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| City Chick |
Posted - Feb 09 2011 : 04:27:21 AM
She'll be 13 in a few weeks. After talking with my dh about her behavior, we thought she was probably depressed. Then reading her journal that she left out, I learned she's been contemplating suicide or hurting herself.  We are heartbroken. We've tried talking with her, she won't open up.
Took her to the dr. on Monday, she recommended a child psch. We have an appt. on the 24th. Maybe sooner if someone else cancels. We're also meeting with Christian family counselor tomorrow.
Learned at the Dr. that she's been feeling depressed for over 1-1/2 years. I feel horrid that we didn't see the signs, but she has done well at hiding them. her grades didn't start to slip until this semester.
Can you keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we go through this with our dd? Pray that she can remain strong and not hurt herself, that she'll either talk to me or someone that she trusts.
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Farm Girl #790
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| Shi-anne |
Posted - Mar 21 2011 : 10:44:04 AM
Praying for your daughter. She is at a difficult age, during a difficult time. May she receive all the help, love and compassion she needs to overcome this.
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Mar 21 2011 : 06:01:56 AM
I just read this and will be praying for you & your dd. Years ago my son dropped a note on his bed room floor. Normally I would of ignored it but he didn't go to the gym after school. Instead he went to a friends. I picked up the note which said his friend was going to take her life. I called her house & thankfully got her mom and read her the note. We were both upset & crying but she started taking her dd more seriously. They talked over cocoa after school everyday and before bed. The girl used to say I'm going to bed, now everyone gets a hug first. She said it was hard in the beginning but the girl is all growen up, beautiful & very happy starting a family of her own. They did not have insurance if they did I'm sure they would do just as you are doing. I believe God intervened by me finding the note and your dd leaving out her book for you to read. In the note I found she stated she had great friends & family and felt loved but still wanted to take her life. Being young back then was hard I believe it's even harder now. Prayers sent. |
| debtea2 |
Posted - Mar 16 2011 : 5:48:01 PM
deb prayers for all of you and the long road ahead be smooth
and bright..
blessings deborah
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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| Heartbroken farmgirl |
Posted - Mar 16 2011 : 09:14:04 AM
My prayers are with you. I believe the journal being left out was either intentional on your DDs part, or divine. Thank God you were able to catch light of what's been going on. I slipped into a 20 year battle with depression at 13, but it went un-noticed, and un-diagnosed for 10 years. By then I was so lost and off track. I still struggle often, but mostly due to damages caused by floundering around so long with out help. Praise God you and your family have been made aware early, and can all work with your DD!
You two training together, competing together, and keeping busy, is a wonderful idea.
I'm also glad you shared the texts with the counselor. There are times, when we can be too sensitive as well, and sometimes as a teen, depressed or not, we have a few negative teen gripes and grumbles. I think it will help the counselor see if she is improving, slipping, or just blowing off steam...
Take care Deb, lots of prayers for your family.
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| embchicken |
Posted - Mar 16 2011 : 07:36:54 AM
Hi Deb~ I will be praying for you and your family. I have suffered from depression - I had a nervous breakdown five years ago. I was depressed and anxious and didn't even realize it. Just kept pushing the feelings down. I've gone through inpatient, outpatient, counseling, meds, the whole gamut. I am 1,000 times beter today than I was before I was sick. Anway my point is that there is no quick fix to this. You really have to take one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time to get through this. It sounds like you have found a doctor you can trust. This is key. It also sounds like you are actively involved in your DD's life - you are there for her - that is the best gift that you can give her at this point - being there. You will be in m prayers and I will be looking for your updates. Sending love and comfort your way.
"Be the change you wish to see in the world" ~Gandhi
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| City Chick |
Posted - Mar 16 2011 : 04:49:29 AM
I haven't updated in a while. It'll be 2 weeks that my dd has been in out patient therapy. She doesn't talk much about it. They're teaching her coping skills - not medicating at this point.
We had a back slide last week when I discovered that she had been texting her friends late at night. Then lied to me about it. I read the texts and didn't like what I saw. I notified her counselor about the content.
