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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 04:19:29 AM
Please keep my DD in your prayers. She called me this morning and told me that her DH doesn't want to be married anymore. She changed her whole life for him and now this. She married him 4 years ago this August 19th. He said he was going to leave the military and they would make a life here in WI. That all changed...he stayed in and just got back from his third tour in Iraq this past January. She has gone along with all his changed plans and held down the homefront while he was deployed. Now this! I feel so bad for her. He says that he loves her but is not in love with her. I say that staying in love is something that we choose to do. She is very upset and confused and also far away in SC. I think he needs some post traumatic stress therapy, but he refuses to go. Please keep Shannon in your prayers during this tough time.
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farmgirl sister #922
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| debtea2 |
Posted - Apr 28 2011 : 6:21:00 PM
Your DD is one beautiful woman who deserves better
i'm praying for her and you that she finds her way..
he sounds like an immature boy and lol most of them are
but there are plenty of great ones out there..
blessings deborah
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Apr 28 2011 : 2:50:49 PM
Thank you for all your prayers. My DD decided that instead of wasting the ticket to SC that she and her friend Brooke are going down to Myrtle Beach for a girl's weekend. I think she needs this break and I am so glad her friend is going with her. She will be getting divorced and needs to just disconnect from her DH. She needs to get off the roller-coaster ride and stay off. This girl's weekend will help. Brooke has been her friend since 1st grade. Brooke is happily married with one child and one on the way. She will be on the beach with her little baby bump! They are going on Friday, May 6th until Monday, May 9th. My DD's 26th birthday is May 3rd. I am so glad she will be celebrating it soaking up some sunshine with her bestie.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - Apr 27 2011 : 06:56:17 AM
Diane,
I'm still praying . . . it's just so much of a "roller coaster"!!
I'm sorry you all are going through this!
CJ
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| Joey |
Posted - Apr 26 2011 : 4:26:35 PM
You daughter is beautiful. Sorry she (and you) are going through all this heartache. She is blessed to have her family to support her. Sending warm thoughts, hugs and prayer to you all, Joey
Well behaved women rarely make history. |
| embchicken |
Posted - Apr 21 2011 : 10:15:34 AM
What a beautiful picture. Your DD is probably better off not going. If your SIL is acting in such an unstable manner she is safer at home than with him. Still, I understand our wish to pray for him. He does sound like he is at a breaking point. I am praying that he finds the strength within himself to seek help. I am praying for you and our DD as well. I agree with Kristin, when our children (even when they are adults) are going through tough times i think we, as moms, feel the pain twice for them. I just hope that everthing turns out the best for both your DD and SIL.
~ Elaine
"Be the change you wish to see in the world." - Gandhi
Farmgirl sister #2882
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Apr 21 2011 : 09:04:06 AM
Remembering the happier days.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Apr 21 2011 : 08:01:49 AM
Diane, this sounds like my Dd and her husband. They just can't seem to get it together. I think it's harder on us than them. All the on again off again, ups and downs. I can't handle it. I hope you are doing ok with all this. I will be thinking of you both and him. It sounds like he is at a breaking point. I hope he doesn't do anything to hurt himself.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| crafter |
Posted - Apr 21 2011 : 07:43:54 AM
Diane,
I'm sorry that there is so much struggling. I will keep everyone in my prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can help with, dear friend. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.
Lori |
| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Apr 21 2011 : 06:18:22 AM
Update on my DD. She wasn't hired at the veterinarian job, but was hired at a doggy day care place called Dawg Zone. We have 2 of her dogs here and have fallen into a routine. My DD is starting to feel better and then wham. He says he is sorry for everything and wants to have her come down for a few days. So, we buy a ticket and make plans. Then, last night he is texting her that maybe she shouldn't come down. He says he is really messed up and that she has started a new life in WI so maybe she should just stay here and be done with him. I am kind of relieved that she won't be going. I was really worried, he is all over the place. I think he is having a break down. He won't get help, period. I need prayers this time for my SIL. I have a gut feeling that he is at his breaking point.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| staci860 |
Posted - Mar 04 2011 : 05:17:14 AM
Amen!
Blessings, staci FG# 973
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Joshua 24:15 - ...choose this day whom you will serve,...as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Mar 04 2011 : 05:07:44 AM
They made it this morning at 1:30! Very road weary but safe.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| Ninibini |
Posted - Mar 04 2011 : 02:25:03 AM
I will pray, Diane! That has to be SO hard for her, I'm glad your DS is there with her. That sure is one heck of a trip to take, especially pulling a trailer! Please let us know when they're back safe and sound! Hugs - Nini
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Mar 03 2011 : 05:47:30 AM
New prayers needed for my DD. She and my DS are in SC moving her belongings back to WI. Pray that they have a safe trip home. They are pulling a large trailer and the truck they are using is really struggling. It was very hard for her to go there and take her home and life apart again. Please pray for her heart to heal also.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| OneHippieChick |
Posted - Feb 28 2011 : 11:42:36 PM
Oh boy...people can be so hateful sometimes when there's absolutely NO reason to be! I'm sorry to read what your daughter is going through. He sounds so much like my first husband. I have no doubt that in the end she will be soooo much better off and ever so much happier! You all are in my thoughts and prayers!
