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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl

2348 Posts

Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area Texas
2348 Posts

Posted - Dec 24 2014 :  06:45:17 AM  Show Profile
I've made it through the holiday season without a breakdown...until this morning.

Today, my Moma and I would be doing all the cooking prep for the Eve meal and the Christmas Day meal. Actually, It goes further back to my Nanny, Great-Aunts and my Moma all in the kitchen. I've lost all of them through the years....my Moma this past year.

My daughters are working today. So, I'm alone in the kitchen with no one to talk to or laugh with or make memories with.

The kitchen usually brings me great joy and comfort. Right now, I just want to run away.

Catherine
Sister #76 (2005)
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.

cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl

2348 Posts

Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area Texas
2348 Posts

Posted - Dec 24 2014 :  06:48:33 AM  Show Profile
I know several of you are dealing with loss and grief. I am praying for your comfort.

Catherine
Sister #76 (2005)
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.

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hudsonsinaf
True Blue Farmgirl

3153 Posts

Shannon
Rozet Wyoming
USA
3153 Posts

Posted - Dec 24 2014 :  07:46:56 AM  Show Profile
(((HUGS))) I too am praying for everyone's comfort!!! Remembering the good times with loved ones as the tears run down my face. Praising God that Christmas is when we celebrate the Hope of life eternal! I'm clinging to that extra tight this year!!!

~ Shannon

http://hudson-everydayblessings.blogspot.com/
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YellowRose
True Blue Farmgirl

5991 Posts

Sara
Paris TX
USA
5991 Posts

Posted - Dec 24 2014 :  08:14:54 AM  Show Profile
Catherine, and all who are grieving today, I pray for the Lord's peace that surpasses all understanding to flow over you and may his grace keep you.

Sara
Walk in Peace - Live with Joy
FarmGirl Sister #6034 Aug 25, 2014
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl

13055 Posts


Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts

Posted - Jan 01 2015 :  1:21:06 PM  Show Profile
Catherine: I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs.
Marly

"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross
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sherone_13
True Blue Farmgirl

2449 Posts

Sherone
Evanston WY
USA
2449 Posts

Posted - Jan 02 2015 :  06:10:39 AM  Show Profile
Allow yourself the "crazy cries". They are very important in the grieving process.

Sherone

Farmgirl Sister #1682

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Dapple Grey Lady
True Blue Farmgirl

670 Posts

Betty
Goodrich Texas
USA
670 Posts

Posted - Jan 02 2015 :  08:55:24 AM  Show Profile
Sherone, your comment "crazy cries" just about sums it up for me. Those moments hit so unexpectantly. I have to remind myself of the memories I cherish so much of my sister. Things were different this Christmas but we all got through it.

~ Betty ~
Farmgirl Sister # 5589
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl

1868 Posts

Joey
Gulf Coast FL
USA
1868 Posts

Posted - Jan 23 2015 :  09:03:32 AM  Show Profile
Just want you to know that I am thinking of you today and holding you close in my heart. Sending hugs and prayers to you. Joey

Well behaved women rarely make history.
Farmgirl #5554
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl

1007 Posts

~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts

Posted - Jan 30 2015 :  06:38:29 AM  Show Profile
GRIEF !!! argh !!!
I know what it is...mu nubby passed from pancreatic cancer 1 1/2yrs ago and just when I think I am making progress,,something else takes me right back to nothing....
I am thinking about you and your grief...I am sooo sorry....


Farmgirl Sister #368
~~*Terri*~~
Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl

2348 Posts

Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area Texas
2348 Posts

Posted - Jan 30 2015 :  07:06:52 AM  Show Profile
Terri, while I've experienced the pain of loss of my sister, grandparents, parents and others, I do not know the pain you have had of losing a husband. A year and a half is still really fresh. I'm sorry for your loss. I am praying for you, too.

Catherine
Sister #76 (2005)
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.

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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl

1007 Posts

~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts

Posted - Jan 30 2015 :  07:43:15 AM  Show Profile
THANKS !!!


