on things to do?
Laura
You only live once,if you do it right once is enough. |
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bybiddie
True Blue Farmgirl
267 Posts
susan
upstate
ny
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 1:15:40 PM
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Congratulations, Laura! I would go CRAZY if I had to stay in bed... Do you do any handwork, like knitting or crocheting? If not, you could pick up a starter's kit and knit or crochet a scarf or something easy! Sounds like you'll be "up" for the holidays - thank goodness, no?
Lovin' my life |
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country lawyer
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 1:32:14 PM
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Laura, Fantastic news! Congratulations! How "old" are you, by the way? My advice? Just focus on that child you are growing! Lay there and focus on that precious life your body is supporting. I know "bedrest" is difficult. "Bedrest" was ordered during my pregnancy. I swear the doctor didn't actually define "bedrest" for me so what I was doing was definitely NOT "bedrest." But, it cost me. I had an emergency c-section one month before the due date. All this said in order to get you to just lay there! If I had to do it over again, I'd watch all that TV, rent my favorite movies, read all those books (have you read MaryJane's?), design my next garden, learn how to do those Sudoku puzzles, get my friends over to entertain me, jabber on the phone, and LET people help me (my hardest part)...I'm telling you, I'd perfect the art of "bedrest." Hope you can figure out how to sit still!
"The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time."
James Taylor
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Phils Ann
True Blue Farmgirl
1095 Posts
Ann
Parsonsburg
Maryland
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 1:42:30 PM
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Laura, congratulations! I am so delighted for your pregnancy. Rebekah's advise sounds so good... I tried for babies until I was forty, and I remember how frustrating that was--you can do this bed rest for a bit longer! It may be the last rest you have for a few years, right?
XO,
Ann
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frannie
True Blue Farmgirl
2246 Posts
fran
bonham
texas
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 1:59:20 PM
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sorry to hear you are going thru this, but it is for a great cause! i also have heard of the phenomena of the of the twin with the loss of one with the invitro.
anywho, was wondering if this might not be a good time for you and relatives to go through old photos and put info on the back of them. i think it is compatible with staying on bedrest and it is one of those things that people are always going to do. also it would be a good thing to do as a soon to be mom cause you could hear all the family stories on your side and your dh's side about the different folks in the familys past. just a thought.
please keep us posted on your pregnancy and new baby. i'll be thinking of you.
love
fran
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salt.marsh.selkie
Farmgirl at Heart
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Marie
Woburn
MA
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 2:41:04 PM
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Hi Laura,
Congratulations! I'm 43 and just beginning to try to make a family.
I can only imagine the frustration that you must be feeling. But, what a wonderful thing to create a life...no matter how much "assistance" it took. You are awesome for sticking in there and reaching out for ideas.
A thought...Have you written any journal entries/letters/stories for this little being? Now, while you're lying there, might be a good time to write her/him a little note. Maybe a whole book of thoughts, if it helps. Once he/she comes there won't be much time for all the lovely resting you get to do now. And the quiet moments. Maybe tell your child about you, your family, your thoughts, maybe even your frustrations. You could write it to the little child, or to the adult they will become. I would treasure an opportunity to read my mother's thoughts and stories from when she carried me.
My sister made the entire family funky Christmas stocking when she was on bedrest. Starting with the baby to be. And my sister-in-law organized all of her recipe clippings (a mighty feat!)
Along with the ideas, know that you have a whole host of farmgals cheering you on!
-Marie |
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Nancy Gartenman
True Blue Farmgirl
9094 Posts
Nancy
West Seneca
New York
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 2:46:11 PM
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LAURA,
Easy for me to say, but please try and look ahead, time really does go so fast, even though you are thinking, ah, no it doesn't, ask yourself what will I be doing six months from now? My bet is the answer will be, please let me lay down, those new little ones can wear you out, but so well worth it. You can do it, because the long term results are so worth it.
Now as far as what to do, I have to go along with what all the other girls said, and get on this site as much as you can, we will try and keep you entertained.
NANACY JO |
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Bluewrenn
True Blue Farmgirl
1122 Posts
Erin
Texas
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 3:16:47 PM
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How about reading baby name books?
knitting or crochet, or if you don't do either, what about cross-stitch or some other type craft? Esp. if you can use it to make something for the baby's room.
Scrapbooking to make an album for the baby...?
Puzzles or word games?
The genealogy idea was a great one!!!
