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marmaladefarm
Farmgirl in Training
12 Posts
Heidi
Wilmington
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USA
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 Posted - Jul 11 2011 : 4:12:17 PM
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Hi Everyone!
I'm 42 and have four kids. My oldest daughter is 25 and just got married Saturday , a 22 yr old son, a nine year old daughter, and an eight year old son. I always say I have two sets, the big kids and the little kids.
I don't feel 42 is really old, but when I say I have a 25 yr old daughter, that makes me feel old! I always want to say "I was really young when I had her!"
I stay at home and homeschool my younger two kids and we love it. I'm also a huge crafter (knitter, felting, scrapbooking, beading, stitching, quilting, ETC).
We have 3 cats, two dogs and three goats on our 2 1/4 wooded acres that keep us busy.
Love this board! When I ran across MJF and then the Farmgirl connection a couple of months ago I felt like I'd been a Farmgirl for years, but just didn't know it! |
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 9:28:45 PM
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I won't be in the Club for too much longer . . . I hit the big 5-0 in December. But, I am really looking forward to it. My 40s were better than my 30s, which were more fun than my 20s. I get happier as I get older, realize that so much that I thought was important is nonsense and so many things I worried about was a waste of time and effort. So, with age has come relaxation (if not wisdom!)
Just celebrated 26 years of marriage with a 23 year old daughter. I have been married longer than I was single, which seems a bit weird. Love gardening and lots of different crafts, especially sewing and needlework.
I guess I have a few months before I have to find the 50 Club. . . maybe I'll have to start it!
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Prairie Gypsy
True Blue Farmgirl
823 Posts
Tammy
Wolford
North Dakota
USA
823 Posts |
Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 06:36:45 AM
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I think this group has been very much needed. I've envied the over 50 club so I'm really glad we have one now. I'm 45 with a birthday coming in November. I have 4 children; 25, 23, 21, and 19. The baby just graduated from HS this year. I was married for 21 years and decided I'd had enough back in 2006. Should have done it years earlier.
Now I'm engaged to a wonderful man who I thought was a city dweller that occsionally enjoyed the outdoors but found I've got a farmer in disguise to my delight. He didn't even know he was hiding a farmer until he met me LOL We put in raised beds last year for gardens and his farmer came bursting out. He was right next to me canning the whole harvest. What more could a girl ask for :O) Now we're looking to move out west with the intent to get some acreage in a couple years so we can have a "real garden" as he puts it.
Marianne - totally agree, I'm totally enjoying my 40's.
Farmgirl Sister # 2363
http://twilightburrough.blogspot.com/
Warren, MI
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missusprim
True Blue Farmgirl
400 Posts
Karen
Fostoria
Ohio
USA
400 Posts |
Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 1:37:56 PM
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Count me in! I'll be 49 this mid September.
Married nearly 5 yrs. to my forever man. Blended family with some iffy early years (DH's ex and the usual stuff you get from ex's and them turning the kids against the father) but it's settled a great deal. I have two kids ages 20 and 24. His are also 20 and 24 with his 'favorite child' of almost 16.
We live in an old 1900 farm house that's been completely restored. We're still finding out the history of it bit by bit. We've got what we think is a resident ghost we dubbed 'Clyde.' We get such a hoot out of him.
I've recently (in the last year) took up crocheting. I think you'll really enjoy it. One reason I like this rather than knitting is that you get a finished project in much less time.
I love animals yet I'm married to a meat cutter.....go figure. Am still thinking of getting chickens.
This group intrigues me as I also think we will have similar situations and can give wise advice (hey, we ARE wiser aren't we at this age?).
My DD is doing her basics at a local community college and will go on to child psych. My son, also in college, is leaning towards the medical field as a PA.
We've got 5 spoiled cats - only one who actually knows how to kill a mouse. But they're all loved equally.
I have always had this pull to be a farm girl, and would rather be outside than in getting dirty and doing things the old fashioned way. I think I was a pioneer woman in my former life!
Will be anxious to hear from fellow 40'ers!
I came back to edit/add that I DO feel my age. I spend more time looking at people older than myself and wonder if they're happy, have health issues, still married or have lost a spouse and are lonely. On the flip side, I also look at the younger crowd and wish that I could do a few things over and feel youthful as they do. Like they don't even think of getting old at this point.
