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Duchess
True Blue Farmgirl
109 Posts
Iowa
USA
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 Posted - May 29 2006 : 11:00:27 AM
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Ok Cathy,
Some more thoughts, if you can stand it. I was single Mom for many years and have been there done that, at one time was working 3 jobs to get by. As to the car, check with local schools that have mechanic classes, they may be able to help you out for the cost of the parts. Can you ride with someone to the flea market, don't your kids or sister know someone with a car you can give $20.00 to for the ride??
I have in the past packed everything I could in a u-haul trailer and moved from Mass to FL, I also called Goodwill and had them come pick up a houseful of stuff when I moved from Fl back to Mass. I always manage to find some real cool stuff at yard sales, the curb or thrift shops. It's the old "One Man's treasure is another Man's trash" or is it the other way around,lol. I have a few treasures that go with me where ever or when ever, I have found that you can get by with very little if you have to. Beans and rice are filling and not too bad for you, I buy meat marked cook today or freeze and make lots of meatless meals. Out of one chicken I can make chicken and dumplings and chicken soup which is several days worth of meals. Same with a cheap cut of meat, pot roast then veg beef soup. I agree about the cell phone you can get a trac phone for $20.00 and buy your min. as you need them and we have quite often done without cable or even t.v. Barbara |
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CathyM
True Blue Farmgirl
344 Posts
Cathy
Tulsa
OK
USA
344 Posts |
Posted - May 31 2006 : 12:03:19 PM
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Hey everyone, sorry I haven't been online for a while. Been busy making money for the move. Things are going better than I thought but still tight. the pillow thing is getting slow, but it's ok it give me more time to make things I can sell. I am going to sell the car I have before I move so I'll have that cash to get one there. the stress got to me yesterday, with a wild migraine that put me out for the whole day, but I'm back on track today, making phone calls, reservations, paying bills (the minimum for now), and of course doing the rest of the pillows I have. I will be going to the flea market this Saturday and then every Tuesday and Saturday till we move. My family has been pitching in lately so that's a good change. We will be getting an apartment for the time being, and hopefully within the year my daughter and I will be looking for a no money down place to buy. Thank you for all your suggestions on that subject. I have cut everything down to the bare minimum around here and I have gotten everyone to sell most everything except what we really need to live. I stopped selling on ebay, it was costing me more than i was making so I will only be selling at the flea market and the paper for now. I will update all of you when I get more info on where we will be living.
duchess, where in mass do you live/ come from? I am originally from there moved to fl in the late 80's, then to NC in the mid 90's back to fl then up here. |
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CathyM
True Blue Farmgirl
344 Posts
Cathy
Tulsa
OK
USA
344 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2006 : 4:45:02 PM
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Hello from Tulsa. I am here with my daughter and nephew to find a place to live. We went to an apartment complex today and saw a beautiful place and we are filling out the applications tonight, returning them in the morning. pray we get it. It is very close to where my daughter will be working and there are a lot of places I can get a job close by. and it is on the bus line. we might even bring my car down here and have it fixed here, will be going to a mechanic here to show the estimates from PA and ask what the price would be here, hoping that will work out also. It's beautiful here, today it was 94 but not a sticky humid heat that we have in PA, quite comfortable for me. We are then going to Houston TX for my nephew to find a place to live. He is moving there to be closer to his giflfriend. He has helped pay for this trip for which I'm greatful. I will keep you all updated on my progress and the final outcome.
Thank you all again, Cathy |
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Juliekay
True Blue Farmgirl
237 Posts
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Posted - Jun 08 2006 : 7:08:01 PM
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Welcome to Oklahoma, Cathy. We are here in Shawnee, but let me know if there's a way to help!
Julie |
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Juliekay
True Blue Farmgirl
237 Posts
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Posted - Jun 08 2006 : 7:10:03 PM
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Hubbie's cousins work for DirecTV in Tulsa, I don't know if they're hiring but you can look into it. It might be a quick stopgap measure until you find something you really like.
Julie |
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
1323 Posts |
Posted - Jun 09 2006 : 09:47:33 AM
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Cathy,
So glad to hear that the move went well. Been thinking about you. Prayers coming your way and waiting to hear how things are going.
