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ArmyWifey
True Blue Farmgirl
712 Posts
Holly
Abilene
KS
712 Posts |
 Posted - Dec 18 2005 : 12:05:41 PM
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Hello all,
I know I have posted here in awhile but life has been hectic.
Hubby is still deployed, hoping he would be home right after Christmas but it doesn't look like that will happen. I'm just really tired, needing to see G-d's hand in all this, and feeling alone.
Thanks for listening.
Holly
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!
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Utahfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1940 Posts
Portland
Oregon
USA
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Posted - Dec 18 2005 : 12:30:52 PM
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Holly, there is no way I could know what you're feeling as I am not in your position. But I have been in many stressful positions in my 59 years and I have learned one thing: feeling powerless to change things is the worst feeling of all. So, for what it's worth, here's what I do: I do what I can to make small changes. In your case, I would keep sending my dh love and God's protection daily, do the best that I could to keep my home and family ready for when he does return, and do anything it takes to keep positive. Give yourself something to look forward to every day, even if it is just a TV show or a piece of candy. Keep busy in productive ways. Volunteer if you have spare time. Helping others is the best way to keep our minds off our own problems. I see that you are starting a decorating business. Great! Put your energy into that. When hubby comes home, your energy will be going to him so make use of your time now. And know that even in the hard things, God is there, just waiting to help.God can't stop this war and bring everybody on both sides home because it's a thing humans made with their free will. But God can put her arms around you and DH and help you get thru it.
Happy Holidays,
Patricia
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Lavender Cottage
True Blue Farmgirl
273 Posts
Ellen
USA
273 Posts |
Posted - Dec 19 2005 : 06:56:09 AM
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Holly-Hugs to you!
Ellen in MI |
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MaryJane
Queen Bee
16919 Posts
MaryJane
Moscow
Idaho
USA
16919 Posts |
Posted - Dec 19 2005 : 07:33:47 AM
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Dearest Holly,
I cannot begin to imagine what you're going through. My mother tried to find the words once to describe to me what it is like to have someone you love taken for war, but ended up saying it's unsayable. You have our hearts and our prayers. Let's envision your hubby home and in your arms again! And soon!!!! |
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ArmyWifey
True Blue Farmgirl
712 Posts
Holly
Abilene
KS
712 Posts |
Posted - Dec 19 2005 : 08:22:50 AM
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Thanks. I read a book called Lizze's War (on Vietnam) which was very good and there was a quote in there I loved........
it's about keeping everything ordinary when nothing is ordinary and you know at any moment it could all come crashing down like a house of cards when Death in dress greens shows up at your door.
(didn't quote cause that's not exact but it's the gist of it and that's exactly how I feel somedays. Everyone else has an ordinary life and ours APPEARS to be but it isn't).
Thanks again,
Holly
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Dec 19 2005 : 11:57:48 AM
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Holly,
I really feel for you. You must be so tired, but try to treat yourself in some small way each day. Remember to take care of yourself for when your DH comes home. Sending you some hugs & kisses.
Debbie
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
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The Pinup Cowgirl
Farmgirl in Training
36 Posts
Holly
Tacoma
WA
USA
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Posted - Dec 21 2005 : 5:35:29 PM
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Dear Holly,
First off, know you have a great name  .
I do hope and pray you will have your husband home soon. I wrote to a soldier in Iraq while he was deployed, and even with never having met the man, I know how much I worried about him. I can't imagine it being my husband. I wish you the merriest Christmas possible, and pray the Lord will bring you two together soon!
"We can do no great things; only small things with great love."
-Mother Teresa |
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sqrl
True Blue Farmgirl
605 Posts
Melissa
Northern California
USA
605 Posts |
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Linda Houston
True Blue Farmgirl
538 Posts
Linda
Lake Charles
Louisiana
USA
538 Posts |
Posted - Dec 22 2005 : 10:38:05 AM
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Hugs to you and many prayers.
I, too, can not imagine having a husband, child or anyone at war . My heart goes out to you and many prayers for the safety of your love one. |
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westernhorse51
True Blue Farmgirl
1681 Posts
michele
farmingdale
n.j.
USA
1681 Posts |
Posted - Dec 22 2005 : 11:48:16 AM
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Holly, many warm hugs, prayers and thoughts with you and your family. I can only imagine, you are living this war. We all pray hes safe and he will be home so VERY soon. Michele
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2005 : 2:24:38 PM
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I am giving you a hug right now Holly! It is about being ordinary in the midst of the unordinary. Juat make sure you make time to fill you up a every day. the verse you have at the bottom of your posts is a reminder that if we do our part, the Lord will always do His. He is faithful. My prayers for you and you Hubby. Please thank him for serving our country so well. I truly appreciate what he does. Blessings, Julia V.