Yesterday we were in Bob's (Bob Evan's) and an older gentleman (late 70's, early 80's) came in by himself and seemed so lonely as he knew so many of the waitresses on a first name basis - and they him. I couldn't help feel sorry for him as I imagined he to be a widower and lonely for company and comes in just to yak with someone.
Am wondering if I'm alone with this or if this is just part of 'getting older.' It doesn't consume my time but I sure do find myself thinking of things like this more often than I used to!
The song 'Landslide' by Stevie Nicks comes to mind and the one line that says "Well, I'm getting older too." Hmmmm.......I used to love Fleetwood Mac - they rocked!
Farmgirl Sister #2984
"Animals are such agreeable friends - they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms." George Eliot
http://farmchicatheart.blogspot.com/
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Turtlemoon
Farmgirl Legend Schoolmarm
378 Posts
Tanya
Port Orchard
Washington
USA
378 Posts |
Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 3:54:55 PM
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Karen, love your big family! And envy the old farmhouse! How cool to be able to search the history. My uncle has an old farmhouse like that in northern NH that we lived in with them for a few years while growing up. I loved learning the history. My hubby and i are so different in some ways... i love the old, he loves the new...i'm all about organic, he believes preservatives will make you live longer... definately a country vs city mouse marriage! lol, but ove rthe last 20 years i have slowly been converting him.
I agree with you on the older folks i see in town. i do natural nail care/pedi's etc in folks homes for them and more and more of my clients are over the age of 60 now on up to 96. I love them! Many are widowers, as are a few of my neighbors. I find i tend to leave them goodies on their stoops, freshly baked breads, boxes of veggies from the garden, etc. They always love to come visit and say thanks. I can't imagine being on my own at the older age.Gotta look out for those around us! :)
Raggedy Ann stuck in a Barbie Doll World
FarmGirl#1737
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missusprim
True Blue Farmgirl
400 Posts
Karen
Fostoria
Ohio
USA
400 Posts |
Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 07:04:30 AM
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Tanya, yes - if only the walls could talk. On our moving in day a local farmer was plowing the field next door. Before we knew it she turned off the tractor and was making her way over. Come to find out she and her family had lived in this house many years when her kids were younger. She talked about how she'd decorate the stairs with pine bough at Christmas, etc. and how much the inside had changed over the years. Also, several months ago we had an older couple stop in to ask if they could take a picture of the house. She lived in the house as a child and explained that she and her husband were compiling pictures of all the houses they'd live in through the years (both before and after their marriage) for their kids. She'd seen where it'd been repainted and naturally wanted a 'nice' picture. Of course, we didn't mind and invited them back if they ever wanted to see the interior.
You are so right when you say that we have to take care of our older folks. I work with the public and very often give special discounts for elderly people that I don't really need to (or shouldn't) do. But I do anyway as they're such kind hearted, genuine people and we never know how long we have them with us. I know they're on a fixed income and I feel good about helping them in any way that I can - especially if they appear to not have two nickels to rub together.
Farmgirl Sister #2984
"Animals are such agreeable friends - they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms." George Eliot
http://farmchicatheart.blogspot.com/
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sammyann
Farmgirl in Training
16 Posts
Samantha
Freeport
Michigan
USA
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Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 2:40:57 PM
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Hi Tanya, I turned 40 in February. Since then I have been doing some soul searching to decide what I want to do when I grow up. hehe. Since I was a little girl, I have always wanted a farm. My husband, not so much.
However, I had children later so my oldest is 6 and my youngest is 4.
I am new to this site, (just signed up this week, but I am all for the 40ish group. :) I live in Michigan on 55 acers that we currently don't do anything with. (hoping to change that).
My husband and I have been Married for 16 years, we have 2 dogs (a black lab and a bernise mountain dog), and 1 cat. I had chickens, and will again soon, I think.