Debbie
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
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Duchess
True Blue Farmgirl
109 Posts
Iowa
USA
109 Posts |
Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 05:12:14 AM
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Hi, So glad things are going better for you. I have lived all over, family is from Mass originally down on the cape. I lived in Boston, Southy and in Brookline I really love the place but sure is expensive. I lived in Fl a couple of times in Orlando and have lived in Maryland outside of DC, St Paul,MN and now Wisconsin but moving to MN and IA,lol. Hopefully this is our last move and I can just plant my brains out and sit on the porch and rock. Best of luck to you, Duchessquote:
Originally posted by CathyM
Hey everyone, sorry I haven't been online for a while. Been busy making money for the move. Things are going better than I thought but still tight. the pillow thing is getting slow, but it's ok it give me more time to make things I can sell. I am going to sell the car I have before I move so I'll have that cash to get one there. the stress got to me yesterday, with a wild migraine that put me out for the whole day, but I'm back on track today, making phone calls, reservations, paying bills (the minimum for now), and of course doing the rest of the pillows I have. I will be going to the flea market this Saturday and then every Tuesday and Saturday till we move. My family has been pitching in lately so that's a good change. We will be getting an apartment for the time being, and hopefully within the year my daughter and I will be looking for a no money down place to buy. Thank you for all your suggestions on that subject. I have cut everything down to the bare minimum around here and I have gotten everyone to sell most everything except what we really need to live. I stopped selling on ebay, it was costing me more than i was making so I will only be selling at the flea market and the paper for now. I will update all of you when I get more info on where we will be living.
duchess, where in mass do you live/ come from? I am originally from there moved to fl in the late 80's, then to NC in the mid 90's back to fl then up here.
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Duchess
True Blue Farmgirl
109 Posts
Iowa
USA
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 05:19:38 AM
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Hi Cathy,
On the car, please check with the local Adult Education and technical schools and see if they offer a mechanics class. Going to a shop can prove to be very costly as they will charge for anything and everything. I know from experience when they see a woman come in the price goes up, they think you don't know anything about cars. Also see if there is an independent place that only does diognostic test on car. One time a shop was telling me I needed to replace the engine in my car, I had it diagnosed and all it needed was a good tune up with plug wires, new plugs etc. A big difference between $2,500.00 and $100.00, you can also go to google and find lots of sites with free advice on what might be wrong with the car and an estimate of what it will cost to fix it. We use a site called All Data/DIY which cost $25.00 but will give you all the information on your car and the fixes and recalls and prices. The $25.00 is for a year and you can print out anything you need. Good luck on the apartment and the move. Duchess (Barbara) |
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sonflowergurl
True Blue Farmgirl
349 Posts
Katee
Tampa 'Burbs
FL
USA
349 Posts |
Posted - Jun 12 2006 : 11:01:51 AM
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Glad you've made it to your new town, please update us and let us know if you got the apartment. Tulsa is a nice town, I have a friend from high school that I've recently reconnected with who lives there and loves it.
BTW, what did the mechanic say was wrong with your car?
Katee
The end will justify the pain it took to get us here.
"Looking Toward the Son"---- http://sonflowergirl731.blogspot.com
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CathyM
True Blue Farmgirl
344 Posts
Cathy
Tulsa
OK
USA
344 Posts |
Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 6:24:44 PM
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Hello all, Yes we did get an apartment. I am now back in PA still working and packing. I can't wait to move, the apartment is bigger than the one we are in now so it will give my daughter and I a lot more room. My daughter is getting transferred to a store in Tulsa so that will be helpful. I went around while there getting applications and already had one interview. I will also be working at home doing repairs, dressmaking, and etc. I can take my car with me so that will help. Packing is going to be a huge chore but I know we'll do it. I am also going to be selling most of my belongings at a local flea market on Tuesdays and Saturdays so that will generate money for the move. I am exhausted today, it took us 32 hours to get home from Houston. We stopped once to take a nap in Louisiana and from then on it was just driving. We did hit a traffic jam, don't ask where I don't remember, lol. My nephew and i switched off on the driving and my daughter stayed up with both of us, poor thing, she wanted to make sure we didn't get too tired while driving. We went a total of 3779 miles on this trip ( one week). My nephew also found a couple of apartments just north of Houston, TX. So all in all the trip was a success for both of us. i still need that infamous $4000 to move, yeah I know it sounds impossible, but if we sell most everything we will make it. I will keep all of you updated with our progress. Being able to take to all of you makes it much easier on me and I take in everything ya'll say. i thank each and everyone of you for being there for me at this time.
Oh and the mechanic said I need a clutch ($700) and struts ($900) for my car. Right now the clutch is doing ok and as long as I don't have to get it inspected in Tulsa I'll be fine with the struts for a while. I'm hoping to be able to get a newer car after i move. |
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