She does seem like her mood is lighter. Not all doom and gloom. Hubby & I are considering getting her the heavy bag for punching. To get her feelings out physically. She needs to get out and "air her brains out" as I like to say. We're considering entering a 5K together. She agreed only after I told her she didn't have to stick by the side of her slo-mo Mom during the entire race. I'm excited to start training with her.
We don't know when therapy will end. We have our 2nd family session today. (She will continue one on one with a therapist after this in-patient thing).
Thanks for the prayers. We surely appreciate them.
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Farm Girl #790
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| missusprim |
Posted - Feb 28 2011 : 05:39:05 AM
Oh, I am so sorry to hear about this. She's at such a delicate age and just beginning that journey into adulthood that is often fraught with peer pressure, school popularity issues, and just finding that right niche within herself.
And thank goodness you found her journal! My best advice would be to try and involve her in an activity that boosts her spirit, self confidence and self esteem without being obvious about it. Maybe something to do with animals like riding lessons - our furry friends have an uncanny way of reaching out to troubled people (kids especially.)
Also, keeping her busy so she has less time to think negative thoughts helps too. Speaking of which, kudo's to you for ridding the negative people out of her life!
I haven't read others posts, but I'm sure you thought to talk to the school counselors, teachers, etc. to see what may be going on at school. Fellow school mates can be ruthless in how they alienate and bully other kids.
That said, I'd try to do all this without being obvious about it.
Please keep us posted!
"Animals are such agreeable friends - they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms." George Eliot
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| City Chick |
Posted - Feb 28 2011 : 05:04:46 AM
Thank you all so much for praying.
After talking with the intake manager last week at a hospital that does take our insurance, she believes that my dd would benefit greatly from their out-patient program. I cannot tell you what a relief this is for my dd & our family.
She'll go from 9-4:00. They even pick her up and bring her home. She'll have group counseling, individual counseling as well as meeting with psych. Time for her to do homework, since she'll be missing 2 weeks of school. Lunch. That's all I know for now. (Oh, and family counseling as well)
I know this is just the beginning of the journey, but we all feel very positive about this.
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Farm Girl #790
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| Mommyswanson |
Posted - Feb 25 2011 : 08:44:12 AM
Deb praying for resolution of these insurance matters so your dear girl can get the help she needs. Please take care of yourself, I know that it is hard but you have to take care of yourself so you can be there for your daughter. Big hugs to you!!
Laura
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| Annika |
Posted - Feb 25 2011 : 06:15:24 AM
Deb, *big hugs* I know this is a terrible unreal seeming situation to suddenly be thrust into, but you have caught things before they could turn into a tragedy. I'm with you sister! We farmgirls look out for each other. Hospitalization at this point seems like the best option. It will be hard being away from your daughter and frightening for her as well, but hopefully with medication and professional help, she will start to feel safe enough to open up and allow someone in to start helping her out of this dark place.
I know you are going through horror and I wish that I had words enough to comfort and give you strength. You are in my thoughts and prayers and so is your daughter.
Lots of love coming your way
Annika
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| City Chick |
Posted - Feb 25 2011 : 03:52:50 AM
We saw the dr. She wants her hospitalized. To get meds regulated. Unfortunately, our insurance doesn't cover the hospital she's on staff at. I'm now trying to get dd into one that is on our insurance plan.
I'm having anxiety attacks, feel sick to my stomach. I could just cry all day long. But I can't I have to be strong and get dd the help she needs.
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Farm Girl #790
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| Mommyswanson |
Posted - Feb 22 2011 : 1:06:32 PM
Dear Deb
Praying for you & your family. I have a 13 year old myself & it's a hard age to know what's going on in their heads. Praying for you & your family.