Thanks Ladies Hope to be able to talk soon |
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upnorthgirl
Farmgirl in Training
35 Posts
Sharon
St. Germain
WI
USA
35 Posts |
Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 6:59:01 PM
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Hi Tanya, I am 48, but feel like I am still in my 20's!! I too live on a lake, but fortunately have enough acrage to afford me the privilage of having a horse too, We are raising our 4 y/o grandson while our daughter tries to figure out which direction she is going (would not change this for the world!!) I love my vegetable garden, and would like to have some chickens in the future (if I can convince my husband this would be a good thing!!) As I contemplate turning 50 in a few years, I am very satisfied to be where I am today. Being in my 40's is a very satisfying age to be in. Brightest Blessings!!
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Turtlemoon
Farmgirl Legend Schoolmarm
378 Posts
Tanya
Port Orchard
Washington
USA
378 Posts |
Posted - Jul 20 2011 : 11:51:28 AM
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Loving our happy and satisfied 40ish farmgirls!
Raggedy Ann stuck in a Barbie Doll World
FarmGirl#1737
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plainandsimple72
Farmgirl at Heart
6 Posts
Lisa
Upper Midwest
USA
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Posted - Jul 20 2011 : 5:22:32 PM
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Hi there..
I just turned 39 last month.Already had my first Mammogram and going back tomorrow for a follow up ultrasound..No history of Breast
Cancer in the family:) They told me it normal for the first one..
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mountaingirl
Farmgirl in Training
22 Posts
Jennifer
Conifer
CO
USA
22 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2011 : 06:32:19 AM
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| Hi Everyone! I'm 42 and a mom of two daughters, 19 and 14. My oldest daughter is starting her second year of college and I homeschool my youngest and I'm also the administrator for a small church in our town. I've been married for 23 years to the most wonderful man on the planet. The recession got to us and he was laid off twice and went to work for a third company who went bankrupt all within the last four years (he was in the financial industry). In order to keep food on the table and keep health insurance for us he took a job at McMurdo Station in Antarctica in February and will be home in October. I miss him desperately but what I've learned in his absense is that I'm stronger and more capable than I thought!! Anyway, having this forum to look through and dream about in his absence has been a God-send, so thank you all for being here - you don't know the impact you've had on my life and spirit just by my being able to read about all of the "farmgirl" stuff and dream of creating my own small farm someday. Right now we live in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains in Colorado so my "farm" consists of two dogs, the visiting bears, elk, deer and cougar and a small planter on my back deck. |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2011 : 09:21:29 AM
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Hi girls- I'm Lori 45 years old- mother to 3 wonderful daughters 24, 20, 14 and my little boy dachshund Jack who is almost 4 yrs old. I'm happy to keep adding the years to my life!! Sometimes I forget how old, but then the girls at work will check the computer and remind me,,I know I've celebrating a couple years twice :)
so many of you have done so much, I'm still trying to get there! |
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jclambert
True Blue Farmgirl
149 Posts
Judy
Stringtown
Oklahoma
USA
149 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2011 : 12:33:17 PM
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Hi! I'm 48 and live on a ranch with my hubby of 11 years. Lori, I forget how old I am too. Sometimes I look in the mirror and wonder who that person with so much gray hair is. I can't think of anything I would change though. I love staying active and learning new things. Good to see all the posts from the other 40's ladies.
Judy
"Courage is when you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what". Atticus Finch - To Kill a Mockingbird |
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Bushel n Peck
True Blue Farmgirl
251 Posts
Tracy
Truly
MT
USA
251 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2011 : 1:14:17 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by plainandsimple72
Hi there..
I just turned 39 last month.Already had my first Mammogram and going back tomorrow for a follow up ultrasound..No history of Breast
Cancer in the family:) They told me it normal for the first one..
I think for all first mammograms, the medical staff should throw you a little party! A flower, a cupcake, a balloon,... something! I dreaded going in for my first one, I just did not know what to expect comfort-wise.
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.
C. S. Lewis
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Bushel n Peck
True Blue Farmgirl
251 Posts
Tracy
Truly
MT
USA
251 Posts |
Posted - Jul 21 2011 : 1:15:35 PM
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Oh, by the way, I want to be in this group too!
My 41st birthday is in August!
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.
