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shelbyc
True Blue Farmgirl

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shannon
murdale british columbia
Canada
71 Posts

Posted - Aug 30 2016 :  9:19:27 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm having such a hard time with my Daughter still having accidents in her pants. I used cloth diapers on her til she was just over two, then procceded to potty train her. She's very smart,and has no problems, fast forward,she is now five and a half years, and we're still struggling along! She might go 2-3 days, but she has so many accidents normally. I've tried giving her a sticker every time, a Smarty, let her watch a little tv, take away tv priviledges she did get 1 full week this summer and I took her to her first movie as a reward! Next I said we'd go on a new bycycle trail in town and have a picnic. I've even resorted to a slap on the bum lately but can't say that helped either. Any suggestions?

churunga
True Blue Farmgirl

3079 Posts

Marie
Minneapolis MN
USA
3079 Posts

Posted - Aug 31 2016 :  05:47:57 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Take her to the doctor. She may have a medical problem with is causing. I had an intermittent problem of this nature in grade school that was mostly about being embarrassed about asking permission to go to the bathroom. Later, I would wet in bed. My mom took me to the doctor and I got a prescription for these pills. I remember them because they didn't come in a bottle but in this slider contraption and my mother made certain I took one every morning. They may have been real medicine or they may have been not. All I know is that they worked and I didn't have this problem anymore. I also remember going to the chiropractor for an adjustment which also helped.

Marie, Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.

Edited by - churunga on Aug 31 2016 05:52:02 AM
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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Aug 31 2016 :  4:35:11 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I agree. Take her to the doctor. When I worked in day care we had a boy with a similar problem and when the mom finally took him to the doctor they found he had diabetes. Poor thing. Once they got him on medicine he was able to control himself and didn't have anymore accidents. I hope everything is alright with your daughter and you can get things figured out soon. Good luck!

Krista
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Marilyn Hartman Sullivan
True Blue Farmgirl

1134 Posts

Marilyn
Oxford PA
USA
1134 Posts

Posted - Sep 01 2016 :  09:59:37 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Yep -- I'm in the "take her to the doctor" group on this. No sense in making everyone miserable and more work for yourself, when there could be something as simple as a bladder infection that could be cleared up easily. Good luck, Mommy and Daughter!

Farmgirl #6318
"Where there's a will -- there's probably a family fight."
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shelbyc
True Blue Farmgirl

71 Posts

shannon
murdale british columbia
Canada
71 Posts

Posted - Sep 03 2016 :  9:32:37 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Ok thanks ladies, I've got an appointment Sept.19. So I'll see what he says.
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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Sep 05 2016 :  2:46:45 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Good luck Shannon. Let us know how it goes.

Krista
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chumama
Farmgirl in Training

13 Posts

Amanda
Richmond VA
USA
13 Posts

Posted - Sep 10 2016 :  07:10:09 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I'm interested to know how this goes. I have a 5 and a half year old(son) with a similar ongoing problem but being a no-doctor mom, or rather doctor-mom myself I'll just keep working with him... Hope you find something out! I believe with around this age that a lot of the 'problem' has to do with habit. Children that have already experienced wetting themselves so much may have actually become comfortable with the sensation in a sort of way and so it really is just about breaking the habit. When I was out of town for a spell last year he made progress when my friend keeping him worked with him... it was all about empowerment and him taking over his own body. Once he went for a day, then two and so on it got easier but somewhere along the way he went right back since then. I'm remaining patient but it is VERY frustrating, sometimes embarrassing, exhausting... but I know with us sticking to being aware/supportive/patient... we will have dry pants afterall!!!
<3

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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Sep 23 2016 :  12:51:32 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Shannon, how did the appointment go? Did you find out what's going on?

Krista
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shelbyc
True Blue Farmgirl

71 Posts

shannon
murdale british columbia
Canada
71 Posts

Posted - Sep 30 2016 :  11:20:40 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Hi there, I took my daughter to the doctor. He sent her to have a urine test, that should say if there is any problem. If not, then he will refer us to a pediatric doctor would could look into any thing else. I shall keep you informed when I know more.
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shelbyc
True Blue Farmgirl

71 Posts

shannon
murdale british columbia
Canada
71 Posts

Posted - Nov 06 2016 :  5:19:55 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Hi, just wanted to let you know that I went back again to the doctor to see the results of the urine test. It was normal, he said before he would refer her to a pediatritian, that he would like to prescribe imipramine hydrochloride for her for a month or so and see if that helped with her wetting. From what I understood him to say, it helps you retain water better, and is a mild form of anti-depressant. I haven't gotten the prescription filled yet, because I just don't think she should be given any drugs for this problem. Blood tests and urine tests are both good. Maybe a little more time and work at home will help. The pills scared me.
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl

4170 Posts

Dawn
Naperville Illinois
USA
4170 Posts

Posted - Nov 07 2016 :  04:57:54 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Shannon, if you get a chance look up the information for the prescription online to see what others have to say about it. I agree that jumping in with meds. just to see what happens is a bad idea, especially for a young child.