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| maggie14 |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 6:10:05 PM
Diane, sending big hugs for both you and Shannon!!
Hugs,
Hannah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 4:25:51 PM
Yes, your DD is better off without him. If some guy dumped me because I'd gained twenty pounds, I'd send him a twenty-pound bag of lard and leave this message: I lost this. You can have it.
Sorry, but it just burns me up when men act so shallow. I know he has issues, but that doesn't give him the right to hurt someone else.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead Connor
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 12:09:55 PM
Thanks for all the hugs and support!
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| nut4fabric |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 09:06:26 AM
Diane We went through a very similar situation with our daughter several years ago, her ex is a marine so I understand the military end too and their marriage ended a couple of months after he returned from Iraq. What he is doing by saying that about her is putting the blame on her rather than admitting that he has issues, trying to make her feel at fault which of course she is not. For my daughter and it will be for your daughter everything turned out for the best, she is happy has a great career, her own home and happy to be rid of those headaches. Give her a hug for me and tell her everything will be just fine and that she is perfect the way she is.
Hugs to all of you, Kathy |
| buffypuff |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 08:18:24 AM
Oh Diane, I have thought a lot about you and Shannon. I know that Shannon's heart is breaking now, but as far as being an outsider, I'm glad that she will be rid of him. It looks as though he emotionally divorced her a long time ago, and blaming 20# is stupid. He is looking for some rationalization to justify his actions. It supposedly makes it easier on him to blame Shannon. NOW...for you. I am concerned about you. It is difficult watching your child go through all this pain knowing that she is the one who will have to get through it. It is wonderful that she is with you, but my concern is that you take care of yourself and feed yourself good thoughts, some special time, or whatever you like to do, so you can stay healthy and be able to be there for Shannon. Anyway...I want you to know that I not only care about Shannon, but I care about YOU!
Buffypuff/ Claudia ~ Farmgirl & Sister #870 ~
"It compliments God to ask great things of Him." ~ St. Theresa of Avila
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Feb 21 2011 : 07:51:43 AM
When a heart breaks, it doesn't break even. This last few days have been really tough. My DD is feeling really down. Her XDH sent her an e-mail that finally gave his reasons for the break-up. He says that he isn't attracted to her physically anymore. That she was so sexy when they got married and now has put on about twenty pounds. I am so angry...their marriage vows did not say "until 20 lbs. do us part". She has never had self esteem problems until she married him. Between all his drunk dialing other women and facebooking my son's fiance and now this. This really hurts. If he was injured in Iraq and disfigured or paralyzed, she would have still loved him. She is in love, He was in lust. I know in time her heart will heal, but in this case, this is a wound that cuts really deep. I am biting my lip and just trying to listen when she wants to talk. I am just so angry and disallusioned. How can he do this to my dear sweet Shannon, who has stuck by him through all his career changes and deployments. He does not deserve her and she deserves so much more. She is still young and she will heal. Thank you for all your prayers and comments. I just need to get this off my chest and I appreciate you all for listening.
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| debtea2 |
Posted - Feb 10 2011 : 6:31:48 PM
love and prayers set to you and your family
how wonderful for you to have her back ..
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Feb 10 2011 : 10:32:08 AM
My dear friends, I have not been on this forum much lately due to the turmoil of my DD separation and pending divorce. I really appreciate being able to spill my guts here to all of you. He is done, he needs help but won't take it. My DD decided she is not going down with him. She is really handling everything very well. I am so proud of how strong she is. She is living here with me. We organized the lower level and made a cute little apartment for her. She has a job interview this coming Tuesday at a local vet. She and my DS will be driving down to SC in the end of the month to collect her belongings. There is only one issue...she has 4 dogs. Her DH decided he will not keep any of them. My DH and I decided that they are her family. They have been with her through all his deployments and she rescued them and they have some health problems that she has helped them get through. So now we are looking for a house for her. It is a good time to buy in Janesville due to GM closing. The market is a buyers market right now. My DH and I will get the loan and then sell it to her in a couple of years when she gets back on her feet. We have one of the dogs here now and she will be bringing one more back in the end of February. Her Ex DH will bring the other two in June. Lots going on! It is nice to have her home again eventhough the circumstances could be better. Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts, they are really appreciated. Now I have to get back on track with some of my swaps and cards!
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farmgirl sister #922
Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White |
| Mommyswanson |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 3:58:46 PM
Praying for her. Poor thing. I'm glad she has you close by to see her through this tough time & remind her that she can get through this & none of it was her fault, she did the best she could.
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
| SuzieQ |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 12:14:57 PM
If he is out of the house have her move everything and she needs to empty all bank accounts. Also she needs to cancel all credit cards so she will not be lible for any charges that he will do. She needs to protect herself. He has found someone else and things will get ugly. He is all about himself and again she needs to protect herself. Have her get a lawyer asap. Prayers to her and your family during this |
| crafter |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 11:43:08 AM
Diane- keeping you and your daughter in my prayers. Please give her a hug for me!
Sending lots of postive thoughts your way!
Lori |