Farmgirl Sister #368
~~*Terri*~~
Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl

1007 Posts

~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts

Posted - Feb 19 2021 :  10:51:23 PM  Show Profile
Well, Farmgirl Sisters...its been 7 1/2 years since hubby passed and i still miss him despretely, but, i can go on with life now...
Dont want anyone new...lol
Sooo, im here to say from experience, it does get easier....

Farmgirl Sister #368
~~*Terri*~~
Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl

3715 Posts

Dianna
Jack Al.
USA
3715 Posts

Posted - Feb 20 2021 :  07:56:56 AM  Show Profile
Terri, I'm so sorry, the pain and missing your mate, loved one, family member NEVER goes away!!! (unless one has no love) I feel your grief and broken heart. We love so deeply we ache as deeply when they are gone. I pray you have the hope of reuniting with him one day! Thats what gives me strength to continue on each day. Hope! We are wonderfully and fearfully made in God's image. Hearts of love, compassion and HOPE!! Nothing can replace our loves! Sending you hugs and prayers......

Farmgirl #7103
FGOTM January 2018
Dianna
"Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl

3715 Posts

Dianna
Jack Al.
USA
3715 Posts

Posted - Feb 20 2021 :  07:57:57 AM  Show Profile
BTW, I just had a friend named Terri lose her husband 2 weeks ago plus a huge financial mess to boot. :(

Farmgirl #7103
FGOTM January 2018
Dianna
"Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl

1007 Posts

~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts

Posted - Feb 20 2021 :  10:18:55 AM  Show Profile
Thanks Suny58..
I feel for your friend Terri, as I was...
I call it "grief insanity" ...I was left w a financial mess too....
I can think now but there's not a day goes by that I don't miss him...
YES !!!....I WILL SEE HIM AGAIN...thats probably what keeps me going....
Thanks for your CARE.....

Farmgirl Sister #368
~~*Terri*~~
Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
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jmpiercy
True Blue Farmgirl

378 Posts

Joan
Lansing North Carolina
USA
378 Posts

Posted - Dec 23 2021 :  08:28:04 AM  Show Profile
Ladies, I just came across this chat. I just lost my husband unexpectedly this past September. I have children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, but "my person" is gone. There is this huge hole that nothing can fill. I have lost grandparents, parents, a brother, a son, and now my husband. I know God is with me and will get me through this, but sometimes it certainly doesn't feel like it. It is comforting to know farmgirl sisters have been and are going through this grieving process. I pray for God to comfort all of us. May we all have a good Christmas and New Year.

Joan P.
Farmgirl Sister #8056

"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth." - William W. Purkey

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Phillippians 4:13
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl

4497 Posts

Dawn
Naperville Illinois
USA
4497 Posts

Posted - Dec 23 2021 :  3:46:36 PM  Show Profile
A big hug to you Joan. I'm so sorry for your loss. This time of year brings so many memories of those who are no longer with us. I pray you find comfort in those memories.

Dawn in IL

"One kind word can warm three winter months."
Japanese Proverb
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl

3715 Posts

Dianna
Jack Al.
USA
3715 Posts

Posted - Dec 23 2021 :  4:13:59 PM  Show Profile
Joan, there's not a day that goes by that I don't lift you up in prayer as well as many of my other farmsister who have experienced grief, loss, hardship and sickness. One day this great sadness will no longer be and will be replaced with great joy. We shall see our loved ones again, no more sickness or sorrow! I long for that day! Hugs to all

Farmgirl #7103
FGOTM January 2018
Dianna
"Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro

Edited by - suny58 on Dec 23 2021 4:14:32 PM
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jmpiercy
True Blue Farmgirl

378 Posts

Joan
Lansing North Carolina
USA
378 Posts

Posted - Dec 23 2021 :  8:25:33 PM  Show Profile
Thank you, Dawn and Dianna!


Joan P.
Farmgirl Sister #8056

"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
Love like you'll never be hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening,
And live like it's heaven on earth." - William W. Purkey

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Phillippians 4:13
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