C. S. Lewis
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StrawHouseRanch
True Blue Farmgirl
1044 Posts
Paula
Holt
Missouri
USA
1044 Posts |
Posted - Jul 22 2011 : 06:50:49 AM
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My place of work offers an annual mobile mammogram screening. They wheel in the machine to an empty office and you just get up from your desk at your appointment time, go in for the exam and you are done and back at your desk in 15 to 20 minutes!! The nurses that come in with the unit are so nice, and make it such a simple process. I've been getting an annual for the last 6 years this way.
Paula
Farmgirl Sister #3090
A Beehive is the ultimate Home Sweet Home
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Turtlemoon
Farmgirl Legend Schoolmarm
378 Posts
Tanya
Port Orchard
Washington
USA
378 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2011 : 9:17:21 PM
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lol, Tracy i so agree! Talk about a slightly , well.... humiliating experience~ ! I had my first one at 34... no history that i know of (not familiar with dads side too much) but i was drinking way too much coffee and they became very fiberous. I was supposed to go get another last dec... lol, thanks (not) for the reminder! :)
Raggedy Ann stuck in a Barbie Doll World
FarmGirl#1737
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Acowgirlspirit
Farmgirl in Training
28 Posts
Sue
Lecompte
LA
USA
28 Posts |
Posted - Jul 25 2011 : 2:15:46 PM
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I guess I have a few more months in this category! 49, to be 50 in March. Yikes! Where did the time go? I love my age now, and would not go back! I had a hard time at 25, but I was in a crummy marriage. So, here we are that many years later, loving my hubby and loving life! Cheers to getting older, we can't stop it no matter what!
www.triplenickelranch.com
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mamafer
Farmgirl at Heart
2 Posts
Jenn
Austin
Texas
USA
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Posted - Jul 25 2011 : 7:03:48 PM
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A big hello to everyone. I am new to Maryjane's (1st post). I recently turned 39. Being my last year in my 30's caused me to pause for thought the other day considering whether or not I felt old. I reflected on the fact that 20 years ago I thought people that were pushing 40 were old and had lost a zest for life and any aspirations they might have reached no farther than their lazy-boy and remote control. I can happily admit that I was shallow and uninformed. By the way... I don't feel old.
From the time I was very young I knew I was destined to be a stay at home mom and have always "dreamed" of the idyllic country life... garden, chickens, pitter patter of feet, screen door slamming, smell of fresh baked bread. Being a city girl I thought it would never be more than a dream or nagging in the back of my head (and heart). While searching for a simpler life we sold the house, moved the 4 kids into an RV (serious downsizing). After a year in RV parks we knew that wasn't any different than city life and leased 2 acres just outside of town. I finally have my chickens (46) and garden but it has only whetted my appetite for a farm. We are now socking money away for our own little piece of paradise.
I do all sorts of crafting (except knitting... I'm way too tense with sharp sticks in my hands and get a literal pain in the neck). I absolutely love to make aprons, I get this euphoric feeling of bliss. Most of all I love being a mom, I have 2 daughters 20 and 10 and 2 sons 12 and 6.
I am so glad to find so many like minded farmgirls out there. It's just a welcome relief, there's only so many spa days with my city girlfriends I can turn down before they start complaining. It will be nice to talk to others who understand how I feel and don't look at me like I'm crazy because my chickens have names.
Anyway, enough babbling for now.
Jenn
Raising 4 barefoot babes on Chicken'Leaf' Farm... Home-Heart-Happiness-Homeschool |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
2313 Posts |
Posted - Jul 26 2011 : 09:44:24 AM
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| Well ladies... I'm going to bat for the mammo's, I skipped a year..thought it would be my b-day gift to myself..ha did that backfire. This January I went for my routine mammo and they found a lump the size of a golf ball, tried to remove to biopsy and couldn't ended up in surgery to have it removed and a almost 6 inch scar. Praise God above it was benign. I had about 10 mammos and one ultrasound and a few other tests within a 1 1/2 week period. I won't ever skip another one..I hope no one else will either!! |
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Turtlemoon
Farmgirl Legend Schoolmarm
378 Posts
Tanya
Port Orchard
Washington
USA
378 Posts |
Posted - Jul 26 2011 : 1:25:23 PM
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jenn, that was quite brave and an adventure of your family, sounds like things are coming together though!
lori, ouch! A good reminder to us all though, glad you are ok!
