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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  My 5 year old has cancer  |
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
931 Posts |
 Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 06:55:32 AM
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Many of you are my Facebook friend so already know this news...and Lavonna reminded me to post on here to round up more prayers.
My 5 year old son, Jacob, has been diagnosed with stade 4 Wilms Tumor (kidney cancer) which has spread to his lungs and a few other spots. We just noticed this lump on Thursday morning and it has been a whirlwind of the last few days. It seems that at each doctor appointment we get worse news so I am asking for prayers for both Jacob's comfort and peace and for some good news. There are two types of Wilms tumor and we are praying that it turns out to be the "good" kind which responds great to treatment.
Jacob will be having a very invasive surgery this coming Monday. It will involve taking out the left kidney along with the tumor (they hope they can get the whole thing out but they say it is huge). Along with maybe the spots on his lungs and flushing out one of the valves to his heart which has some cells in it. They won't know quite all that it involves until they get in there. They have to cut him from side to side so it will be a large incision and he will be in the hospital 6-7 days (yes, over Christmas). They are putting a port into his chest so that they can draw blood from that and he can use that port while getting chemo as well...so not as many needle sticks in the arm. He will be needing chemo and radiation.
He is such a sweet boy and does not deserve this. He is also a fighter though...and we just need prayers that he will get through this and make it out to the healthy other side. I'm sick with worry about him and am horrified at all he will have to go through.
-Elizabeth |
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2970 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
2970 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 07:14:54 AM
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Elizabeth. I just read about this on your blog & was coming here to post for prayers. None of us can imagine what you are going through, & know that we will all be praying for the best possible outcome. Please post and let us know how things go.
If you feel comfortable giving your addy,(private email only, not posted here) I know, I for one would love to send something your way.
God Bless You |
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sherrye
True Blue Farmgirl
3775 Posts
sherry
bend in the high desert
oregon
USA
3775 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 07:20:41 AM
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so very sad.you are in my prayers. the girls are right. we cannot know the fear and worry you have. but know as moms we surely ache for your pain. i will pray so very hard for you and your son. sending love hugs support and prayers your way many many times. sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
farm girl #1014
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 07:34:10 AM
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My heart aches for you, Elizabeth... simply aches for you. And for little Jacob and all that he must endure. Please know that I will be fervently praying for him every single day, and I will ask my prayer chain of friends across the country to join me. Jacob will be enveloped in love and prayer, I assure you. I'm going to press into God Almighty on Jacob's behalf like never before, I promise. Hugs and love - Nini
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
Farmgirl Sister #1974 |
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classygram
True Blue Farmgirl
1812 Posts
Brenda
Pleasant Hill
Mo.
USA
1812 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 08:29:56 AM
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My thoughts and prayers will be with you Elizabeth and your family. And especially little Jacob. So sorry that he is going through this. Sending my love. Hugs, Brenda
http:///www.scatteredlittleblessings.blogspot.com
Seek reasons to Love..In every sigment of everyday-look for something that brings forth within you a feeling of Love-Abraham Hicks |
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Sheep Mom 2
True Blue Farmgirl
1534 Posts
Sheri
Elk
WA
USA
1534 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 08:44:32 AM
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I pray that all goes well for Jacob. I cannot imagine the fear and worry you are going through but know that there are many here that care and are here for you on this journey to healing.
Blessings, Sheri
"Work is Love made visible" -Kahlil Gibran |
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julia hayes
True Blue Farmgirl
1132 Posts
julia
medical lake
wa
USA
1132 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 09:18:01 AM
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Elizabeth, a little birdie sent me this message.
I have been on the cancer journey for nearly 3 years now with my daughter Aria. She was diagnosed with leukemia in January 08. She is cancer free now and we are on the other side taking steps every day toward full recovery. The steps are often riddled with unknowns so we have learned not to look at the steps ahead....only the one we take at any given moment. These steps are not always graceful and they are often merely an intellectual exercise but we take them, cherish them and acknowledge every aspect of them. You will too.