My Homesteading Journal http://toomyvara.livejournal.com
My craft journal http://bluewrenn.livejournal.com
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summerbreeze
True Blue Farmgirl
277 Posts
Laura
WA
USA
277 Posts |
Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 6:51:21 PM
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Hi Ladies,
Thanks for the great ideas. I knit but maybe now is a great time to learn to crochet. I am currently 42 and will be 43 when the baby arrives. I keep wanting to tell the Dr. off every time he refers to my "advanced maternal age". I don't feel old. I will send hubby out for a puzzle book tonight. Thanks for all the support.
Laura
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Norskema
True Blue Farmgirl
98 Posts
Candace
Central Indiana Area
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 6:56:25 PM
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Do you know caligraphy? I think that might be a good mind-absorbing thing to try and learn. Of course, you'll have to go back and re-address all those holiday cards once you perfect the technique! lol As the mom of five, I can tell you there is nothing more important than what you're doing right now. Those 10 days will pass soon and you can begin to ease back into some of your routine. For now, savor the special time nurturing yourself and your little miracle!
Every way of a man seems right to himself but the Lord is the tester of hearts. Proverbs 21:2 |
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 8:18:29 PM
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Laura - Congratulations!!! I had my second when I was 43. Do not let that doctor say that to you! My second pregnancy was my best. The doctors kept a very close eye on things but everything was fine. Crochet would be great or any kind of hand work. How about a journal and write to your baby? Tell the little one how you and dad met, about your lives as children, how much you wanted this baby, all the things that you went through to have him or her, etc. I have one of these books that I did for my youngest and I love to go back and read it. I'm keeping it until she graduates from high school and will give it to her then.
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
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Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2006 : 10:03:35 PM
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congratulations Laura. take care of yourself.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
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~Tracey~
True Blue Farmgirl
351 Posts
Tracey
TN
USA
351 Posts |
Posted - Oct 25 2006 : 06:38:21 AM
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Oh Laura, CONGRATULATIONS!!
A pregnancy journal to the baby is a wonderful thing to do. I did that for each of my children and continued them, will they still continue... I will give them their journals when they leave the nest!!
Tracey,
mama to Callum 13, Katie 8, Wil 5.5, Benjamin 3 and Andrew 6 months!!
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Nance in France
True Blue Farmgirl
1438 Posts
Nancy
St. Laurent de la Salanque
France
1438 Posts |
Posted - Oct 25 2006 : 08:55:41 AM
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| Warm well wishes for a speedy and interesting ten days and hearty congratulations on the little prize that lies ahead!! Maybe your hubby can go out and buy you ten inexpensive treats, one to open each of the ten days you have left. If you've been reading magazines that might end up in the trash otherwise, maybe cut or tear out pictures and words that interest you and make a collage or two. All the gals have offered wonderful ideas, so now you only HAVE ten days to choose and do one or two..... Wishing happy days ahead for you, Nance |
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Jami
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jami
Ellensburg
WA
USA
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Posted - Oct 26 2006 : 08:07:38 AM
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Hi Laura:
I understand bedrest after recuperating from surgery and going bonkers with boredom in the process (this was before I had learned to knit). Ten days seems like a long time, but what a sweet surprise you will have at the end of it! Congrats.
Variety is the spice of bedrest, crossword puzzles, handwork, talk to a friend on the phone once in a while, read the Wall Street Journal (one paper will take you 10 days to get through! You'll amaze your husband when he comes home at night with all of your worldly insight! It's jam-packed full of things you probably never think about but are going on in the world), take up origami...well, I know we're reaching on that one! Reading time is such a treasure...enjoy it...life will change soon enough. I wish you could "hoard sleep"...you would enjoy it later! The journal idea is great.
Take care of yourself and your baby. I am sorry to hear of you losing the twin...you must have so many emotions going on at once!
Jami |
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kitchensqueen
True Blue Farmgirl
521 Posts
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Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 10:10:40 AM
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Cross-stitch or embroidery might be fun, and you could make a name plaque or something for the baby. Or how about music-- you could learn to play piano on a small keyboard or get a lap harp and learn some lullabies.
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ILoveBaskets14
True Blue Farmgirl
76 Posts
Stefanie
Cross Lanes
WV
USA
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Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 4:11:14 PM
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Hello Laura and congrats on your pregancy. I have been on bedrest three times well with all three of my childern. It really is boring I now, but think your baby will be here soon and you will be up and about with that little one, so get all the rest you can.
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