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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Feeling Sad and would appreciate some prayers  |
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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 Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 05:31:48 AM
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Lori,
I am glad that you are getting out there and dating. I am sorry that the first one didn't work out. Just don't close yourself off because of this one break-up. Remember the good times you had and get on with your life. The best thing to do is stay busy. Make something, take walks, organize a closet, etc...Just never be afraid to get hurt and close yourself off again. Getting hurt is just part of living and living is wonderful. By the way...when I get back from the Wild West trip, I am starting a henhouse. Are you in? I will be posting a meeting time and date. I want to get together with some farmgirls once a month and do a project together.
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farmgirl sister #922
I ask not for a larger garden, but for finer seeds.
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 06:32:02 AM
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Diane,
Count me in in the henhouse! I have a friend that I teach Sunday School that I have been talking to about this site, lent her some of my magazines and my book to check out.
I've been reading my bible more than ever and all of the ladies here have been the biggest help ever! It's taken so long to get out there, I just don't think it's for me, so I'll stick to my children, my church and my little home to take care of for the rest of my life- I know that brings me great joy.
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CMac
True Blue Farmgirl
1074 Posts
Connie
Ashland City
TN
USA
1074 Posts |
Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 07:00:11 AM
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Good Morning Lori! I'm so happy to see the sisters gathering round you providing support to hold you up till you are feeling better! This is an awesome group of women.
How exciting that there will be a hen house for you to join. I sure wish there was one here. I think I am the only Farmgirl in middle Tennessee! I need to get busy and recruit some farmgirls!
I believe that God has a plan for you so never say never! Our job is to stay open for what ever that is. Hold out your hand, palm up and open and ask God to help you see the plan as it unfolds. Being ready to receive is the key, no matter what that is!
I hope you are feeling better today. Maybe a little less in shock? Know that I am thinking about you.
Connie
"I have three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, three for company."
Author: Henry David Thoreau |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 07:48:04 AM
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emtfarmer
True Blue Farmgirl
222 Posts
Darlene
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 12:05:17 PM
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I once read that the heart is the strongest muscle in the body but it is sometimes treated as the weakest. I took that to mean that we don't realize just how well a heart can mend, that we have to pamper it and expect it to heal slowly. But that is not the case. It will heal as quickly as you let it.
And you said at one point that you "shouldn't feel this way". Sure you should! You should never deny how you really feel about something. You've been hurt through no fault of your own. What you "shouldn't feel or do" is let the hurt (thus, thoughts of him and times past) occupy your every thought.
I KNOW it is so easy for me and everyone else to say it is okay. . . things will get better, but it really will. It has taken me a long time to realize, but in the rougher times in my life, I've learned to thank God for those rough times for He obviously has something to teach me and that will make me stronger and/or closer to Him.
Continue to read your bible. It may not tell you exactly what to do, but the comfort that it brings to you will help you make it through every day.
You're still in my prayers,
Darlene
(hugs to you too!)
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 12:47:51 PM
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Thank you Darlene,
I do find great comfort in my BIBLE and whatever I'm reading in it. I know God is good- all the time.
It's been so long since I took this kind of step and fell hard for Ben and the boys- it felt so right and good. We had the same views on Faith, Family and Life- or so I thought.
I'm going to pressure wash the house this weekend if it's not raining- that will take at least one entire day, going to spend some time weeding the flower beds- I fing it healing to get dirt under my fingernails, my neighbor is teaching me some quilting, church on Sunday and I think Natalie and I will go for ice cream too!!