Years ago our old grade school offered a seminar on toilet training problems for kids that I went to. My youngest son was 3 and I was concerned he wasn't trained yet. Turned out when I got there I was the only parent who's child's issue was under the age of 5. Some parents had kids as old as 12 with problems. The women who did the seminar were excellent and worked at the Little Friends school in another town. They did these seminars all the time, since this is a issue that no one cares to talk about in public. The majority of the parents there didn't have kids with any special needs, just bathroom issues.

I followed their advice back then and my son, (now 13) was trained in one weekend. Try inquiring at the school if they know of any such seminar/class in your area. They may be able to advise you on someone you can talk too if there isn't that type of class available.

Best of luck getting this problem dealt with,
Dawn in IL

"We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses." Abraham Lincoln

Edited by - ddmashayekhi on Nov 07 2016 12:25:25 PM
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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Nov 07 2016 :  09:59:31 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Shannon, I agree. Medications wouldn't be my first choice for your young daughter. Especially an anti-depressant. Maybe get a second opinion or look into those seminars Dawn was talking about above. If it were me I would keep looking around before I jumped right into medication. Good luck. Keep us posted on what you do and find out.

Krista
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl

7069 Posts

Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7069 Posts

Posted - Nov 15 2016 :  3:21:23 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Shannon, I think it was easier for me because I had a little boy. A friend had told me to toss a few Cheerios into the commode and let him aim and shoot, like a video game. That worked like a charm! LOL! Maybe you can figure out some sort of game like that... For example, adding blue food color to the potty water and seeing how green she can make it, or red to orange, if you get my drift. The most important thing is NOT to get upset with her (although, believe me, I do know that is so much easier to say than to do), because that stress will only make this that much worse on both of you. I know it's hard, but to be honest, kids really do things at their own pace. And I do not at all want to make light of this stressful situation, but you know that she will want to use the commode once she is around friends all day in school. I wonder if perhaps there is some other reason that she is having bladder control issues - more psychological? Have you considered having her talk with a counselor? You have already done so much to encourage her with positive reinforcement... Most kids would do anything to receive treats and privileges. I wonder if there is more going on there in her sweet little mind than you know, God love and bless her. I am willing to bet she is just as embarrassed, frustrated and upset by this as you are. Please try to continue to be patient. Breathe. You are a great Mom who is trying, and I am willing to bet she is trying her best to please you and do what other kids her age do. I know she's almost six, but my heart tells me that she would want to do this if she could. Please give her more patience and time. Maybe if she talks to a professional that will make the difference. Hang in there, Mom. Big hugs - Nini

Farmgirl Sister #1974

God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!

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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Nov 16 2016 :  11:06:04 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Nini, I love your Cherrio idea! I am definitely going to try that! I still have quite some time before I need to worry about potty training but I'm storing this information for later.

Krista
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl

7069 Posts

Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7069 Posts

Posted - Nov 16 2016 :  3:31:39 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
LOL! Krista - when my girlfriend told me to try it, I thought she was brilliant! And it really did work! He LOVED it! The problem I had with potty training was that, every time he went, he would strip completely naked and want a brand new change of clothes. I have NO idea where that came from, but, if it was going to get him to use the potty, I was in! LOL! Kids do the darndest things, honest to Pete!!! LOL! Hugs - Nini

Farmgirl Sister #1974

God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!

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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Nov 17 2016 :  11:49:19 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Oh goodness! That would be my luck since he already likes to be naked! I think it's a boy thing!

Krista
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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl

3603 Posts

Krista
Utah
USA
3603 Posts

Posted - Apr 06 2017 :  11:59:45 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Oh Nini, I was thinking about you last night and your Cherrio idea! My little guy has started showing interest in potty training and you instantly popped in my mind! Love having you as a Farmgirl Sister!

Krista
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