Jacob...your 5 year old....Hospitalized over Christmas. A port placed. Spots in his lungs and heart valve. Enormous incision to care for. Chemotherapy. Radiation. Horror. I know this so well. I ache in every fiber of my being that this has become your reality. You are facing the impossible and yet it is real...all too real!
It is more than sad. It is more than heart-breaking. It is more than frightening. The cancer journey with our children is a compass shift like no other. It shuts out the reality of life and in its place is one where we grapple to find meaning, fairness and purpose.
The numbness is real. The robotic movements while you go through a 'normal' day that no longer is normal in any way is also very real. The fact that you have to embrace probably your greatest fear is real. The sorrow, the anxiety, the worry and the helplessness... It's all very real and I'm devastated to know that you must endure it.
Some may be reading this and wondering incredulously, "Julia? Enough already! offer the poor thing some hope!" Elizabeth my new cancer mom friend....you and I know differently. To deny the fear of what's in store leads to nothing. To embrace the fear by simply acknowledging that it's there..to give it voice, to recognize it instead of stuffing it elsewhere is the key to creating the wings upon which hope soars.
There is light. It is brilliant and you will find it in the collective soul of the many many people who are on the journey-- have been there and are well on the other side for better or worse. It is a long road but it is well worn and decorated with people whose capacity for goodness and magnificence is infinite. You will be amazed because the company you now are forced to keep is extraordinary.
I'm sorry to have to welcome you to a club no one wants. But I, like many, have found strength I never knew existed. I have found Trust I didn't know possible. I have discovered Love that transcends all language. I offer it to you in friendship and in solidarity. I shall be with you on your journey every step of the way.
My love and light to you from Eastern Washington. ~julia hayes
please...keep writing!
being simple to simply be
Farmgirl #30
www.julia42.etsy.com
www.about-aria.blogspot.com |
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maggie14
True Blue Farmgirl
6784 Posts
Hannah
Washington
USA
6784 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 09:29:38 AM
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I am so sorry Elizabeth! Prayers sent!
Hugs,
Hannah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Lifes not about the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away.
Just a small town country girl, farmgirl,loggergirl, trying to live her dreams. :)
P.s. I've been playing around with the spelling of my name ( weird I know) and I've decided that I will stick with Hannah for good. Sorry I got you all confused. Hugs!! |
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
2325 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 09:31:02 AM
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Elizabeth,
Prayers are with you more than you will ever know; family, friends, aquaintances, and total strangers.
Julia has been traveling this journey for nearly 3 years, her experience, strength and wisdom can be a guide. As a breast cancer survivor of 4 years myself, I can tell you that it is a journey we don't choose but I was lucky in that it was me and not one of my children. I know as a Mom you would willingly switch places with your beloved Jacob, but that can't happen.
This must be taken one step at a time. Accept the prayers and help of those around you. We can't take over the load but will do what we can to support you. Youngsters can be amazingly resilient, in many ways tougher than adults.
God bless you and your family.
Please keep us posted.
Hugs,
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver |
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 09:47:57 AM
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Elizabeth, I will be adding your little boy to my prayer list. And you also.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
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babysmama
True Blue Farmgirl
931 Posts
Elizabeth
Iowa
931 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 10:03:16 AM
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Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I'm still numb about this whole thing and feel like a caged animal today...going through the motions of life and trying to get things ready this weekend for next week but I feel like I'm trapped in a world that I don't want to be in. I worry about Jacob and all he has to endure, my other two kids (ages 7 and 2) who don't understand what is happening to our family, my husband who is trying to deal with this news, and my whole extended family who has to deal with this yet again (we just lost my Grandma last month from cancer and my own father had stage 4 oral cancer four years ago...thankfully he is here and healthy now). I know all too well what is ahead of us and I don't want it.
