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Family Matters:  I'm going to be a grandma again!  |
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JanO
True Blue Farmgirl
53 Posts
Jan
Washington
USA
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 Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 07:33:02 AM
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A few weeks ago I posted that my DD and her hubby were trying to take legal custody of an infant girl from her drug addicted mother. Well... it's been a roller coaster ride, but all that's been sorted out and the child is with my DD. The mother signed all the paper work and they have a final court date set for Aug. to get the courts blessing. 
Anyway, last week the mother showed up at DD's house, completely unannounced but at least sober, and asked DD and SIL if they would adopt the baby outright. It didn't' take but an instant for them both to say "YES". For various reasons they are going to get the courts blessing for the guardianship in Aug. before they file the actual paperwork for the adoption, but they are fully prepared to walk out of the courtroom and file the adoption papers before they step out of the building.
I have been so worried that something was going to happen and this was all going to blow up in my DD's face. She's so in love with this baby and there's no reason to trust that the mother wouldn't try something just because. ( she threw a really big hissy fit when she found out that all her visits had to be supervised ) But now it looks like it's all going to work out. DD and SIL will have another baby girl, my other grandchildren (2 boys & 1 girl) are ecstatic about her becoming their "real" baby sister, the infant will have a good loving home & family, and I get to spoil another grand baby. They well all be here in a couple weeks for a 3 week visit, so I'll finally get to meet her.
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Redhen
Farmgirl in Training
33 Posts
Moe
Illinois
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 07:46:34 AM
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That is great news, Jan. So happy for your family! Grandchildren are the greatest joy!
....I don't believe we're in Kansas anymore.The Wizard of Oz |
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dargaonfly1054
True Blue Farmgirl
257 Posts
Georgette
Nicholville
NY
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 08:09:38 AM
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Great news!! Yeah for the baby to have a happy, normal home.
"There is a voice that doesn't use words........Listen." |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 11:06:44 AM
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hope it all works out. that is very nice.congratulations.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 11:22:13 AM
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That is very good news! How wonderful for your daughter and son-in-law.
Karin |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 12:23:33 PM
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congratulations grammie ... another little angel-pie! i have three and a fourth one on the way .. and a GREAT grand-child too! ain't life grande. i'm so very happy for all of you .. specially that little one! xo
True Friends, Frannie
My KENTUCKY RAMBLINGS 'blog':
http://cabincreekfarm-kentucky.blogspot.com/ |
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dargaonfly1054
True Blue Farmgirl
257 Posts
Georgette
Nicholville
NY
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 1:31:10 PM
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I agree with Lisa wholeheartedly.
"There is a voice that doesn't use words........Listen." |
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JanO
True Blue Farmgirl
53 Posts
Jan
Washington
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 7:48:20 PM
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Thanks everybody. We are very happy for DD and SIL. I've only seen pictures of the baby and can't wait to see her in person. It's going to be so wonderful to hold an infant again. My other grandchildren are too grown up to be coddled by grandma, according to them.
I really wish I could agree that the birth mom was doing this in a moment of clarity and out of concern for the baby. But, truth be told, the only reason she's doing this is because she thinks it'll keep welfare, DA, and any other powers that be, out of her hair. Her visitation is already strictly supervised due to her actions during this process, she's facing a potential fraud charge from welfare because she didn't report that physical custody of the child was DD and can't account for what the money was spent on. (which sure didn't go to the baby), and the biggie is that she tested positive for drugs while pregnant and the baby is showing some of the effects. According to Ca. law, where they live, she can now be charged for "child endangerment while in utro". The mother isn't aware of that yet though... the lawyer said to let them find out that tid bit of information when she get's the final court documentation. (She asked to not be called to court and be notified by mail when it's said & done.) It's sad that they couldn't do anything about her drug use BEFORE the baby was born, but they can now if they so choose.
In fact, when the baby's birth mother and grandmother found out that they are going to complete the guardianship before filing the adoption papers they tried to talk DD out of it, in favor of going straight for adoption, so there would be no further investigation into the moms lifestyle. Now, I find that disgusting. According to DD the grandmother said "I don't want my daughter to look bad". Well, I'm sorry, it's too late for that as far as I'm concerned. Although I'm so very grateful that the baby is now going to have a healthy home and be surrounded by people who will love her. That's the only thing I'll thank her for, regardless of her reasons.
It may sound harsh, but I can't feel sad for the birth mother. She's had every chance in the world to have a good life and she's thrown it away every time. She's stolen from me & my DH, lied, threatened to harm my kids, has physically harmed other members of the family, and now this. I've known her since she was a little girl, I used to baby sit her, taught her to cook & sew. Yet, a couple years ago she broke into my house and what she didn't steal she destroyed. I lost a lot of stuff that I can never replace. Things that belonged to my mother and grandmother. I'll never forgive her for that.
I'm venting and I'm sorry. It's just that when I think about it all I can't help but get angry at her. But I don't want to take from the joy of the situation, so I'll stop now.
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Jun 15 2006 : 10:15:35 PM
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How exciting for you to get a new grandbaby and for this child to have a chance at a good life. She deserves that for sure..and how lucky to have YOU for a granny..I love it!
I don't see me getting any new grandbabies anytime soon...I only wish! I have three grown sons and only one sweet granddaughter..who will be 4 next month. None of the sons are married now and only the oldest is dating someone seriously..BUT she does have two kids..so I guess I can keep my hopes up..they count, right????????
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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CathyM
True Blue Farmgirl
344 Posts
Cathy
Tulsa
OK
USA
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Posted - Jun 24 2006 : 7:36:08 PM
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Congrats on the new baby in the family. Children are wonderful and they make everyday an adventure. Keep us up to date on the August details.
Much Luck and Prayers,
Cathy |
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
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Posted - Jun 26 2006 : 11:05:06 AM
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Congratulations!
I hope all goes well and quickly. That baby will have a loving home and a chance at a happy and well adjusted life. And a great grandma too.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
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Posted - Jun 26 2006 : 11:13:42 AM
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My second granddaughter is now three months old, and my other one is 3 years old, and life has been sooooo much sweeter since they came into it. What blessings grandchildren are, and your new little one is especially blessed herself. Congrats!
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JanO
True Blue Farmgirl
53 Posts
Jan
Washington
USA
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Posted - Jun 26 2006 : 2:38:51 PM
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Thank you girls... you are all the best.
My DD, SIL and grandchildren will be here on Friday! It's been a year since I've seen the older 3 and I get to finally meet the baby too. I can't wait for them to get here.  |
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