I can not even begin to tell everyone how you have helped me thru this week...I still feel stupid and my heart is broken, but I guess it's time to pull up the boot straps and get back to taking care of my family. I don't mind being on the back burner..... :(((
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debtea2
True Blue Farmgirl
1853 Posts
deborah
nutley
nj
USA
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Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 5:43:52 PM
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lori
so sorry your down but men can be very skiddish about relationships don't over analize it
you did nothing wrong and nothing to be ashamed of..get mad not sad and move on..this may be a good thing
if he can't talk to you about this what if you both got very serious and walked away or moved out ..
sounds like he needs to grow up some more..sad for all the children yours and his..I pray you find a real man know deserves a good woman..prayers and smile life goes on and people love you and care about you..
blessing deborah
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
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Posted - Jun 24 2011 : 7:13:53 PM
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Lori, I just got this thread and am so sorry this happened to you and that you are hurting. You have some powerful farmgirls praying and hugging and supporting you and honey, you deserve it. Everyone has had such good advice. You feel how you feel. Sit in the pain and then move on. I think alot of us have had this experience. It hurts. I don't have any new words to comfort you but I want to tell you-
I was the first divorce in my family and did not get any support. It was an UGLY divorce and I swore I would never get married again. I did my job, took care of my daughter and made my home, and my life. I had good friends. I was content. I had future plans for MYSELF. Now there's an old saying that if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. Honestly, I was "good to go" but God had other plans.
My current husband is a guy I met in 1974. We became good friends. When I married my ex-husband, he was a groomsman. After I got married and moved away we did not keep in touch. OK, I'm single 14 years and out of the blue Rod calls me. He's divorced a year and in Florida: I'm single 14 years and in PA. HE calls the Montel Williams show on TV for a show about reuniting lost loves and the next thing I know we are all in NY (my mom, DD and SIL and me) and Rod and I were reunited on the show..got engaged 6 weeks later, Rod moved to PA and we got married almost 17 years ago now. He's a wonderful guy and we are very happy together.
My point is that you never know what God has planned for your life. Never in those single 14 years would I have EVER thought I would remarry. NEVER thought about talk-show TV. I am so sorry that you feel so bad just now. God ALWAYS has a plan for you and we just can't see the big picture, but HE can. Keep the faith and know we are hugging you close. Joey
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jun 27 2011 : 06:40:55 AM
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didn't have a very good weekend, tried to stay busy and my sewing machine would not cooperate with me, my mind just works overtime, I did read my Bible A LOT and that gives me great comfort!
Thank you ladies for your continued love and support!! |
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SarAvery
Farmgirl in Training
39 Posts
Sara
West Stockbridge
MA
USA
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Posted - Jun 27 2011 : 07:38:15 AM
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Lori,
Been thinking of you all weekend. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!
Sara
Farmgirl #3137 |
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CMac
True Blue Farmgirl
1074 Posts
Connie
Ashland City
TN
USA
1074 Posts |
Posted - Jun 27 2011 : 08:11:12 AM
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Good Morning Lori! Sorry your weekend was not an easy one. I'll bet weekends were the fun times when you were still dating. That makes them harder. I always found Sunday afternoon and evening to be hardest. Something about associations with food and family on that day for me.
Things that require focus may be a bit harder for you right now. Working with machines might be one! My sewing machine and I have a love /hate relationship even on the best of days! Did you get around to power washing the house?
I've read the posts from over the weekend. Don't you just love these women?! I thought about you while working on the gardens at the farm this weekend. I hope you felt the positive thoughts I was sending.
It occurred to me that entering a new relationship is a bit like growing a garden. We do all the right things. We keep it weeded,watered,fed and watched over and hope for produce worth our effort. But some years things happen. Hail can destroy it in a minute. Humidity can reduce it to a puddle of green goo. Rain can cease and watering is never enough. As hard as we work and as perfectly as we try to do it we are not the only influence on the outcome. But the outcome is not the only point of it is it? It is the process as much as the outcome. So we go back out the next year and do it again. A relationship is about the process too. All relationships end don't they? None of us live forever. So it seems to me that 6 mos or 60 years isn't about the ending. It is about what we experienced between the beginning and the end. I know you are hurting now but there are gifts in the experience that I believe will help you find what you need and deserve in the future. When you have grieved enough ( you will know when that is) you will be able to see the gifts.
Know that I am thinking of you and sending you love, light and strength.
Connie
"I have three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, three for company."
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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up: Feeling Sad and would appreciate some prayers |
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Feeling Sad and would appreciate some prayers