Dear Julia...thank you so, so much for your words and wisdom. I remember three years ago when you wrote on here about Aria. I remember crying for her and keeping up on here about her news. And I also remember the awful first moments when you hear something like this about someone's child and also think in the back of your mind "I'm glad it's not my child." It is now my child, and I can barely stand it. I am SO trying to take it one day at a time but keep getting ahead of myself and thinking about what is yet to come. I can't keep doing this or I will drive myself mad. I hope to be able to talk to you more about this...as you have been through the fire and made it to the other side.
Keep praying for Jacob and all of us, please!
-Elizabeth
www.trenchesofmommyhood.blogspot.com |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22944 Posts
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eggfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
253 Posts
Kristy
Melvern
KS
USA
253 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 10:33:54 AM
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My heart breaks for you dear Sister ! I understand that feeling of shock,fear,worry and asking why me . I remember all those feelings when my Husband was diagnosed with Mesothelioma Cancer. That was a nightmare and like you said you feel like a caged animal. I know it has to be so much harder being your child. I just want to send a little motherly advice for you.... Let others carry some of the burdens with your other children if at all possible. Explain you need to be with your son right now to them. Calm their fears. I had so many people asking what they could do to help us. Tell them what you need !! It's ok !! I have built so many wonderful relationship through this journey. Found that the hearts of the surgeons,nurses,techs and even the house keepers are there to comfort you as well as your dear son. Lean on God and others will be sent your way to get you through this journey.. One day,hour minute at a time ! God bless you !!
God bless you all. Sending a great big hug to you and yours...
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
Sis #2339
http;//www.myhealingthroughartstory.blogspot.com |
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julia hayes
True Blue Farmgirl
1132 Posts
julia
medical lake
wa
USA
1132 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 10:51:58 AM
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Elizabeth,
I want to acknowledge your honesty. Thank you for telling me that you remembered reading about Aria. Thank you for being with me then even though at the time I wasn't able to make heads or tails of much of anything! However, I sensed every single person, every single prayer and thought. I know that for certain because it was the force that drew me up to face the day. On my own, I doubt I would have been able but because I had a well from which to draw the goodness of others I found restoration to endure. May I return the presence and strength ten-fold.
Your comment, "..I also remember the awful first moments when you hear something like this about someone's child and also think in the back of your mind "I'm glad it's not my child." resonated deeply. I am profoundly moved for having read it. It was pure truth. Many would never have the courage to admit it. I'm glad that you have. You won't be owned by it and thus you'll be able to exercise compassion toward those whose fear is so great they can only turn away. I have learned a great many things and one of them is that there are very few bad hearts out there. Some are bruised. Some are bleeding. Some ache and struggle but very few are truly wicked. Most are fear-filled which inhibits the spirit from acting as it was designed. I think you will avoid considerable heartache because you recognize that you once feared...You know that your fear although real will not consume you. You will stand before it. You may tremble. You may doubt. You may cry. But you will face it. You are facing it. You are because you must and you are not alone.
Dear friend, don't worry that you are going ahead. Go ahead...take those steps out into the future! Imagine your worry like a kite and give it plenty of string to ride the winds of what you can't know and see right now. It's alright. You will not be swept up and away even though it may feel like that sometimes. You needn't fear madness either. The kite of your anxiety will spin, dive, fly, and hold steady. Hang on..you have the string handle and it won't tangle. I'll help you with that.
I'm with you holding on too. ~j
being simple to simply be
Farmgirl #30
www.julia42.etsy.com
www.about-aria.blogspot.com |
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
5602 Posts
Annika
USA
5602 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 11:03:00 AM
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Elizabeth, I am keeping you and your family , especially Jacob, close to my heart and in my thoughts and prayers. This is a terrible thing to have to live through. I can only offer my sympathies for little Jacob going through this and not really understanding why he has to be in the hospital. *Hugs* We are all here for you, I know that I speak the truth for my fellow farmgirls and sisters too.
I'm praying and sending thought of peace and strength to you. .
Love and Light
Annika
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dutchy
True Blue Farmgirl
4427 Posts
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Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 11:08:58 AM
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Elizabeth I am so sorry. I am in prayer for you and your family.