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
| LeighErica |
Posted - Feb 22 2011 : 08:27:37 AM
Dear Deb & Family, my thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this time. I will pray that God will intervene and lift your daughters spirts and that the doctors & counselors will be a useful blessing to all of you at this time. The teenage years are truly a difficult time for girls (and boys). Keep talking, loving, hugging and most of all praying. Farmgirl Hugs, Erica |
| City Chick |
Posted - Feb 22 2011 : 08:10:33 AM
Some updates: We're not going to be seeing the Christian counselor. We can't afford her. $50.00 a visit. Our insurance pays for counseling so we're going with another one. We had an appt. for yesterday, but that counselor cancelled on us.
I finally found a child pysch that is in our insurance network and was able to get an appt. for Thursday morning. It's been a long 2 weeks. I'm worn out. Dd seems ok, but I don't know what to believe since she's been hiding her feelings for 1-1/2 years. She's thought about cutting herself, but thankfully hasn't acted on it.
Thank you for your prayers ladies. I'm sorry I haven't been around to update. I have a couple of packages that need to go to the post office for some farm girls here. I hope to get that done this week.
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Farm Girl #790
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https://twitter.com/EllieFunt
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| prayin granny |
Posted - Feb 17 2011 : 09:34:49 AM
Oh, Deb, praying for your DD. They are so very good at hiding so much of what they are feeling anymore these days. After raising 4, there IS a lite down the road. You are doing all the right things for her!! Prayers going up!
Blessings, Linda
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Feb 14 2011 : 05:52:14 AM
Deb, I just saw this. I will be praying for her too. I hope you are able to find out what is wrong. It's so sad what the kids these days are going through. I have an almost 12 year old granddaughter that I worry about with the same thing. So much going on in those young lives.
Hugs, Kris
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| maggie14 |
Posted - Feb 13 2011 : 8:28:40 PM
Praying also Deb.
Hugs,
Hannah
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| FieldsofThyme |
Posted - Feb 13 2011 : 05:32:56 AM
So sorry to hear this Deb, will be adding her to my prayers (and you and your family also)
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| debtea2 |
Posted - Feb 12 2011 : 12:55:04 PM
deb will pray for your DD and you as this must be a very sad time.
blessings and hugs deborah
inch by inch we find our way
jersey farmgirl
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| craftingram |
Posted - Feb 12 2011 : 11:42:07 AM
Deb, the teenage years are so difficult, for the teens and the parents. Standing with you in prayer for her and the entire family.
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| classygram |
Posted - Feb 12 2011 : 07:10:33 AM
Deb sending my prayers for your dd's protection and recovery through theropy. Been there and it takes time. Lots of love and understanding. Things at her age is very difficult, especially with the ways of our world today. Just continue to let her know that she is loved and important to you and your family. And not seeing the signs, you did nothing wrong. I was so good at hiding my thoughts and feelings, no one would have known. Through getting some help she will know it's ok to share what she's feeling and that will ease the thoughts blocked in her mind. Please let us know how everything is going. Hugs,Brenda
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| LucyLobo511 |
Posted - Feb 11 2011 : 5:38:44 PM
I have a daughter that is 15 but it has been up and down for years, her mood swings were terrible. Her girl thing started when she was 10 so the hormones have been all over the place. You may want to have your daughters thyroid checked and change her diet. My daughter is a different person since taking dairy and corn syrup out of her diet. Your daughters depression is real but it could be a simple imbalance in her system.
Insane and Blissfully Happy
Mari-lyn
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| eggfarmgirl |
Posted - Feb 11 2011 : 4:22:25 PM
((((Hugs Deb))) Signs are often over looked. And as one that has been there...you learn to hide it. Don't beat yourself up over it please. It was a God thing finding her journal out !! Your family is in my prayers.
Hugs...Kristy
"Live like you were dyin'"
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| Aunty Krys |
Posted - Feb 11 2011 : 2:55:30 PM
oh miss deb, as a mother, my heart breaks for your daughter and for you. it's so hard to know they're in pain and not be able to make it better with a kiss and a hug like when they were little. you are both in my prayers for your strength and for peace.
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Feb 10 2011 : 10:17:52 AM
Prayers out to your family and especially your DD.
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