Raggedy Ann stuck in a Barbie Doll World
FarmGirl#1737
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tea_lady_tammy
True Blue Farmgirl
1485 Posts
Tammy
NE
USA
1485 Posts |
Posted - Jul 31 2011 : 3:49:42 PM
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Hi girls,
I am going to be turning 46 in November. I have been married for 20 years and am mom to twin boys who just turned 15. I decided since I have been in my 40's I became more adventurous. I learned to quilt and now love cooking and gardening with herbs. I was raised a Texas girl and will always be one in heart although I live in Nebraska now. My dear hubby gives me a hard time about all my "ya'll's". I love afternoon tea, reading, and journaling and I am a teacher at a Christian school that I just love. I am so glad I found this thread. I generally sit over at the porch and someone said there was a 50's thread so I thought well maybe there is a 40's thread and here yall be.
Blessings
Tammy
Tea is like being in the stars with God.
Visit my blog~The View From Within
http://frommyteacup.blogspot.com
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Bushel n Peck
True Blue Farmgirl
251 Posts
Tracy
Truly
MT
USA
251 Posts |
Posted - Jul 31 2011 : 5:29:21 PM
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Hi Tammy!
I married a Southern gentleman so I love the "Y'all" and requests for sweet tea and sammiches!
I look forward to hearing from y'all!
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.
C. S. Lewis
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Bushel n Peck
True Blue Farmgirl
251 Posts
Tracy
Truly
MT
USA
251 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2011 : 3:57:46 PM
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Ladies,
I posted this on the front porch, but I know others would enjoyit here too!...ya might want to swallow your drink before you read it!
Buttprints in the Sand
One night I had a wondrous dream,
One set of footprints there was seen,
The footprints of my precious Lord,
But mine were not along the shore.
But then some strange prints appeared,
And I asked the Lord, "What have we here?"
Those prints are large and round and neat,
"But Lord, they are too big for feet."
"My child," He said in somber tones,
"For miles I carried you along.
I challenged you to walk in faith,
But you refused and made me wait."
"You disobeyed, you would not grow,
The walk of faith, you would not know,
So I got tired, I got fed up,
And there I dropped you on your butt."
"Because in life, there comes a time,
When one must fight, and one must climb,
When one must rise and take a stand,
Or leave their butt prints in the sand."
-- author unknown
my blog: http://bushelnpeck.blogspot.com
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.
C. S. Lewis
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Roseann
Farmgirl in Training
17 Posts
Roseann
Pittsgrove
NJ
USA
17 Posts |
Posted - Aug 08 2011 : 5:22:00 PM
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Ahhhhh the 40's....I never thought I would ACTUALLY be that one day...LOL I just turned 41 in June. I retired from one of my jobs and kept my stay at home job about 2 years ago. So I am semi retired and LOVE it. We live on 5 acres in the woods and I love that I can hang my laundry outside in a t-shirt and underwear...LOL I am the mother to 19 year old twins who are entering college this fall. Just when I thought my life was getting easier I am now faced with the tough job of helping my girls transition into "the real world". With bigger kids comes bigger lessons...I am learning.
I crochet, alot. I mostly stick to smallish things like dishcloths, hats, baby hats, scarves and other various small items. I have a short tension span and need that instant gratification when I finish another project. I do not like to give my crochet goods away to often.....I think it's part of my OCD. I have a gazillion dish/wash cloths right now all neatly stacked up in zip-lock baggies. I like to look at them every so often and just smile =) hehehe. Once a year at Christmas I do, however, give some of those things away as gifts. I do donate hats to the local hospital for the babies, so I am not completely stingy.
I make cold processed soap, shampoo, conditioner and other various body shop type items.
I am growing my very first garden this year and now have started canning some of the things from it. What a sense of accomplishment!
I recently had my husband construct me a gigantic clothes line and I have unplugged the clothes dryer. This has sent my said 19 year olds into a tail spin, Hang laundry? what is that? LOL They're learin'
Anyhow....I could go on and on but I really must say I am HAPPY to find so many sisters of "like mind" right here in one place. |
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