Hugs from marian
Hugs from Marian/Dutchy, a farmgirl from the Netherlands :)
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MTNSunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
111 Posts
Sunny
Tollhouse
CA
USA
111 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 12:02:28 PM
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You, your son, family and all the doctors in your sons life are in my thoughts and prayers. (hugs)
Proud FarmGirl #914 ;o) |
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Sue Feely
True Blue Farmgirl
1044 Posts
Sue
Buffalo
New York
USA
1044 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 12:35:31 PM
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| Dear Elizabeth - I am on facebook and saw the post fom Diana Conry Kelewae about your son. I am sorry to hear about your son Jacob. When my daughter Brigid was 5 (she is now 23 and verry healthy and the best girl in the world) she too had a Wilms tumor; for us it was the same as you,fast and furious, with the news and surgery etc. I would like to put your fears to rest if I can, please feel free to email me at suefeely@gmail.com or I would even give you my phone number to talk if you want to, I even just spoke to my daugghter Brigid herself, she said she would even talk to you if you wanted to. Brigid is having surgerry this Tuesday (not cancer related) but a couple of days after that you could talk to her! Elizabeth I just put my faith in God and her doctors and I was almost totally at ease! Really, the outcome was quite good, very good in fact. My only concern now is if she will be able to have children; she wants children quite badly and will be married in the next year or 2. My friend that is a nurse at out Childrens Hospital does let me know all the time that her female patients have had children! Wilms is very curable, Brigid had this 18 years ago and I am sure there are many more advances now,I could go on and on about this but please contact me and we will "talk" Meanwhile your family are in my thoughts and prayers! Sue |
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Tall Holly
True Blue Farmgirl
2305 Posts
Holly
Worcester
Vermont
USA
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Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 2:30:45 PM
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Elizabeth,
I am so sorry that Jacob is so very sick. If I lived closer I would go to the hospital and donate blood in his name. If I had good enough kidneys I would put my name on a list to give him one if he ever needed it.
Hugs to you and your family.
Holly
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Penny Wise
True Blue Farmgirl
1903 Posts
Margo
Elyria
OH
USA
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Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 2:34:07 PM
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elizabeth...i have no special words that have not been expressed.i will keep you all close in my prayers and hope that you will keep us updated . i'm a mom and grandma and this makes my heart ache for you.i'm sure that you can feel the love of the sisters.
margo
Farmgirl # 2139
~*~ counting my pennies and biding my time; my dreams are adding up!~*~ |
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 2:46:23 PM
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Elizabeth,You must be terrified. I am thankful that Julia and Sue have contacted you. Having someone who has been through cancer with their child being there for you will be a Godsend for you.They are such wonderful good women. I have and will continue to pray for all of you. Your sweet son will be in my heart and prayers everyday. As you will be dear girl and your family. When your child is threatened, there is no worse fear. But you will find the stength and the courage you need to help him through this. He is still here and as long as there is life there is hope. Hang on to that. God Bless and and keep all of you in the palm of his hand protected and loved.
Hugs and Prayers, MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Karrieann
True Blue Farmgirl
1900 Posts
Karrieann
Northeast
Georgia
USA
1900 Posts |
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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl
2970 Posts
Lisa
Georgetown
OH
2970 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 5:00:17 PM
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Elizabeth
I just talked to my mom & you will be on yet another prayer list. I gave her the names of all family members from your blog.
She is 80 & it took her a bit to write them down, but we are determined to GET THE PRAYER OUT!!!!!!!
I have been praying for you all day. Know that you are loved. |
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
2914 Posts |
Posted - Dec 18 2010 : 11:04:10 PM
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Praying for you, I don't know what to say. It must be very frightening.But God can handle fear and I know he hears the prayers of everyone who is praying for Jacob. I am praying that positive, healing energy will surround you and Jacob and he will be well.
cindy
"There is more to life than increasing its speed". Mahatma Gandhi
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: My 5 year old has cancer |
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My 5 year old has cancer