"...the setting sun is like going into the very presence of God." Elizabeth Von Arnim |
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Rebekka Mae
True Blue Farmgirl
965 Posts
Rebekka
Moscow
ID
USA
965 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2005 : 2:56:42 PM
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Holly- Sweet thing! It is so hard to see these sweet men leaving without a clear picture of when they will return (my husband was active duty for 5 years and a reservist for the last 5 so I know the anxiety of waiting for these phone calls and orders- ironically he got his official discharge today). My family will be thinkin of you and your sweetie- waiting for news of his homecoming. The holidays are such a hard time to be alone but remember to celebrate your (and his) strength over this weekend- military wives sacrifice so much and are thanked so little, Thanks to both of you for your commitment to your home and neighbors!
We love you and wish you, your husband and the soldiers he serves for, and the Iraqi's a Peaceful Holiday,
Rebekka
Erik and Isabella
Please keep writing to us all about what is going on
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Snowden Cottage
True Blue Farmgirl
56 Posts
Mumsie
Valley
WA
USA
56 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2005 : 4:13:48 PM
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Holly..thank you for sharing your heart..it is so easy to get so caught up this time of the year in the hustle and bustle of our own lives..and to forget about those hurting and/or alone. I will pray that the Peace that passes all understanding will guard your heart and mind..and Godspeed for your DH. GB
Live simply... Love deeply...Hope forever! |
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ArmyWifey
True Blue Farmgirl
712 Posts
Holly
Abilene
KS
712 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2005 : 6:31:00 PM
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thanks,
we've been married 16yrs and he's been home about 8. This is his second tour to Iraq (May 03-July04, March 05- now). This unit just doesn't have it together as far as redeployment (return) goes and the National Guard guys they've been with seem to think they all should be home FIRST. Sigh.
Holly
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl
2349 Posts
Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area
Texas
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Posted - Dec 31 2005 : 4:16:04 PM
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Precious Holly,
What a load you carry. First, deep heartfelt gratitude to you and your husband and the rest of your family. Thank you for all he does for this country. No matter what the politics are of any war situation....our love and support needs to go out you.
I am happy I came upon this topic....I now have someone specific to pray for. I haven't met anyone with a loved one over in Iraq right now. My prayers have been pretty generic. But know this....they won't be anymore!
I like the paraphrased quote you wrote. Keeping things as ordinary as possible helps keep you sane. It gives routine and predictability to yourself and your children (do you have children?....I'll have mine pray for them) Anyway, don't take on any new tasks that require too much energy. It is perfectly alright for you to sit and think or sit and cry or just sit. whether you have children or not....surround yourself with the people you love that can just hang out with you.
Happy New Year!
Blessings!
Catherine
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt." |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Dec 31 2005 : 4:37:46 PM
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Holly..I am sure keeping you in my prayers too. I havn't had the experience of relatives at all in active duty..but have an inactive reservist son (medic) and I worry that he could be deployed at any time..you take care...we care about you!!
Jenny in Utah
It's astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen...Frances Burnette
http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ |
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ArmyWifey
True Blue Farmgirl
712 Posts
Holly
Abilene
KS
712 Posts |
Posted - Jan 01 2006 : 01:26:41 AM
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Thanks, and yes I do have children (16yo dd, 13 yo dd, 11 yo ds and 5 yo ds).
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Jan 01 2006 : 07:48:27 AM
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holly .. all will be well .. my dear nephew served twice in iraq .. came home only long enough to get married and START a family and off he went again! he is now home safe home .. and he's at the local police academy. all will be well. xo
True Friends, Frannie |
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westfork woman
True Blue Farmgirl
554 Posts
Kennie Lyn
Emmett
Idaho
USA
554 Posts |
Posted - Jan 02 2006 : 3:24:06 PM
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Holly, my heart goes out to you and yours. It now sounds so trite, but thank YOU for your service to our country. Remember those works, "they also serve, who stand and wait".
Greetings from the morning side of the hill. |
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shelley ginger
Farmgirl in Training
48 Posts
Shelley
Ossining
New York
USA
48 Posts |
Posted - Jan 09 2006 : 08:11:51 AM
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Dear Holly...
Please know that my prayers are with you and will continue to be. I can't imagine what you go through on a day to day basis. I worry over anything and everything and yet everyone that I love is out of harm's way. I'm thankful for you as a family Holly. It's not just your husband that is serving our country...but you and your children are as well. G-d bless you all.
Shelley
We'll be friends until we're blue in the hair.
http://www.erikandshelley.com
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